Busy people...where do you find your motivation?

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Lately, I’ve been feel unmotivated. I have exams next week, my boss threatens to fire me all the time, my husband and I are having financial troubles plus our roommate doesn’t help us around the house and he eats all of our food without giving us any money for it.

I have no motivation to study, clean, cook, go to work, or deal with my roommate(we’ve talked to him twicee already, nothing’s changed)…

How do you busy people deal with this? How do you motivate yourselves to do what you are supposed to do?

also…how do you make a budget and stick to it…I can’t figure it out!!!
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I’ve heard a very wise (not to mention very successful) person break it down this simply:

Find what make you feel alive, and do that.

There is nothing in the world more demotivating than the prospect of 40-50 years of skull drudging work.
 
First be very careful that you do not fall into depression!

These types of problems caused me to slowly fall into physical depression. It was gradual and there seemed to be plenty of real situational stuff that could make a person feel down. For me I eventualy gave up. This was very difficult. I cared about nothing.
How I got out and how I keep going:
  1. Priorities: Make sure you know what you want (God wants for you). What is the important things. Identify anything that may be getting in the way of these important things and begin to eliminate them. REMEMBER that you must make you health and spiritual well being one of you top priorities!
  2. Attitude: Knowing what your priorities are and that they are in line with what God wants for you (as best you can determine), All your work,tasks, activities are a joyfull giving of yourself. Remind yourself of this. If you don’t feel joyfull pretend that you do and you will become joyfull (it works, really).
  3. Get sleep. If you don’t get enough sleep you will not work effeciently and you will feel more depressed.
  4. Excercise. - Personally if I don’t get at least 3days/week of hard vigorous exercise I feel myself plummet. When I was injured and couldn’t excercise for several month I had to take anti-depressents to keep from becomming physicaly depressed.
    If you think you might be physically depressed check it out and get treatment if necessary!
    I am not an expert or professional in this area. This is just my experience and way of keeping motivated and succesful.
Best of Luck, and may God bless you.
Jim
 
Thanks Jim…I don’t think I’m depressed, it’s just that nothing is going right and there is just so much I have to do. For instance, today I have to study, clean the entire house, make dinner, then watch my roommate come home and stuff his face with the food I paid for… I don’t have to work though. I don’t want to do any of it…I’d rather sleep. It’s frustrating.

I will keep you list in mind because it was very helpful. Again, thank you!!!
 
Sarcophagus,
I certainly understand where you are coming from. I think we all have periods of time like that.

With regard to your finances, don’t focus on the lack. Focus on what you DO have and your focusing on what you do have, will grow. Show gratitiude for what is there.

I know you don’t want to be uncharitable, but if your roommate doesn’t straighten up, give him the boot. Why would you want to clean up the house, etc…if this person is basically taking advantage of your kindness. Jesus had a kind heart but wasn’t a doormat, nor should you be - right?

May I ask what you are doing for work right now? Maybe its time for a change in that area.

As far as motivation goes…I find the best way for me to motivate myself is to do things with others in mind. I am not particularly thrilled with my job, but I do try my best, most of the time, because I want my wife and son to feel proud of me. I do the laundry, clean, mow the grass, etc all in the name of someone else. In service to others. I don’t have scriptures memorized, but there are lots of references to working as if you are working for Christ, not for man…

Hope that helps a little anyway…
Brian
 
Thanks BRC!! That really made me feel better.

Right now I am a full-time student and then I work part-time at a department store. My bosses are very mean and they call me before I head to class (they have my schedule) and ask me to come in. When I say I can’t, the reprimand me by cutting my hours (they do this when I am sick as well, I have had pnuemonia for the last month and have only called in sick once because they cut my hours to one 3 hr. shift in 2 weeks). They’ve honestly asked me what I thought was more important, work or school. They’ve been very mean-spirited towards me since I answered that school was more important at the moment. I’m trying to find a new job, but no one is hiring…

I like your idea of doing everything for someone else…I will have to try that!!!

Thanks again!!
 
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sarcophagus:
I don’t have to work though.
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Sounds like work to me… even if you’re not getting paid to do it!
I have the same problem. We just have to get up and do it.
I find that if I don’t, I just get into a deeper hole, feel more hopeless and less motivated, and on and on it goes.
Hang in there.
(Speaking of, I need to get off this forum and get to my work! Thanks!)
 
Sarc,

ARE YOU KIDDING ME?!?!

You’ve talked to him twice, nothing has changed, and you are anticipating going home tonight and watching your roommate STUFF HIS FACE WITH FOOD THAT YOU BOUGHT?!!?

Get some backbone!!! You can’t AFFORD for him to be literally eating you out of house and home. If finances are tight, the last thing you need is to deal with some cheap moocher eating what you can barely manage to afford.

Tell him you are giving him exactly one more chance. If you walk in and he’s eating something that you paid for, then he will be out on his butt and you will be looking for a new roommate.

Being taken advantage of like that is just ridiculous. Do not allow it!!!

Abby
 
Gosh that time in life when you are schooling, working, housekeeping, and having a relationship is not an easy time to be in for anyone! When I was in a similar situation I simply focused myself on the future. I knew that I didn’t like the stuff I was doing, and didn’t want to do it in the future, so I forced myself to look to where I was going. I looked to graduation, a new job, and just bided my time where I was at. That was my motivation…where I would come out at.

I also think you might need to consider dumping your roommate and maybe picking up someone who is more respectful and helpful. Maybe going without a roommate altogether.
 
How is your prayer time?

I am suggesting you add one more thing to your schedule. Now before you scream at me, “Add? What are you nuts? Did you read my thread? I cannot possibly add one more thing and keep my sanity!” please hear me out.

I am a single working mom, who gets few to no breaks, no monetary support, and a child with special needs, blah blah blah. I was stressed beyond my limits and cried and worried daily.

I started scheduling more prayer time. Quiet time just with God and I (kids not allowed in my room at that time).

When I was urged by the Holy Spirit to do this, I was already getting to work late each morning and struggling to keep my temper as I “processed” my kids each morning just to get the bus on time. I was a bit upset by the urging that I add 1/2 an hour of time in the morning for quiet prayer.

Man this is really going to throw me way off - but I obeyed. Guess what? I found that the more time I dedicated to God and obeyed the request for prayer, He seemed to multiply my time. Just like the loaves and fish - but the blessing is in time.
I am not late for work, and have found my morning child processing routine has gotten easier, the kids listen better. Even my child with special needs is more cooperative.

How this works is that if I am willing to give time to God in worship and prayer, He has blessed me in return.

This has been THE SINGLE MOST IMPORTANT thing I have ever done to ease the stress in my life. I have also scheduled more Adoration time now into my busy schedule - and find God has given my family extra blessings of peace.

Baby steps - if your life is stressed, add more prayer time. Spend your drive time to work in prayer and thanksgiving.

May God bless you with the gift of peace!
 
Bob, thanks for the encouraging words…I know what you mean…if you don’t get it done now, it’s worse when you actually do it!!!

Abby & tdknick, it’s a bit more difficult than that…as I would love to get him out, I can’t. He and his girlfriend lived here before we did. They broke up, she moved out and he needed someone to move in to cover rent. We had just moved (for my schooling) and needed a place, so it seemed perfect. How little we knew. We THOUGHT it would be great since we’d been good friends with him for 5 years prior to this. Then the trouble started. At first we put up with it but then we sat him down and addressed our problems. After a while, we had to do it again. We looked into kicking him out but found out that his name is on the lease, we can’t get rid of him until the lease is up in june. We’ve considered moving out (and still are) but financial problems aren’t helping that cause very much. Plus, we’re in a really great part of the city and if, by chance, we happen to have kids before we originally planned to move from here, this would be a great place to raise them. It’s all very complicated, but we’re still deciding what to do. I’ve talked to him countless times about the food, but it’s to the point where we have to hide what food we can in our bedroom…it’s as if we have a 21 yo child. I’d kick him out in a heartbeat if I could…trust me.

jrabs, I never considered more prayer. I’m just getting into the idea of a religion, so this is very good. I think I will start!!! Thanks!!!
 
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