Becoming numb to sin?

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How do you fix being numb to sin? I’m struggling with lust and fornication alot and its like my willpower to resist temptation is totally gone. I keep going to confession and then I sin again within a couple days. What do I do?
 
this is a common problem, find out what causes you to do this, maybe you have made a habit of looking at porn, or watching certain times of videos . try to stop that first , and if you have problems - make the sign of the cross and say a prayer

it all matters on how bad you want this to be fixed - if you want it bad enough you WILL make it happen

if you don’t care so much you will try to justify yourself ,and give up

but in the END the choice is yours!
 
Prayer is the only effective power and means to overcome being numb to sin. If you want to avoid this numbness, unite all of your pain, sufferings, and agonies to Christ crucified. This walk is not easy but it is the only way.
 
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How do you fix being numb to sin? I’m struggling with lust and fornication alot and its like my willpower to resist temptation is totally gone. I keep going to confession and then I sin again within a couple days. What do I do?
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How old are you?

If you are 40, married with kids then you are in a different position than a 14 year old boy.

If you have an addiction to porn and masturbation then again that is a different situation.

If you are in your teens try not to sweat it. Go to confession often. Keep busy. Don’t beat yourself up. You are normal.

If you are married with kids. Get real quickly.
 
I would also recommend that you avoid near occasions of sin. If a specific person is causing you to fall into these sins then stay away from that person.
 
mjb472012 said:
How do you fix being numb to sin? I’m struggling with lust and fornication alot and its like my willpower to resist temptation is totally gone. I keep going to confession and then I sin again within a couple days. What do I do?
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Determine what specifically is causing you to commit such sins, and develop a plan for what to do when temptation hits. (Ie: pray to Mary for help and do the 3 Hail Mary’s, get your mind on something else, and get yourself busy with something else. ) Perhaps talk to your confessor to help you come up with a practical plan to overcome such sins. Also, keep going to Confession. Every time you fall, excite an deep profound sorrow for offending God, and go to Confession.
 
Is there a lot of vitamin B and or potassium in your diet? If so, this may be a part of the problem. Don’t cut them out altogehter of course, but try not to overdo them. Too much of either one can drive hormones crazy.

Also, I read that avoiding grain or decreasing the amount of grain consumed (or maybe it was just wheat) can help with this.

An herb that could potentially help is vitex, also known as chaste tree berry–an herb of many uses, the most ancient of which is chastity. I read that men shouldn’t take it, so if you’re male I don’t know if I should recomend it to you, although Catholic monks used to take it to help them remain chaste. I think it’s only a problem if the men that take it want to be fathers (it does something to sperm; I forget what exactly and don’t know if that effect is permenent.)
 
You don’t have to necissarily feel sorry for your sins, just so you know. As long as you regret them for a least one spiritual reason like regret for having offended God, wanting to get to Heaven and or fear of Hell and confess them than they are forgiven.
 
mjb472012 said:
How do you fix being numb to sin? I’m struggling with lust and fornication alot and its like my willpower to resist temptation is totally gone. I keep going to confession and then I sin again within a couple days. What do I do?
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How long has this addiction been going on? I wouldn’t say you’re numb if you keep going back to confession.

I was addicted to masturbation since I was 8 years old and didn’t realize it was bad until nearing the end of my high school years. I was healed on this vice May of this year from 4 years of truly battling it out. A true healing came that day, and now I am akin to a recovering addict: the temptation is still there but the impulse is gone.

I would do exactly like you have done, go to confession, and after a few days sin again and again, praying that I will make it to confession that following weekend. My work required traveling a lot, so I’d end up going to confession in a church I’ve never been to before in the middle of nowhere (which was stressful (hence the vice) but it was quite a blessing!). Then when I made it, it was always a wash of relief because I knew I had fought it as best I could and God rewarded me with absolution.

Do not worry :] The battle is long and tough, but as long as your heart is in the right place at confession (aka true contrition), then my only advice is to keep fighting. Confession is one of the most powerful gateways of grace. Avoid situations that start the temptation; this is the easiest way to win the battle. In this case, the coward is the winner every single time. Praying for your healing :]
 
mjb472012 said:
How do you fix being numb to sin? I’m struggling with lust and fornication alot and its like my willpower to resist temptation is totally gone. I keep going to confession and then I sin again within a couple days. What do I do?
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Very common issue. But you are not “numb” to sin, you just have acquired a vice. “The Spiritual Combat”, by Fr. Scupoli (which used to be one of St. Francis of Sales’ favorite books and should be a must-read for us) explains (like many other similar treatises) that once we acquire a vice it seems “normal” and removing it is a difficult process that has its strategies.

Chapter 19, “Of the way to resist the sins of the Flesh”, provides even more specific advice, stating clearly that these sins are entirely different from the others. While this chapter may be very edifying, the entire reading (which is not too long) will provide insight on a more general issue: how vices are acquired and how to lose them in exchange for virtues.

On my side, as one who walks often on a similar road, I can only suggest that you not be deeply disturbed by this issue. If you set your mind on eradicating this vice, then it does not matter how many times you fall while you carry your cross, so long as your goal is to reach the top of the mount. You cannot do this on your own: Christ will be by your side, and through Him you will succeed.
 
mjb472012 said:
How do you fix being numb to sin? I’m struggling with lust and fornication alot and its like my willpower to resist temptation is totally gone. I keep going to confession and then I sin again within a couple days. What do I do?
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What you have is discouragement. You try but the allurement is never ending. Then the thought comes that you will never win the war because you are always on the front line fighting with no relief. Then a thought of hopelessness enters as you look in the future at the constant struggle you are losing.

This is all in a day’s work with the devil…discouragement.

Elliminate the above thoughts, and if and when they come, think of Mary your mother who will give you great graces to persevere. She is always there on your side because she is your mother. Fill your mind with words that Jesus spoke, that he came to help sinners. That his bloody hands and feet were given so that our hands and feet could be free of the horrors of sin. He wants that more than you, for you to be at his side. Happiness and peace are with him. Think of the suffering he endured to make you an honorable and good person. Put youself at the foot of the cross with Mary and pray with her.

Doing this you will lose your numbness to sin because it becomes very personal since he died for each and every sin for each and every sinner.

Meditate on the sorrowful mysteries of the rosary. It gives us five good reasons to be strong as well as the grace to carry it out.

In the state of grace, the Holy Trinity,all peace and love in heaven and on earth, dwells in you, and without it is a loss that can’t be put into words.

Jesus brought Lazarus back to life after 3 days in the tomb. Jesus walked on water, he calmed the water, and changed water. He gave sight to a man born blind. He rose a cripple from his stretcher. He healed a person from a distance for a centurian. He multiplied bread and fish.
But his biggest miracle …“your sins are forgiven.”

Just something to help you in becoming alive to Jesus who is with you.
 
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