Am grouchy, irritable, and no fun to be around...suggestions please

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Hello.

I’ve been really busy lately, and I’m turning into an old grouch. My husband says the most innocuous things and I growl at him. My doggies’s sweaters are never the right color. I look funny. People irritate me just because they’re there. I want to go and sit in the corner under a large piece of furniture, bring a picnic with me and not come out for a week. It feels like all my assignments are due, now, even though they’re not. Everyone I meet looks old. I wish children would go away. I don’t know what I need, I just don’t want to explode and become any more unpleasant that I am, though no one so far has complained - they just laugh at me.

Constructive, charitable suggestions are welcomed.
 
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Do you have a lot on your plate right now? Getting enough sleep, or maybe too much? Taking exercise? You sound like I did last summer when I was burning the candle at both ends, working night shift and sleeping 4 hours a day and staying up for 30 hours on my days off (spoiler alert, I had a serious breakdown in October).

Sometimes we have to take time out for ourselves. I like a good haircut with the works and lunch by myself at my favorite bar. Or a good long walk in the woods with one or two pipes. Everyone has to decompress and step back from the madness of our modern lives.
 
I hope that soon you can laugh with those who laugh at you.
The way you express yourself does exhibit a wry sense of humor.
Humor is a great start!

Too much work, not long enough or not sufficiently restful sleep?
Maybe nutrition balance is a bit off at present?
Please take good care of yourself.

KInd wishes and a prayer

(As I recall you used to have a profile image of a paper bag over your head in the old forum. If you replace it you won’t see the old people of the children.
However, I think that it was a step in the right direction to remove the paper bag from your head…)
 
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This is good advice.
Make sure you get enough sleep and are praying enough. And enough food and water.
 
Try to complete one task well. Sometimes achievement, no matter how small, can be the answer to our gloom. Then move on to the next. Enjoy your life. It is for you to make out of.

When I do my chores, like going out in my car to do something outside, I would try to make the best out of it, say doing more than one thing in a trip. Once achieved, I would count how fruitful my trip was. It often helps to give a sense of doing something fruitful which can lead to a feeling of gratefulness.

God bless.
 
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Pray. Been there lately. Pray. It’s the last thing we want to do and the first thing we should do. We try to think our way out of it, or fix it somehow, or ignore whatever’s bugging us, but nothing works; the internal dialogue, in fact, is the source of the problem. There, is where we should pray. And rarely will anything happen immediately, but it will soon, like the next morning or whenever-we usually see it in hindsight. We can’t fix ourselves, and 90% of the stuff that eats at us is nonsense, so there’s nothing to fix anyway. Pray.
 
Interesting. The picnic idea does not sound too bad.

I would jump down a rabbit hole myself. It seems more feasible and you could stay as long as you wanted and no one would miss you because it would be exactly the same time you left as when you entered.
 
Whenever I’m down in the dumps I take a good long hard look around me in my town. I don’t ever have to look far to find people who have it worse than me. Sometimes that gives me a selfish little boost - I guess I don’t have it so bad.

My next piece of advice is do stuff. Work. Help people. (Not that you don’t already, you might!) When I get idle, I get in foul moods. Something manuel puts me in better spirits. It gives me something to do. Even if it’s helping out at the soup kitchen, or going to the gym, or cleaning house. I get moving doing something I can quantify and track my progress.
 
When I’m out of sorts I find playing humorous music very good,in the car, and sing.
There’s something about forcing yourself to smile on your own,even if you don’t feel like it …your emotions catch up with the expression.
Taking extreamly rediculous selfies ,using an ap is helpful as is dancing in the kitchen alone .
 
Honestly, my moods can be biological a lot. Maybe this is true for you, so some things aren’t going to make an impact on your mood very much, I would say.

Could it be hormones or something else biological? Maybe look at food, exercise, sleep, and other potential stressors that could be triggering your “I want to kill a smurf” disposition.
 
When I’m a bit out of sorts I try and learn something new. It usually is something that others can do and I never tried but always wanted to do. Sometimes I have to force myself, but then I get involved.

Another thing would be Thanking God daily for my blessings,It seems that showing gratitude to God helps when I am feeling overwhelmed and blue and it’s a beautiful thing🌸
 
When my husband and I are feeling as you describe OP, one of us will turn the tv on and set the channel to watche a show that we have found is guaranteed to make us laugh. It never fails to get us laughing, and laughing is known to make people feel better. So put on something that makes you laugh, whatever that is, and feel better! 😊
 
Sleep, diet and water are the first things you should look at. Are you taking a vitamin? If not you might start. It will take a few days to a week to “kick in” if that’s the problem.

Try to take a quick walk outside everyday for a few days. 20 minutes is enough if that’s all you can manage. The fresh air and mental break is good for everyone.

Maybe you do need a break. Take the afternoon or day and go do something different by yourself. (I won’t say fun, because I am sure nothing sounds fun.)

If none of that works, you might get a check up just to make sure everything is okay.
 
Grrrrrrr… for health reasons I can no longer drink coffee. But I feel so much better after reading these posts. Thank you. Really lifted my spirits.
 
I feel like that sometimes. It helps to recognize it, and look at it those feelings from the outside, knowing they will pass. Also, I try to really notice when I feel good, and savour those feelings.

Glad to hear you took the paper bag off. How about replacing it with something you really like, doggies? flowers? landscapes?
 
If the change has been enough for you to notice, then others have too, no doubt. It might be worth an appointment to speak with a physician about it and explore whether there is a medical reason. If there is, then there is no point in living miserably.
 
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