At my wit’s end---

[anon63623622]

Okay i have this problem…
There is this man he is like in his 60s maybe 70s. I cleaned his house a couple of times about 3 years ago…
Well he wants to convert from methodist to catholic…
**Okay the problem is, Every time he calls me (which i feel he should not call like 6-7 times EVERY DAY!..
I tell him I am busy, I do have a house, husband and son to tend to…
**He pops off Cuss words every other word,
**He seems to be pulling the wool over Our Priests eyes and making him think he is totally not the way i know he is
**He TELLS people I WILL take care of him if something happens.(News to me)
** He was in an accident and says to me it was a D— Baptist…
(I was disgusted by his remark)
**He would say things about some Catholic Priests being pedifiles
** I am all for someone converting to catholic but I am NOT at ALL comfortable about him
**He TOLD the deacon in charge of RCIA Class and Priest that I WILL be his sponsor.
** What ever I say to him he is not listening
**He is starting to make my Husband MAD!

Any advice?
I really do NOT want to be his sponsor with the way he is…
Plus I did NOT sign up to help him out his house work, cooking etc, he has his grown son there and 2 roommates to help out

 

[Irishmom2]

Just stop taking his calls, cleaning his house or having anything to do with him. That is all.

 

[Tis_Bearself]

Just stop taking his calls, cleaning his house or having anything to do with him. That’s is all.

Right. You can tell him, or better yet have your husband tell him, that you are dealing with some significant family responsibilities right now (which is true, those who have spouses or families always have responsibility to them) and that you will not be available to take his calls, clean his house, or be his sponsor.

It would also be good for you to separately approach the priest and the deacon and explain briefly the situation and that you cannot be this man’s sponsor as his behavior is starting to cause discord in your home and he does have a son and roommate to help him out.

And then don’t take his calls etc any more. I presume you have Caller ID so you can screen your calls and not pick up when he blows up your phone.

 

[anon63623622]

Thank you… I will talk it over with My Priest and Deacon… Thanks again

 

[0Scarlett_nidiyilii]

I would definitely distance myself.
He may have emotional or cognitive issues or he might have had a stroke or something caused some dis-inhibition.

However, he’s not your particular responsibility. He’s not your dad. Furthermore, he has a safety net of roommates and family of his own.

You can ethically step back from this situation.

 

[JanR]

Ditto, second, third and fourth.

 

[TheHolyTrinity]

Change your phone number and make it private. I did this once with multiple unwanted phone calls from the same person. The telephone company where kind enough to change my phone number and make it private free of charge. They also put a block on the number that person was calling from.

If it is serious enough then the phone company can contact that person and place criminal charges and/or if they are with the same company as you discontinue their contract with that person.