Are we allowed to be angry?

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Is there ever a time where anger is okay? Are you allowed to tell someone you don’t agree with them and chastize them in that manner? Sometimes I get mad at my Grandmother because she acts like the mother on Everybody Loves Raymond.

What is the proper way to let someone know you do not like what they are doing?

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Well, Ephesians 4:26 says, “Be angry but do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger.” So there clearly are times when anger is acceptable. As far as the proper way to let someone know you don’t like what they are doing, that often depends on the situation. I would recommend that if you must adress the issue, to do so in a kind way. Don’t start yelling at her, but maybe say, “Sometimes I feel like you are very critical of me.” Something like that.
 
…be angry at every injustice you see… at every unkindness you witness… and everytime your inaction is present at either episode.:o

…i wish you peace:thumbsup:
 
Anger, as all emotions, is God-given. It’s there for a reason. For example, as SG pointed out, in response to injustice (consider the righteous anger of Christ as he emptied the temple). It’s a matter of what we do with it. Channel the anger wrongly, or let it control you, and you enter into sin.
 
It is interesting that anger is often an overlay for another emotion; particualrly when it is out of proportion to the act which caused the anger. Just something to think about…
 
IMHO anger is a sin (and of course it’s one of the seven deadly sins) when it leads to destrcutive behavior or when it causes a beratement of a person. I try to always remember “hate the sin, love the sinner” – anger at an activity, a sin, etc. is ok as long as no destructive behavior results or as long as you are not behaving in a way that you wouldn’t want your children to behave - self control is a must.
 
What works for me,when someone gets my dander is…I look straight at them and say in a normal tone of voice…You know, I think I am going to pray for you today. That’s exactly what I am going to do. Usually the other person is itching for a fight, but instead my response keeps me calm, puts things into perspective for me, and totally throws the other person off guard which breaks the tension. But then walk away otherwise, youir anger may resurface.

Righteous anger at a injustice, I believe is totally acceptable. Your response has to be appropriate. It is easy to be angry at the sin of abortion but that does not justify, burning down an abortion clinic. Righteous anger may move you to work for the changing of laws, becoming a street counselor, praying outside of clinics, offering up a rosary for life etc. Then your anger has lead you to a positive outlet for the greater good not only for you but others.
 
A while back I heard a very interesting fact about anger. We allow ourselves to get angry. IF WE don’t ALLOW events or people to get us angry, then we won’t get angry. Others do NOT make us angry, we allow ourselves to get angry.

In other words, people can NOT make you angry unless you allow it to happen. I have problems with anger too, but when I feel really steamed, I look inward and say to my self, I am letting this happen and it is getting the better of me. Then I have the ability to calm myself down and look at things more objectively.

Most times, I am blowing things way out of proportion. I am over reacting to perceived slights or letting my impatience get the better of me or taking things too seriously.

We need to be aware that we are getting angry and that can be very difficult if we let ourselves fly off the handle too easily.

Counting to 3 or 10 or whatever can help especially when we are thinking, I CAN CONTROL this, and they (or this situation) can not make me angry if I don’t let it. I AM in control of my anger. No one and nothing can make me angry unless I allow it to.

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