Brother and his Girlfriend

[Mr.Blank1.5]

Hi, I need your help on this.
My brother and his girlfriend have been dating for about a year. They’re not cohabiting, but she does sleep over at his place during the weekends (whether that involves sex, well, I honestly don’t know). My brother is non-religious and the girlfriend is a lapsed Catholic.

So I want to know if there is a way I can tell them that what they are doing is wrong (if they are engaging in premarital sex)? I really don’t want to be guilty of sinning in commission or omission. Aside from that, I have been praying for them since I honestly doubt they would listen if I did tell them since they are not religious.

 

[mlchance]

Easiest thing to do is in private with your brother simply ask, “Are you having sex with your girlfriend?” If he say he is, or says it’s none of your business, reply in love that your just concerned that he’s making good choices that truly honor and respect his girlfriend.

– Mark L. Chance.

 

[PennitentMan]

I don’t think it’s really your place to so that is it? Wouldn’t that be judging him? Who is sinless among us?

Weighing the outcome of such a cnoversation do you seriously think that yuo will do more good than harm? Usually (though not always) these thing have a tendency to blow up in your face, even if you meant well, and palce a spotlight on the “Judgmental Catholic”

My advice to you is leave it be.

 

[Newbie2]

Easiest thing to do is in private with your brother simply ask, “Are you having sex with your girlfriend?” If he say he is, or says it’s none of your business, reply in love that your just concerned that he’s making good choices that truly honor and respect his girlfriend.

– Mark L. Chance.

 

[kage_ar]

Easiest thing to do is in private with your brother simply ask, “Are you having sex with your girlfriend?” If he say he is, or says it’s none of your business, reply in love that your just concerned that he’s making good choices that truly honor and respect his girlfriend.

– Mark L. Chance.

A good brother cares about the welfare of his sibling.

 

[Godfollower]

If he asks you your opinion, you are free to tell him in a loving, non-judgmental manner; but, until he asks your opinion, it isn’t any of your business. Raising the issue would probably be counterproductive, as it would tend to reinforce the stereotype of “those nutso religious freaks who are always prying into other people’s bedrooms.”

I challenge the idea of stepping in to ask him about his conduct based on caring for your brother’s welfare; such a step requires you to presuppose that he is sinning in this particular manner, and such assumptions are incompatible with Christian behaviour:

Judge not, that you may not be judged, For with what judgment you judge, you shall be judged: and with what measure you mete, it shall be measured to you again. And why seest thou the mote that is in thy brother’s eye; and seest not the beam that is in thy own eye? Or how sayest thou to thy brother: Let me cast the mote out of thy eye; and behold a beam is in thy own eye? Thou hypocrite, cast out first the beam in thy own eye, and then shalt thou see to cast out the mote out of thy brother’s eye.

Matthew 7:1-5.

I seriously doubt that your brother is ignorant of the Church’s teaching in this area; it isn’t exactly a well-kept secret. So, either he is sinning or he isn’t, and he probably knows full well that Church teaching prohibits premarital sex. This means that (A) you will accomplish nothing by confronting him about it; and (B) you will spend “spiritual capital” with him that you might, perhaps, be able to use in a manner more likely to produce results (invitations to attend Mass, etc.).

:twocents:

 

[Newbie2]

Another thought, leave religion aside and appeal to reason. Is it a good idea to sleep around with someone who you might never see again in a couple of months? Is it worth investing one’s emotional capital that goes along with one’s sexuality in a “casual” i.e. non-committed relationship?

 

[PennitentMan]

Another thought, leave religion aside and appeal to reason. Is it a good idea to sleep around with someone who you might never see again in a couple of months? Is it worth investing one’s emotional capital that goes along with one’s sexuality in a “casual” i.e. non-committed relationship?

If he is non-religious(as stated in the OP), then there will be but one answer to that question. And you know the answer…