Anxiety and loneliness

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I am 17 (almost) and don’t really talk to people because it males me anxious. Sometimes, people think I don’t like them, even though I have nothing against them, I’m just really intimidated and if I form social bonds I tend to get stressed out. Sometimes, if someone says hi to me in a hall I pretend I don’t know who it is because I’m afraid they are talking to someone else, and it’ll be awkward. Since people’s feelings are hurt, does that mean I shouldn’t do this? Further, since I have no friends at my school or church (my closest and only friend lives 50 miles away and I can’t drive, and she doesn’t like me much) I often feel lonely, and when I do, I don’t usually turn to God but rather just stare out into space trying not to cry; sometimes on Fridays, I’ll do this for an hour or two. When I get this way I try to write poetry but I can’t because I don’t have the motivation and it just feels do hard to get up to grab a piece of paper or even to think.

The last time I had any meaningful conversation with someone, I ended up liking her and tried to talk to her later, but instead kept walking past her and deciding to not talk to her. I’m pretty sure she thinks I am creepy now, as she glares at me often. I just put my head down and to the right whenever I see her because I feel guilty and scared. Is it wrong that I kept intentionally walking past someone because I’m too much of a coward to speak to people? I feel like it is just sad that I am 17 and can’t even talk to people in person.

Also, I feel like everyone at my RCIA who has talked to me hates me, except this one dude, and one of our priests. However, I have no other RCIA program nearby but I don’t like going there. What should I do?
 
I think that you should seek professional help. It sounds like you have anxiety that keeps you from interacting with people. Please get help. Talk to your parents and let them know how it is affecting your life. You can be helped and taught ways to deal with your feelings.
 
No you’re not crazy.
The. suggestion that you seek counseling is because you are unhappy and lonely in your social anxiety.
It could help if someone wise and trained could help you to find the cause of your social anxiety, and how to manage or overcome it.

Kind wishes and prayers
 
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No, anxiety is not insanity. Please, do get help. It will change your life for the better! 🙂
 
Last time I tried, my parents just said I wanted attention
 
Sometimes it can be hard for people to understand another person’s private difficulties.
You must feel very alone sometimes.
I don’t believe you’re seeking attention in wanting help to have a more positive view of yourself, and to have a more confident and friendly way to relate to others.
It’s hard to know how to help you from a distance, but you do need to be kinder in your attitude to yourself, which could help you to be more friendly to others.

I’ll be praying for you that you can find your way to a happier life, better self-esteem, and to stop sabotaging yourself in your relationship with other people.

May God bless you in all things
 
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Your parents are not you. You are created out of love for God and God wants you to be happy and totally happy with him in eternity. He has a plan for your life. Counseling is not for your parents, its for you. Pray to find not any counselor but one who is moral and believes in God. Your life is for God and others but somehow you are centered on your own feelings etc. Please seek out counseling and you might find it right in your own school…Hoping you move on it fast. prayers and peace
 
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