Arggghhh!!!

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i cannot stop masterbating, but i only do it when i feel sick or stuff like that. i know i shouldn’t, but i keep backing into it, cuz i cannot go to sleep until i do it last month i would go one streaks of 5-3 days streaks of being chaste . its so frustrating having to go to Confession every week and hear the sexuality advice by my priest, then two nights later masterbate again. my parents are getting very suspicious of me going to Confession every week and wonder why i’am doing that. Even when i pray a decket of the Rosary and to Michael the Archangel, i still do it. Why does God have to give teens like me all these hormones now when He is FULL KNOWING of this ahead of time that we are not going to be able to handle it? i seriously think i have like twice the many hormones as an average teen or i have some type of disorder. this has to be the most helpless feeling in the world.

no offense, but we have like strickest rules…you got to be almost perfect to be Catholic.
 
You’re not alone in your frustrations over the matter of masturbation.

However, I can’t help with with any kind of actual techniques to help you stop. I haven’t masturbated in six months now, but it is very frustrating to not do so. The only way I haven’t done so is by sheer refusal to do so.

I’m sorry.
 
Helps for chastity:

praying
reading the Bible
reading books by Saints
practicing self-denial in other areas will help you practice self-denial in this area

You should also have numerous different ways to spend your time
that are not sinful, such as:

spending time with family and friends
develop new hobbies and new interests
forms of entertainment that are not sinful (even movies, video games, novels, etc.)

If your problem occurs at night when you go to bed, stay up later watching tv, or reading, or any form of entertainment that is not sinful, until you are very tired, and then go to sleep promptly.
 
Go to confession every time you fall. If you know, prior to the episode, that folllowing, you will have to confess the sin, this will help you break the habit.

I believe this is a habit that can be broken eventually. Once you have broken the habit, you will find you hardly even think of it any longer.

I used to have a habit where I felt I had to eat a bunch of Oreo cookies with a large glass of milk every night. Now I can’t stand the sight of Oreo cookies. 😉 Not even sure they make them anymore.
 
Mijoy2 said:
I used to have a habit where I felt I had to eat a bunch of Oreo cookies with a large glass of milk every night. Now I can’t stand the sight of Oreo cookies. 😉 Not even sure they make them anymore.
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Yes. A lot of what’s involved is what is called behavioral therapy. You are literally retraining yourself out of doing something. You are setting up unpleasant consequences for, & associations with, the habit, as well as simply going through physical motions of consciously doing other things when you’re tempted, & surrounding yourself with disincentives.

It’s best to have both positive & negative strategies to defeat it. (Attraction to something else; dread of the activity & results)
 
Dear Arggghhh!!!,

At first glance, I thought that was Latin. 🙂

Seriously, you should be commended for being so concerned over adolescent masturbation. I don’t think there was a day that passed where I didn’t engage in it once or twice, a day. One day it was 6 times. But I wasn’t filled with guilt and damnation. I took it in stride and as I got older, the desire to engage got less and less.
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Now you:  Un-scheduled time is a temptation.  A bedroom can be an unsafe place.  You know the telltale signs as they begin.  Go to a public room with a good book, watch TV or better still get on the phone and call your grandmother or someone else who would appreciate your act of charity.  This de-rails where your train is headed.

  God has a purpose for our sexual appetite, but don't fall into despair.  Realize we all fall, and usually we fall over the same stone in the road.

   Youre doing fine.  Be nice to yourself.

    Merry Christmas!
 
Son, it’s taken me 40 years to get a handle on this sin… and I still have extreme temptations from time to time. At your age, it will be very tough, but I believe it can be controlled. My best guess is that 90% to 95% of young men your age are doing the exact same thing that you are! It’s really best to avoid it to the best of your ability.

Masturbation is extremely common for the young and even us not so young! Remember, His mercy is way bigger than our sins. So never be ashamed to go to confession… every single week if necessary. Your sins are between you and the priest (and God), they are none of your parent’s business. I’m sure your parents have sins of their own. Tell your parents that they should go to confession with you! Check out my other posts on this topic.
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outcast said:
i cannot stop masterbating, but i only do it when i feel sick or stuff like that. i know i shouldn’t, but i keep backing into it, cuz i cannot go to sleep until i do it last month i would go one streaks of 5-3 days streaks of being chaste . its so frustrating having to go to Confession every week and hear the sexuality advice by my priest, then two nights later masterbate again. my parents are getting very suspicious of me going to Confession every week and wonder why i’am doing that. Even when i pray a decket of the Rosary and to Michael the Archangel, i still do it. Why does God have to give teens like me all these hormones now when He is FULL KNOWING of this ahead of time that we are not going to be able to handle it? i seriously think i have like twice the many hormones as an average teen or i have some type of disorder. this has to be the most helpless feeling in the world.

no offense, but we have like strickest rules…you got to be almost perfect to be Catholic.
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Difficult but usefull advice.
Move to some third world country some months where you are forced to live in a room with ten other men while working your days as a volunteer for poor people or homeless children.
It will give you a look at the things that truly matter in life and I doubt you will have a problem with masturbation if there are other people present…

mediate on the emptiness of the act… and meditate on the fact that whenever you masturbate you are releasing some negative energy in space that might sorround your future wife so she falls into sin of impurity the very same night where you give in …
many times its not a thought about God or the angels that can help us straighten our life out… but our selfish hopes for a life of beauty here on earth with a good and holy spouse… whom most of us currently dont deserve.
 
GraceDK said:
…mediate on the emptiness of the act… and meditate on the fact that whenever you masturbate you are releasing some negative energy in space that might sorround your future wife so she falls into sin of impurity the very same night where you give in …
many times its not a thought about God or the angels that can help us straighten our life out… but our selfish hopes for a life of beauty here on earth with a good and holy spouse… whom most of us currently dont deserve.
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Okay… so he cannot masturbate and he doesn’t deserve a good and holy spouse? Are you kidding me? Of course he deserves a good and holy catholic wife someday! There is nothing selfish about wanting a loving, beautiful, intimate, sex filled marriage as our creator intended.

Attaching dangerous fantasies surrounding their future wife to the masturbation habit of a teenage boy is a horrible idea. The better solution is for him to pray for God to give him a good catholic wife someday and to pray for her purity so that one day they may be able to share this incredible pleasure and most intimate deed with HER just like God intended.

This young man is trying to get a habit of impurity under control. He needs to only understand that he is a normal kid with normal desires. Yes, it is a sin and he needs to work on getting it under control. However, that age, masturbation is extremely common and almost always a part of growing up.

Keeping good friends, avoiding bad TV shows, movies and impure websites are important. Regular confession, increased attention to prayer and doing lots of good deeds of generosity will help him get this habit under control too. At this age, young men must need to learn to walk in purity. While we are learning to walk, we often fall… sometimes a lot. I’m almost 50 years old and I still need help from time to time!

It’s extremely difficult for young men to be able to live in perfect chasitity for great lengths of time. Thank God for the sacrament of confession! However, with age will come wisdom and an increased sense of self control.

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