Asking advice, receiving advice

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If I type a life situation here, do you think anyone would give me their advice? Is this a decent place for something like this? Did catholic answers forums have accountability groups at one time or quote unquote electronic support groups for different specific life situations?
 
You will get all kinds of advice here. It all depends on the question, the sincerity of the question, and the willingness of the OP to actual want an answer. Sometimes people ask for advice, but really just want people to validate bad behavior or way of thinking. Other times, it appears that OPs have actually been helped by member advice.

CAF used to have groups for people to joking that were sometimes closed groups, but since the changeover, groups no longer exist.
 
You may want to post your “life situation” in family life or liturgy and sacraments, depending on what your situation is about, by the way.
 
thanks for the info … maybe later in the day I will attempt to write a couple of paragraphs.

it must have been the closed groups that I remember.
 
People are always asking for advice especially in the Family Life and Parenting sections.

I personally think it’s best if the query actually relates to Catholicism in some way. This is Catholic Answers, not an Ann Landers/ agony aunt advice column. Somebody asking for advice on how to deal with discerning a vocation or what is the Christian/ Catholic way to respond to a situation would be examples of queries with a connection to Catholicism. Somebody who just wants to talk about their life issues in general would be better off finding a support group targeted to their specific need. If the life issues are medical in nature, such as mental health, we’re really limited in what we can say other than “please see a doctor or mental health counselor”.

Also, if you do ask for advice here, be prepared to get all kinds of advice including some that might sound harsh or isn’t what you wanted to hear. We constantly get people on here asking questions and then getting mad when they don’t like the answers. Many people who are supposedly seeking “advice” are really seeking affirmation and commiseration. If you don’t give them that, all of a sudden you’re “un-Christian”, “angry”, or must be guilty of the same behavior that they’re accusing their annoying relative of doing, etc. it’s pretty pathetic and also immature how people just assume that a bunch of Internet strangers will agree with them.
 
it is more general decision making … thanks be to God I don’t have the affliction of alcoholism, not a suicide survivor, not suffering bereavement afflictions, don’t have same sex attraction.

it might be more here are some pros and cons about where to live and where to work or here are some facets of a courtship situation …

I can talk to an ordained priest or priests but to me that doesn’t fulfill ‘plans succeed when advisors are many’. to me, many advisors is ten advisors. Priests are trained to give moral guidance if there is moral confusion or they are trained to give clarity about things related to the faith. So this might be a good place to help fill out ‘many advisors’. I could ask advice from high school friends from twenty years ago and they might be able to give me some more insights about more purely human virtues or natural advice but not so much about eternal considerations or supernatural Catholic Christian considerations. If I want ten advice (name removed by moderator)uts to fulfill ‘plans succeed when advisors are many’ then two priests are only 2 of 10 to make “many” advisors … would hypothetically need 8 more (name removed by moderator)uts.
 
This is a big forum, so you will probably get responses to whatever you post.

However, if your question isn’t about Catholic stuff, i’d wonder if you would get better crowdsourcing responses elsewhere. For example if I were considering moving to Chicago, I might post here asking about Catholic parishes in Chicago, or where I might find a traditional or charismatic Mass in Chicago, or what Catholic schools in Chicago were the best, or if there were neighborhoods of Chicago where most Catholics lived. If I just wanted to know what were the hot neighborhoods, best schools and best places to live in Chicago, I’d go to a forum where people give advice on particular cities or zip codes.
 
overall, generally, as a whole, it might tend more toward weighing the factors after I basically have thought through some of the fundamental points. [[[ however, a reader and poster may of course offer me something that 'i didn’t know I didn’t know ]]]

for example, i studied Spanish in the past and am a registered nurse. I could attempt to live in Laredo TX where there are more Spanish speakers but a person might be more limited as to not going out after dark versus other areas of the usa.

so one hand increased Spanish language is a plus and on the other hand increased risk of violence versus other locations would be a negative.

Then it seems that in any decision there are X - factors and unknowns. For example, if a person is attempting to “praydream” like Ignatius Loyola about a particular course of action, there are unknown X-factors. Possibly forum readers and posters could help in the area of X-factor unknowns with their hunches or general impressions.

For example, if i work as a nurse in a hospital, the desert southwest has less rain, less plants, and less industry in my experience. [[[ my experience, southern new mexico for less than a year ]]] this could impact the life inside the hospital. for example, nurse to patient ratios, things like this. So yes, a strictly nursing forum may help in this area but overall, this forum may help with considerations about general “praydreaming” through a situation. >>>>> matthew 23 not confusing big things with little things and not confusing little things with big things … swallow this and strain out this.
 
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Here is an example of good, suprising, something i never considered … a priest said, well, if it comes to it, return to the place where you were born. Every place i lived, i lived because i accepted and chose to live there. Yet God chose where you were born. So if it comes to it, go back to where you were born. That is a something, I never, never would have thought of on my own.
 
it is true that in the spirituality section a person could seek advice about victory over vice, growth in areas of weakness, help with some day to day personal defects. People do post some things like that there
 
Kinda.

There are not a bunch of “baby souls” up in heaven and God looks down and saw your mom and dad and said “I’m sending Community down to be their kid”.

God put in place a method whereby to human beings conceive children. When they conceive a child, a new soul is created.

God gave your parents, their parents, all of your ancestors free will to chose to live where they wanted and minds to make sound decisions.

The reason for the advice is to go to your home is that most people, as they age, realize the importance of living close to their family, extended family, childhood friends.
 
It is true there are secondary causes, human causes ancestors

it is also true that you can’t speak for the priest … “the reason for the advice”
 
both the priest and myself understand procreation and when God creates the human soul. Neither the priest nor myself thought anything about baby souls up in Heaven.

You may be touching about God’s permissive will versus some type of aspects of miracles or God’s miraculous will. … God’s providence aspects could include ________ consideration and ________ consideration and __________ consideration.
 
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