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How can you explain, an unplanned pregancy for an unmarried couple
  • to a 7 yr old girl - who cannot understand how God made the mistake of putting a baby into the UNMARRIED mothers tummy?
Without going anywhere near the biology of the situation!!

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Well, it is important to explain that it wasn’t God who made the mistake. Trying to dodge the issue of biology with a 7 year old will force you to resort to verbal gymnastics that will end up confusing her more than she already is. I think it might be a good idea to have the “This is where babies come from” talk. The sooner she learns about personal responsibility the better for her, and you. Don’t let her get into the habit of blaming God for people’s mistakes. If you do you will be doing her a tremendous disservice.
 
Yes, I agree with the others. Give minimal info, but explain to her that God has a plan for this and the situation that they are in is what happens if you don’t follow God’s plan.

God Bless,
Nicole
 
I agree. GOD did not make a mistake! A very basic explanation of biology might be in order here (with my son, it was as simple as saying that mommies and daddies are allowed to show their love for each other in certain ways that can cause a baby to grow and that these ways should be saved for when they are married.) Follow up with an explanation that, since the fall of Adam, people have a hard time doing what’s right (especially if they haven’t been taught correctly) but that God allows us to choose to do right or wrong.

Emphasis should be placed on the fact that, though the couple committed a sin in conceiving a child out of wedlock, the CHILD is not a sin or a mistake. If anything, that child is proof that God can bring good out of bad situations. And encourage your child to PRAY for the couple and the baby, that they may learn to live the way God wants them to live!

My sister threw this situation at me which really created a lot of questions for my son (who is adopted–his birth parents were a couple of unmarried teenagers.) I’m sure we’ll still be working out all the answers for a long time to come!

Above all, ask the Holy Spirit to give you the words!

God bless you and I’ll be praying!
BlueRose
 
Booyah, bluerose, and thanks for completing my thought. In reviewing my post I thought it was lacking some things, and you put the icing on the cake. I love this forum! 👍
 
THANKS Guys

The “mistake notion” came (innocently) from the child, My lovely God Daughter!! Not from me - I KNOW exactly who made the mistake!!

Her Mother has asked me for some (name removed by moderator)ut.

I included the term “mistake” to illustrate the way I think secular society is eroding away at the innocence of our children.

But, I don’t think it my position to discuss birds n’bees.

But we will discuss further.
 
Feel free to combine my thoughts with those of bluerose when discussing this situation with your nieces mom. YOu niece is getting the idea of blaming GOd for things from somewhere, and you could gently and lovingly remind her that God is the solution to problems, not the cause of them. 👍
 
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Nanor:
My lovely God Daughter!! Her Mother has asked me for some (name removed by moderator)ut. But, I don’t think it my position to discuss birds n’bees.
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I couldn’t disagree more. Sorry. If she’s your “God daughter”. It’s not only your “position” it’s you responsibility. You took a vow to be a God Parent think back to the promise you made to God. It’s not your position? Plus her mother has asked for your help? How much more do you need? Sorry if I’m over acting, just trying to get you in gear… LOL
 
Tom,

I agree regarding the wrong or “Inappropriate” situation of the pregnancy.

But I don’t feel that it is my position to commence a “birds n’bees” discussion.

To my mind, this should be up to the parents, and they may want to leave this for some years to come.

Appreciate your (name removed by moderator)ut!
 
I guess then, I would tell her that

“God doesn’t make mistakes- he wanted you to be a part of this family, and wanted me to be your Godmother. And he wants you to love him and trust him.”

I am a single (never married) parent. I knew because of the mistake I made, I didn’t have the luxury of waiting to tell my daughter about the bird and bees because this would come up eventually- and in order for it to make sense to her- she needed to know that the biology of a child could happen outside the sacrament of marriage, so she wouldn’t be confused about the mistake of an action and assume she was a mistake.

The mistake was that I did not make a complete home for her before she was born. I always finish these little talks (yes, I think more than one talk is necessary to drive home these points in their little minds) with how important God thought it was for her to be a part of this particular family- and how much we all love her.

This is obviously not an easy situation- and is an example of the living penance that religious single parents face when they have children out of wedlock before they were religious. And it is also an example of how widespread a single mistake by one person can be.

Teens, and unmarried people having sexual relations out there reading this- take note if you create a life it isn’t just your “mistake”!

::getting off soapbox::
 
Have you thought of bringing this up to the parents and letting them explain it?

-D
 
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Nanor:
THANKS Guys

The “mistake notion” came (innocently) from the child, My lovely God Daughter!! Not from me - I KNOW exactly who made the mistake!!

Her Mother has asked me for some (name removed by moderator)ut.

I included the term “mistake” to illustrate the way I think secular society is eroding away at the innocence of our children.

But, I don’t think it my position to discuss birds n’bees.

But we will discuss further.
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They asked for her help. Great first step IMHO.
 
My intention in posting this thread was to print it, and discuss it with the childs Mother, who is my Sister.

BTW - Shiann
“They asked for her help. Great first step IMHO.”

I’m a bloke!!!
What the story with the Irish Blessing?
I’m in Dublin myself!
 
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Nanor:
My intention in posting this thread was to print it, and discuss it with the childs Mother, who is my Sister.

BTW - Shiann
“They asked for her help. Great first step IMHO.”

I’m a bloke!!!
What the story with the Irish Blessing?
I’m in Dublin myself!
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:bigyikes: My sincerest apologies!

You know what they say about assuming anything… I still think it was a great first step to include their Godfather :o

As for the Irish Blessing- I found it somewhere, don’t have much history on it… The full blessing is:

May the road rise up to meet you
May the wind be at your back
May the sun shine warm upon your face
May the rain fall soft upon your fields
Until we meet again, may God hold you in the palm of his hand.
 
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