Any good resources on evangelizing my lukewarm family members?

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I would like to approach my lukewarm or disenfranchised family members about a stronger commitment to the faith without pushing them away. My brother and sister are both very lukewarm, and my extended family has largely apostatized, which is of course very depressing to me. I am just wondering if anyone has any good resources for bringing them back without making bad impressions on them. Thanks
 
That question comes up every once in a while here. Evangelizing to family is one thread from 2012. How do you evangelize to your family is another from 2014. Catholic Answers has an audio piece by Steven Ray available called Six Rules for Evangelizing Family.

I’m the last practicing Catholic in my family so I’ve kept my ears and eyes open for discussions like this. I’ve opted to stick to the basics: Pray and fast for them. Live a joyful Catholic life (role modeling). If they ask why I’m happy or why I’m at peace, respond with my Catholic faith being the source of my joy.

I’ve come to accept and respect that each person is on their own journey. The timing for when they come around, if they come around, is out of my control and in that of the Holy Spirit. I work on my relationship with the Trinity, do what I can (pray, fast, live) and leave the rest to Him.
 
Get Scott Hahns book Rome Sweet Home and leave it lying around.
 
Grave errors aiming at undermining religion, the moral order and human society are rampant. [Therefore], the Council earnestly exhorts the laity to take a more active part, each according to his talents and knowledge, and in fidelity to the mind of the Church, in the explanation and defense of Christian principles and in the correct application of them to the problems of our times (II, 6).
Second Vatican Council
Decree on the Apostolate of the Lay People
What needs to be stressed is the serious obligation we have to evangelize and catechize. We have no option about evangelizing those who have not yet been baptized, and no choice about catechizing those who are perhaps nominal Christians or Catholics but do not understand their faith.

No one gets to heaven alone. Either we help others reach heaven with us, or we shall not get there ourselves.

If we Catholics are to bring our contemporaries to Christ, or back to Christ, or closer to Christ, we must ourselves become knowledgeable about Christ and the wisdom that He wants us to share with others.

Lord Jesus Christ grant to all your servants the grace of being fully united with you in your Church. Grant in your mercy that the people of our land may be converted to you, and humbly and lovingly serve you. We ask this, O Savior, through the intercession of your Immaculate Mother, the patroness and protector of our country. Amen.
 
Best ways have been mentioned. Prayer for them, living as an example of the faith (particularly during difficulties), and bringing faith into the conversation if it would naturally fit.

I’ll add not allowing them to be disrespectful towards the faith in your home.
 
What needs to be stressed is the serious obligation we have to evangelize and catechize. We have no option about evangelizing those who have not yet been baptized, and no choice about catechizing those who are perhaps nominal Christians or Catholics but do not understand their faith.

No one gets to heaven alone. Either we help others reach heaven with us, or we shall not get there ourselves.

If we Catholics are to bring our contemporaries to Christ, or back to Christ, or closer to Christ, we must ourselves become knowledgeable about Christ and the wisdom that He wants us to share with others.

Lord Jesus Christ grant to all your servants the grace of being fully united with you in your Church. Grant in your mercy that the people of our land may be converted to you, and humbly and lovingly serve you. We ask this, O Savior, through the intercession of your Immaculate Mother, the patroness and protector of our country. Amen.
What I gather from Pope Francis and other new evangelization speakers, we aren’t necessarily obliged to go out seeking evangelization moments. Instead, the directive is more about opening our eyes and ears to opportunities which the Holy Spirit presents to us in our everyday routines. We have been dismissing those, hiding from them (the light under the bushel). We can no longer shy away from those but prepare ourselves to be at the ready to respond with the grace of the Holy Spirit.

Yes, there’s a serious obligation. No, it doesn’t mean we are obliged to study to become apologists. We are each granted gifts from the Spirit. Some will be suited to go door to door, others will be suited to evangelize through the usual kiddie carpool scene, others in their workplaces, still others through social media with family and friends. The key is to answer questions genuinely from the heart in light of our faith. We are obliged to develop our personal relationship with Jesus so that we will be at the ready.
 
Whether or not we are obligated by the Church, I feel morally obligated as a Christian to reach out to poor sinners because their eternal souls are at stake. I have faith and trust like Mary that God can use us not only to catechize but to evangelize and even convert souls to Himself.

PROSELYTIZE. Originally to convert someone from one religion to another, either by bringing a person to full acceptance of the new faith and ritual or at least sympathy with it. The more common meaning, however, is to induce people to change their religious affiliation by using unfair and even unscrupulous means.
(I believe this to be the wrong approach.)

APOLOGETICS. The science that aims to explain and justify religious doctrine. It shows the reasonableness of such doctrine in the face of the objections offered by those who refuse to accept any religion, especially Christianity and more particularly Roman Catholicism. Also called fundamental theology as the science that establishes the credibility of Christian revelation on the evidence of miraculous phenomena and the testimony of unbiased history.

EVANGELIZE. In general, to preach the Good News, as lived and taught by Jesus Christ. More specifically it means bringing the Christian revelation to persons and cultures to whom the Gospel has not yet been effectively proclaimed.
EVANGELISM. Zealous preaching of the Gospel, commonly applied to persons or religious bodies that are dedicated to converting people to Christ. The term has this basic meaning of an outspoken proclamation of the Christian message, but it is also used in a negative sense by critics of an aggressive promotion of Christianity.
EVANGELICAL OBEDIENCE. The voluntary submission of oneself to obey legitimate ecclesiastical authority beyond the demands of obedience prescribed on all the faithful. It is the free surrender of one’s autonomy, according to the Church’s directives, in order to better imitate Christ, and to co-operate with him in his work of redemption, who became obedient until death, even to death on the Cross. This obedience of counsel may be given stability by a vow of obedience made to a superior in an institute of perfection or to one’s confessor or spiritual director.
EVANGELIZATION. Zealous proclamation of the Gospel in order to bring others to Christ and his Church. In the words of Pope Paul VI, “Evangelizing means to bring the Good News into all the strata of humanity, and through its influence transforming humanity from within and making it new, ‘Now I am making the whole of creation new’ (Revelation 21:5). But there is no new humanity if there are not first of all new persons renewed by baptism, and by lives lived according to the Gospel” (Evangelic Nuntiandi, 18). Evangelization, therefore, includes three distinctive elements: 1. interior conversion to Christ and his Church; 2. affecting not only the individual person but the whole culture; and 3. as a result, changing this culture and its institutions to make them Christian and Catholic.

CATECHESIS. That form of ecclesiastical action that leads both communities and individual members of the faithful to maturity of faith. Because of varied circumstances and multiple needs, catechetical activity takes on various forms.

In regions that have been Catholic from past ages, catechesis most often takes the form of religious instruction given to children and adolescents in schools or outside a school atmosphere. Also found in those regions are various catechetical programs for adults, whether in preparation for baptism or reception into the Church, or to deepen one’s understanding of the faith. Sometimes the actual condition of the faithful demands that some form of evangelization of the baptized precede catechesis.

In churches that have been established recently, special importance is placed on evangelizing in the strict sense. This becomes the well-known catechumenate for those who are being introduced to the faith in preparation for baptism.

For individuals whose minds are open to the message of the Gospel, catechesis is an apt means to understand God’s plan in their own lives and in the lives of others. Having come to know this divine plan, they can more effectively co-operate with God’s grace and become better instruments for the extension of Christ’s kingdom.

O Queen of peace, pray for us, and grant peace unto the world in the truth, the justice, and the charity of Christ. Above all, give us peace in our hearts, so that the kingdom of God may spread its borders in the tranquillity of order. Accord thy protection to unbelievers and to all those who lie within the shadow of death; cause the Sun of Truth to rise upon them; may they be enabled to join with us in repeating before the Savior of the world:
“Glory to God in the highest, and on earth peace to men of good will.” Amen.
 
12 Promises of Our Lord to St. Margaret Mary for Souls Devoted to His Sacred Heart
  1. “Sinners shall find in my Heart the source and the infinite ocean of mercy.”
 
This evangomercial from CatholicsComeHome may help:
How can I help loved ones return home:

“Always be prepared to make a defense to anyone who calls you to account for the hope that is in you, yet do it with gentleness and reverence…” 1 Peter 3:15

Remember: It’s the HOPE that is in in us that we are defending…live that hope, share it freely but reverently. Don’t be intimidated by not knowing Catholic apologetics and such. Live in the Lord and share the joy that brings to your life. That should be easy enough for each of us.
 
I would like to approach my lukewarm or disenfranchised family members about a stronger commitment to the faith without pushing them away. My brother and sister are both very lukewarm, and my extended family has largely apostatized, which is of course very depressing to me. I am just wondering if anyone has any good resources for bringing them back without making bad impressions on them. Thanks
Just curious…
Let’s say you have an ‘elderly’ coworker who is obviously an athiest because you’ve heard her blaspheme the Holy Trinity. She’s in serious need of salvation before she kicks the bucket. How do you go about evangelizing her?
Just subtly set a good example? Ignore the person’s lack of faith and mind your own business? Pray for intercession? Risk confronting her about your concern for her eternal soul? Or some, or none, or all of the above?

The same with non-Catholics or luke warm Catholics…

And what about the hundreds of other people and strangers we come across everyday in our lives who it is obvious they are not just having a bad day but you know are just lost and have no clue where they’re headed with their behavior. It can be very sad. Their Guardian Angels must be quite frustrated because they can’t seem to accomplish the work God demands from them.

To me it seems like an urgent proposition. Something could happen to them in a blink of an eye. And the Faith journey can be a long process for some. How can we just sit back and just watch the world go by? Seems to me there are many good well intentioned Christians just waiting to share their Faith. But is it not selfish to be withdrawn and silent about it? I don’t know why so many are so hesitant about talking about their Faith. The excuse that it’s a ‘hot topic’ for discussion doesn’t make sense. Our Creator owns us. Through Jesus He gives us the key to come back home to Him. But it’s more than just belief in Jesus. All the demons in hell know He’s God. Jesus commands obedience to His will to find His mercy then we have to persevere in His grace unto death for salvation. If we are to really love our brothers and sisters it’s not going to happen without sharing our Hope and Faith because that’s where real love comes from, God who ‘is’ Love.
We shouldn’t be intimidated by others who refuse to talk about religion hoping we will just shut up. If we give in to that then the devil wins.
How can we preach without being pushy and insensitive?
Should we wait to be approached about our Faith?
Any ideas/methods?
How about something like insisting someone come to just one Mass with us?
 
Good example.

My additional example is this: how do you evangelize a person who you might, at maximum, spend 10 minutes with?

In both cases, the whole approach of " Keep Your Lips Sealed and “Show” by Your Behavior that You are Christian" simply fails.
 
Christians are called to be martyrs (not just witnesses) for Christ.

Like the disciples, we must continually empty ourselves to make room for the Holy Spirit to fill us up with His gifts to spread the Gospel.

Today’s column by Father Rutler is about the Lord preparing His followers for the times ahead and how the persecution of His followers in our time is being met with indifference.

The Risen Lord spent forty days structuring his Church and training his disciples for the work ahead of them. We may infer some of what he told them by what is recorded in the Gospel narratives and the apostolic letters. The Hebrew prophets had been part of the Resurrection drama, preparing the way even though they did not understand how their inspiration would be realized. Years after the Resurrection, Saint Peter would write of these prophets:
“The Spirit of Christ which was in them foretold the sufferings of Christ and the glories that would come after them, and they tried to find out at what time and in what circumstances all this was to be expected. It was revealed to them that the news they brought of all the things which have now been announced to you, by those who preached to you the Good News through the Holy Spirit sent from heaven, was for you and not for themselves. Even the angels long to catch a glimpse of these things.” (1 Peter 1:11-12)
The neat symmetry of God’s plan for his Church is glimpsed even in the way the Lord’s burial cloths were found meticulously folded in the empty tomb. “God is in the details,” and nothing is disordered in the way Christ orders events. He predicted the trials his Church would face in every age. There are those who find this so unnerving that they would ignore it.
One example is the way much of the “social media” and numerous political leaders downplay the persecution of Christians in many places today—and this also includes attempts to intimidate Christian witness in our own country. Recently, people foolishly (and some agitators by cynical calculation) were obsessed with what turned out to be false journalism about mayhem and raping in universities. Others, from congressmen to basketball players, spent weeks waving their raised arms in empathy with a shooting incident whose reported details proved to have been bogus. Yet there is an embarrassed silence about Christians being crucified, beheaded, stoned and shot in country after country.
At the papal ceremonies on Good Friday, the Holy Father’s preacher, Father Raniero Cantalamessa, lamented that the slaughter of Christians is taking place before “the indifference of world institutions.” He compared this with the third-century martyrs during the reign of Decius and said that those who affect indifference today “risk being Pilates who wash our hands.”
The motives of those who do not want to face the reality of the present persecutions may vary, and some may be more slothful than malicious. But the saints draw strength from knowing that the Lord knew all that would happen and promised joy for those who look to him and do not look away: “The hour is coming when whoever kills you will think he is offering service to God” (John 16:2).
 
Divine Mercy Novena

Ninth Day

“Today bring to Me The Souls Who Have Become Lukewarm and immerse them in the abyss of My mercy. These souls wound My Heart most painfully. My soul suffered the most dreadful loathing in the Garden of Olives because of lukewarm souls. They were the reason I cried out: ‘Father, take this cup away from Me, if it be Your will.’ For them the last hope of salvation is to run to My mercy.”

Most Compassionate Jesus, You are Compassion Itself. I bring lukewarm souls into the abode of Your Most Compassionate Heart. In this fire of Your pure love let these tepid souls, who, like corpses, filled You with such deep loathing, be once again set aflame. O Most Compassionate Jesus, exercise the omnipotence of Your mercy and draw them into the very ardor of Your love; and bestow upon them the gift of holy love, for nothing is beyond Your power.

Eternal Father, turn Your merciful gaze upon lukewarm souls who are nonetheless enfolded in the Most Compassionate Heart of Jesus. Father of Mercy, I beg You by the bitter Passion of Your Son and by His three-hour agony on the Cross: let them, too, glorify the abyss of Your mercy. Amen
 
I would like to approach my lukewarm or disenfranchised family members about a stronger commitment to the faith without pushing them away. My brother and sister are both very lukewarm, and my extended family has largely apostatized, which is of course very depressing to me. I am just wondering if anyone has any good resources for bringing them back without making bad impressions on them. Thanks
One way is to use the Green Scapular or the Miraculous Medal.

The green scapular was given by Mary for the precise purpose of giving the faith, or increasing the faith.
It was Mary’s own personal promise for those who use it right. Can’t get better than that.

The conditions are:
Say this prayer each and every day for the person of your intention, “Immaculate Heart of Mary, pray for us now and at the hour of our death.”
Have it blessed.
Put it around them somewhere, like behind a picture, under the mattress, in their favorite chair, in a vase, and so on…as long as it is in their vicinity. If you can, get them to put it in their wallet or purse. You may also use more than one. They don’t need to know this. Just hide it.
And the person giving the scapular must have great confidence in Mary to keep her promise.

Now she didn’t say when it would happen, so just keep praying and it will. Just realize you have her word on it.

May God bless and keep you.
 
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