Applying for annulment

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Still working on paperwork. Lost my original intake lady. They said she retired. After I sent the really upsetting questionnaire. New lady sends another, reaaaally long questionnaire. Said she needs more detail, or they may not be able to process my annulment. I was only married 2.45 years. Neither of us Catholic (I am now). Not to be disrespectful, but how long should each answer be?? I answered each question best I could, but its been 32 years. He left me for another lady, and had been abusive. What if he wont respond? What if I cant find verifying records (I went to counseling)? This is very scary. I already take meds for anxiety (I was assaulted last year).

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These are questions to discuss with your advocate. The process in your diocese may be different from the experience of others, so you may get well meaning but incorrect advice here.

I would encourage you to look up your judicial vicar for your diocese on your diocesan website and call him or make an appointment to go see him if you are not getting assistance from the person you’ve been working with.

A case can move forward whether the spouse participates or not. So, no need to be worried about whether or not he responds.
 
I don’t know if I have an advocate. I loved the first lady. I felt compassion. I dont like this one. She speaks like shes prosecuting me for something. I like the idea of making a phone call. Thanks.
 
RedBasket said:
Still working on paperwork. Lost my original intake lady. They said she retired. After I sent the really upsetting questionnaire. New lady sends another, reaaaally long questionnaire. Said she needs more detail, or they may not be able to process my annulment. I was only married 2.45 years. Neither of us Catholic (I am now). Not to be disrespectful, but how long should each answer be?? I answered each question best I could, but its been 32 years. He left me for another lady, and had been abusive. What if he wont respond? What if I cant find verifying records (I went to counseling)? This is very scary. I already take meds for anxiety (I was assaulted last year).

😦

Confused and traumatised 😦
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It is a difficult thing to go through. Answer the questions the best you can and if you don’t know the answer just write you don’t know. Time frame varies from diocese to diocese. Your former spouse does not have to participate but may if he wants.

Your parish should provide you with an advocate, often it is a priest or deacon, but sometimes a well trained lay person. Remember, the tribunal is looking for grounds that took place up to the point you said your vows. Behaviors after the wedding are not considered grounds for an annulment but may be used as evidence.

Be at peace, take your time. As usual 1ke gave great advice. Talk to someone about getting an advocate for your case. An advocate is not the same as tribunal case managers or staff.
 
Praying for you…

Lord, have mercy.
Christ, have mercy.
Lord, have mercy.

Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with you.
Blessed are you among women and blessed is the
fruit of your womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners
NOW and at the hour of our death. Amen!

Saint Michael, the archangel, defend us in battle, be our defense against the wickedness and snares of the devil, may God rebuke him, we humbly pray. And do thou, O’ Prince of the Heavenly host, by the power of God cast into Hell Satan and all the other evil spirits who prowl about the world seeking the ruin of souls. Amen.
 
Very personal about your childhood, life, parents, family and husband’s childhood, life, family and how you met, Very personal and detailed.
 
MainBrain said:
What kind of questions are in an annulment?
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Mine was about 15 typewritten pages. It is very detailed about relationships, her family, your family, the relationship between her mother and father, your mother and father. etc.

I was married young, divorced, married a Catholic girl outside the Church, we were married 28 years before i decided after about 5 years of studying the faith that I wanted to make it all right, take RCIA, go to confession, get married in the Church. I was confirmed Easter Vigil this year, we will be married thirty years this year. It has been a change in our life, never miss Mass, my wife has fully come back to the Church. It was a long process. It sounds like yours may be somewhat similar. PM me if you like, I may be able to help. I was raised Baptist, pretty religious, but love the Catholic life.
 
RedBasket said:
Still working on paperwork. Lost my original intake lady. They said she retired. After I sent the really upsetting questionnaire. New lady sends another, reaaaally long questionnaire. Said she needs more detail, or they may not be able to process my annulment. I was only married 2.45 years. Neither of us Catholic (I am now). Not to be disrespectful, but how long should each answer be?? I answered each question best I could, but its been 32 years. He left me for another lady, and had been abusive. What if he wont respond? What if I cant find verifying records (I went to counseling)? This is very scary. I already take meds for anxiety (I was assaulted last year).

😦

Confused and traumatised 😦
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I don’t believe he has to respond, the other party has a period where they can respond, but if no response, it moves ahead.
 
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