Boys & Girls as Friends

[lizziebeth730]

La Chiara:

lizziebeth–Check in on us in 25 years when you have a college-aged daughter! Methinks you will have a different view of all this.

My mom wasn’t thrilled with the arrangement at first. But I live in a big city, in a not great area, and she knows both of the guys. She’s cool with it now. There honestly isn’t any flirting or tension in the house. The guys are like my brothers.

 

[longke]

you are invited to read and comment on my blogs:

bantugan.blog.com regarding experiences of the World Youth Day

kadasig.blog.com about experiences with God’s presence in our lives

sangkay.blog.com which is the site for our Holy Friendship Society, a community of people who accept God’s offer of Divine Friendship (Jn 15: 12 - 17)

God bless!

 

[rayne89]

I need some good ol’ conservative Catholic advice on parenting.

Our daughters (8 & 5) have mainly boys for friends. The Catholic friends and neighbors we have just so happen to have boys whose ages match up. At the early ages there wasn’t a problem with this or a concern about where they played (i.e. T.V. room, bedroom, etc.). Now, my oldest is asking if her friend can spend the night. The answer for us is “no”, but I’m not quite sure how to explain in a way which is honest and understandable to her. Or is the traditional, “Because I said so” enough? Also, we’re trying to decide how and at what age to say, “Boys are not allowed in your room”.

Any ideas?

I told my daughters boys and girls do not have sleepovers, that is only allowed for those who are married.

 

[Cadence]

I had a sleepover with male friends when I was about this age but we did not sleep in the same bedroom. I slept on a mattress in his sister’s room… Is this an option?

 

[Lovemyfaith]

My mom wasn’t thrilled with the arrangement at first. But I live in a big city, in a not great area, and she knows both of the guys. She’s cool with it now. There honestly isn’t any flirting or tension in the house. The guys are like my brothers.

Even in the big city, I still wouldn’t want my daughter living with two guys who aren’t related. What would you think of your future husband telling you he lived with two girls for a time?

As far as sleepovers, we don’t really do them. And bedrooms are for sleeping, not for hanging out. When our girls were younger, we had them sleep in the same bedroom and used one bedroom as a toy room. They could have friends over to play in that room. Now that they are teenagers, they have their own rooms, but it is so much easier to tell a teenage girl no boys in the bedroom than to try to explain to an eight year old the facts of life.

 

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