Are there such things as moral gray areas?

  • Thread starter Thread starter Jump4Joy
  • Start date Start date
Status
Not open for further replies.
J

Jump4Joy

Guest
Bare with me, my example is rather petty and childish. For example, what happens when your friend dates a guy you like. One hand, you’re supposed to be happy with your friend. On another hand, you were rejected in a way. On another hand, your friend may have “betrayed” you for dating a guy she knows you liked. On another hand, people are free and they are entitled to be with whomever they want without your consent. Is it right or wrong to feel slighted? Why or why not?
 
Jump4joy,

Feelings are neither right or wrong. What matters is what you do with your feelings!
 
What you really need to strive for is joy. If you get that everything will look different. Joy is a gift, ask God for it. Try to do God’s will all the time.
 
So long as you don’t actively sabotage their relationship, I wouldn’t worry about not being delighted.

Whether your friend was moral is to hard to judge here. It would depend on your past conversations etc, including how they started dating. If he initiated is very different than if she initiated in spite of knowing your desire.
 
Jump4Joy said:
Is it right or wrong to feel slighted?
Click to expand...
Wrong. You or I do not own other people. You do not own any guy just because you like him. You have no right to prevent your friend from dating anyone.
 
Who is preventing anyone from dating anyone? Just because I don’t like them dating does not mean I’m preventing them from doing anything.
 
That’s where I think it becomes wrong. Trying to sabotage is definitely crossing into wrong. I think I have my own ideas about actions, intentions, and acceptable feelings.
 
I can’t answer for your situation but in the realm of morality an act is either good or morally permissible or the act is bad and a sin, there is no grey area.
 
Subjectivity makes it hard to discern. I’ll worry about something else. There are more important things. I guess. Some interpret my anger to me I think I own him or I’m somehow feel entitled towards him or I have no right to feel jealousy towards a man who is not mine. I don’t know about that. I’m not even comfortable exploring those feelings yet or those opinion. Those responses seem too judgmental for me to consider.
 
That’s what I am saying. Are my feelings right or wrong? I don’t know honestly. They’re making me terribly uneasy.
 
Or my saltiness is somehow preventing them from being a happy couple.
 
Your feelings seem normal, but it is what it is now, wish your friend the best.
 
I HATE feelings. They make me feel uncomfortable. Like I wish I could alway be happy, grateful, understanding, funny, fun-loving. I can be bitter, insecure, salty, jealous, envious, irrational.
 
It’s ok, I understand why you feel like this, your friend knew you liked this person. But don’t take it overboard, it is what it is, do Gods will.
 
Feelings aren’t under our control so I wouldn’t stress about it.
 
All’s fair in love and war as they say. Don’t know the details but I’d say there’s not much you can or should do about it. It may feel bad, but they’re two adults and entitled to date who they like. Rejection is part of the dating game unfortunately. I doubt they’re dating to make you feel bad.
 
Status
Not open for further replies.
Back
Top