Argument with Parents and Mortal Sin

[C794]

A couple days ago I got frustrated with one of parents. This resulted in me becoming angry and yelling fairly loud. Nothing I said was rude; just my voice volume was disrespectful. I have since then apologized, but since my parish isn’t offering confession this week, I was unable to confess this. So did I commit a mortal or venial sin? If it’s mortal should I put off receiving the sacrament of confirmation today?

 

[R_C]

You should have spoken to a priest about this. You may still want to do so.

Nevertheless, this may not be a mortal sin if no injury was done. We all lose our temper every so often, especially with our nearest and loved ones, because they can hurt us more than anyone else.

 

[C794]

You should have spoken to a priest about this. You may still want to do so.

Nevertheless, this may not be a mortal sin if no injury was done. We all lose our temper every so often, especially with our nearest and loved ones, because they can hurt us more than anyone else.

I agree, I didn’t feel that it was possible. Now that I think of it I probably could have. If I don’t have a chance to talk to my priest before mass, should I avoid being confirmed?

 

[R_C]

I agree, I didn’t feel that it was possible. Now that I think of it I probably could have. If I don’t have a chance to talk to my priest before mass, should I avoid being confirmed?

No! Even in the worst case, Confirmation would still be valid (though some may argue that we should not receive it in a state of mortal sin.)

Let me ask you: were you already baptized? If yes, how come they did not provide you access to confession before this special Mass? It’s standard RCIA procedure to allow baptized Christians to confess, and if they never confessed (ex. suppose someone who was part of a protestant church) then they do their first confession.

Like I said, I am nobody here, but I do not think this was a mortal sin. A mortal sin cuts us off from God’s grace. It must truly be grave matter. If I curse my parents or physically injure them is one thing…if they make me lose my temper and I snap out of frustration, it is wrong, of course…but I hardly see the intention to dishonor my parents, or the lack of love…and we may go as far as to argue that often we get particularly upset because we love the person more…if it was with a stranger, we probably wouldn’t care half as much!

Relax, this is a special night for you!

Check this post:

I called my mom this morning to say hi and see how she was, but ended up just in a huge argument …] Anyway…we got angry with each other and raised our voices …] I’m afraid that I may have committed a mortal sin by yelling at her …] now I’m afraid I will not be able to receive communion throughout all of Holy week …] I never know what type of sin I committ, then freak out about possibly making a sacrilege after receiving the Eucharist …]

Fr. Serpa, Catholic Answers Apologist, replied:

…] you became entangled in your emotions. She did also. It takes two to tango, you know. …] In either case, I don’t see any mortal sin here on your part. You obviously love your mother, despite your differences. …] Be at peace now. No freaking out allowed!

I pass that advice to you!

 

[C794]

It boils down to a lot of details. Did you insult them? Did you have a consent sufficiently deliberate or did you simply snap and then recovered control realizing how wrong that was?

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I didn’t insult them, it was more of an argument over how I was doing something. The yelling did last for a few minutes. I didn’t calm down until I left and then upon reflecting I realized that what I did was wrong.

No!

Even in the worst case, Confirmation would still be valid (though some may argue that we should not receive it in a state of mortal sin.)

Let me ask you: were you already baptized? If yes, how come they did not provide you access to confession before this special Mass? It’s standard RCIA procedure to allow baptized Christians to confess, and if they never confessed (ex. suppose someone who was part of a protestant church) then they do their first confession.

Like I said, I am nobody here, but I do not think this was a mortal sin. Check this post:

Fr. Serpa, Catholic Answers Apologist, replied:

I pass that advice to you!

Thanks.

I am baptized. The reason confession isn’t provided is becuase my parish believes that htere isn’t supposed to be confession during Holy Week. Although, I did go to confession last week. I’ve though about asking if I could go before the mass, but I doubt our priest would be willing to hear my confession.

 

[R_C]

I didn’t insult them, it was more of an argument over how I was doing something. The yelling did last for a few minutes. I didn’t calm down until I left and then upon reflecting I realized that what I did was wrong.

I edited my posts a bit It’s good, though. Like I said, don’t worry. It’s interesting that I am answering, because I used to have quite a bit of arguments with my parents - sometimes I still risk losing my temper! - so I have, so to speak, some “direct insight” into this situation

I think you should be at peace, and offer to Christ in Communion this sorrow and this anxiety you experienced today, this last trick of the father of deception to try to mess with your final consecration in the hands of Christ as his anointed soldier in faith. I gather you must be a devout soul, for your spiritual warfare is not insignificant Trust in Christ!

Quare tristis es anima mea, et quare conturbas me?
Spera in Deo, quoniam adhuc confitebor illi: salutare vultus mei, et Deus meus.

Why art thou sad, O my soul, and why dost thou disquiet me?
Hope in God, for I will still give praise to Him, the salvation of my countenance and my God.

Adjutorium nostrum in nomine Domini.
Qui fecit caelum et terram.

Our help is in the name of the Lord.
Who made heaven and earth.

Et introibo ad altare Dei: ad Deum qui laetificat juventutem meam.
And I will go in to the altar of God: to God Who giveth joy to my youth.

Be at peace, blessed soul, go be confirmed, and, please, spend a prayer for this poor sinner when you receive the Lord!

 

[C794]

Thanks, I really appreciate the help. I’ll pray for you. Please pray for me also.

 

[George_Stegmeir]

I am a loss here. I have never heard of anything that prohibits Confession from being heard during Holy Week!
I date from well before Vatican II, and was educated in a Jesuit Parish School. As I remember (and I have a steel trap memory), there were extra hours of Confessions during Holy Week, as one Priest I knew put it, it was not just his duty, but his form of doing Penance.
I can understand restricted hours of Confession if there is only one priest amongst several Parishes, but have never understood how this Sacrament has almost died out in the US since Vatican II. Far be it from me to judge, but I doubt that we have become a country of Saints!
I do think however, that many of us have fallen into self delusion with reguards to our sinfulness. This, of course, is compounded by those who recieve Communion regularly whilst going to Confession only a few times a year.

 

[Chatter163]

We had confession every day during Holy Week, including Holy Saturday morning and evening.