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My friend went to her friend’s bachelorette party the other day, and interested to know what they did, I asked about it. She said the usual-they drank a little and had a good time, but then said some things that I was questionable about. They all baked “penis cookies”, and had many pictures and things related to that subject (nothing too bad though, like no strippers). Being a Catholic, a little red light went off in my head when I heard this. Should this be proper for a bachelorette party the night before going into holy matrimony? However, my friend countered that it wasn’t sexual, but funny.

If it was all in jest, and not in a sexual manner, what am I to think of it? To my, the situation smells fishy, and not what a Catholic should do the day before her wedding.

What do you all think?
 
In my opinion, it’s disgusting and not “cute” at all. Wonder what the bachelor party was like? :eek: No, it was not appropriate but likely nothing you say is going to change this person’s mind. If she brings up anything else about it, I’d just say, “Hmm…glad I wasn’t invited!” And if I had been invited, I would have left. Then they could have all laughed and joked about what a “prude” I was behind my back but oh well. 🤷
 
I too would have been considered a “prude”, doesn’t sound like much fun to me and certainly not something I would have participated in prior to my own wedding. Yuck, just sounds gross and when someone usually has to counter with it was nothing sexual, but fun, it was sexual in nature and fun for people that think crude humor is entertaining.
 
Classless? Yes. Vulgar? Yes. Appropriate? No. Gravely sinful? I’d also edge more towards the “no.” If it was, I’d basically think nearly all talk in the bar/pub for us men is also mortally wrong.

That said, it’s certainly venially sinful and has the potential to undermine the true meaning of sexuality, especially if it’s celebrated. That can lead down a dark road if unchecked.
 
I’ve always found such things vulgar and though I no longer have any intentions of getting married, I always said I would refuse to have such things at my bachelorette party. There’s nothing wrong with having a celebration before one’s wedding, but I don’t see at all why it has to be so crude.
 
aball1035 said:
My friend went to her friend’s bachelorette party the other day, and interested to know what they did, I asked about it. She said the usual-they drank a little and had a good time, but then said some things that I was questionable about. They all baked “penis cookies”, and had many pictures and things related to that subject (nothing too bad though, like no strippers). Being a Catholic, a little red light went off in my head when I heard this. Should this be proper for a bachelorette party the night before going into holy matrimony? However, my friend countered that it wasn’t sexual, but funny.

If it was all in jest, and not in a sexual manner, what am I to think of it? To my, the situation smells fishy, and not what a Catholic should do the day before her wedding.

What do you all think?
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Bachelorette parties like that are terrible ideas, so are similar bachelor parties.
 
aball1035 said:
My friend went to her friend’s bachelorette party the other day, and interested to know what they did, I asked about it. She said the usual-they drank a little and had a good time, but then said some things that I was questionable about. They all baked “penis cookies”, and had many pictures and things related to that subject (nothing too bad though, like no strippers). Being a Catholic, a little red light went off in my head when I heard this. Should this be proper for a bachelorette party the night before going into holy matrimony? However, my friend countered that it wasn’t sexual, but funny.

If it was all in jest, and not in a sexual manner, what am I to think of it? To my, the situation smells fishy, and not what a Catholic should do the day before her wedding.

What do you all think?
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I believe it is in very bad taste, and a Catholic should know better. It is sad how this sort of thinking creeps into our culture and people say “oh, it’s just cute.”
 
Dakota_Roberts said:
Bachelorette parties like that are terrible ideas, so are similar bachelor parties.
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I was so proud of my son when he had his bachelor party. He went fishing with his Dad!

It seems that a trend has started with vulgarity, and it has to be stopped by people who are thinking right.

Lord help us!
 
Ditto on the “Proud of my son”…he and his buddies went skydiving!
 
For my bachelor party, we had a softball game, followed by a BBQ. Then we went to a comedy club, which was “blue” enough. We invited my dad and my Godfather and Uncles and they were really happy to be included. That was 29 years ago.

The best part is that my underage brother in law (15 at the time) was of course not allowed to drink any adult beverages. But he decided to borrow my fiance’s car (his older sister) and got in a fender bender. She still “uses” that against him (kiddingly now, NOT so much then).
 
Penis cookie? Nah. I like my cookies the way God and Toll House intended.😃

Seriously, the bachelor/bachelorette parties have gotten so out of hand that they make a mockery of their original intent, IMO.
 
Speaking of intents… what IS the intent of a Bachelorette or Bachelor party? What is their purpose? Or was their original purpose?
 
The problem with bachelorette parties is that someone else is supposed to plan them. Hopefully the person is in charge has met the bride before, but sometimes it seems like some bridesmaids try to throw the bachelorette party that they would want or expect and not what is along the taste of the bride. Hence the penis cookies. There are some solutions to this problem. 1) Don’t choose tacky, vulgar, or boorish people to be in your bridal party. This solution also reaps rewards later on during the reception. 2) If you are concerned that the chick in charge of your hen party is not capable of discerning good taste from an evening that ends with someone making bail, give her suggestions for things you might like to do or have at your party. 3) If that does’t work, give her explicit instructions for what you want and do NOT want at your party.
 
nickybr38 said:
Speaking of intents… what IS the intent of a Bachelorette or Bachelor party? What is their purpose? Or was their original purpose?
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The intent is to celebrate the fact that your friends or relative is getting married in a “just the boys” or “just the girls” manner. It’s supposed to be fun. Since the definition of “fun” is so broad, it leads to a wide variety of activities depending on the persons involved.
 
Allegra said:
The intent is to celebrate the fact that your friends or relative is getting married in a “just the boys” or “just the girls” manner. It’s supposed to be fun. Since the definition of “fun” is so broad, it leads to a wide variety of activities depending on the persons involved.
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Agreed, and that “fun spectrum” can range from:

the mundane dinner party

the misbehaving “night out with the boys/girls”

to the nefarious “weekend in vegas”

Many probably should be followed up with a visit to the confessional. 😊
 
My sister tried to throw me a party like that for mine, and it was aweful. I don’t need phallic imagery everywhere, thanks. I found it gross. It didn’t last long, though, since my cousin ended up throwing a fit and ruining the whole thing an hour in.

The next night my best friend, my fiance and his little brother all got together, played board games and had a couple margaritas. MUCH more fun.
 
For mine, we went out to dinner with friends and the female relations. Then the younger girls went to the City Museum. (Which isn’t really a museum past 9PM) Still, it was good, CLEAN fun. I’m been to wineries and on boat trips with make nice bachelorette parties. For my husband’s, they went out to dinner and to the race track. (At least that’s what they told me.)
 
aball1035 said:
My friend went to her friend’s bachelorette party the other day, and interested to know what they did, I asked about it. She said the usual-they drank a little and had a good time, but then said some things that I was questionable about. They all baked “penis cookies”, and had many pictures and things related to that subject (nothing too bad though, like no strippers). Being a Catholic, a little red light went off in my head when I heard this. Should this be proper for a bachelorette party the night before going into holy matrimony? However, my friend countered that it wasn’t sexual, but funny.

If it was all in jest, and not in a sexual manner, what am I to think of it? To my, the situation smells fishy, and not what a Catholic should do the day before her wedding.

What do you all think?
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I’ve had the distinct misfortune to witness several such events reeling from bar to bar in a couple of cities. Penis cookies, hats, cakes, drink straws, et c., et c., ad nauseam, inviting random guys in the bar to do shots off of various parts of the bride-to-be’s body, and general vulgarity. I’ve often wondered if this sort of bachelorette party is an “answer” to the Hollywood idea of bachelor parties (strippers/prostitutes/debauchery/whatnot) as opposed to what normally occurs, as every single bachelor party I’ve been to or seen out on the town has been exceedingly tame by comparison. As in, probably could have been held in a library with a few occasional dirty looks from the librarian for getting a little too noisy kind of tame. Not boring, not wild, just some guys hanging out and having fun. Maybe a movie or some video games and a few drinks. Definitely no vagina cookies/party favors.

EDIT: This is not to say that the stripper/prostitute/debauchery bachelor party never happens…but I definitely think it’s the exception rather than the rule in most places. And, to be fair, this sort of bachelorette party most likely is as well.
 
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