Can a woman propose to a man or is that frowned upon?

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So I am a very long way from ever getting married (I have never even had a girlfriend) but I always have wanted to be proposed to. I have very severe anxiety and popping the question seems scary and daunting plus why should women be the only ones getting proposals? Ideally we would decide together to get married and not have it be an out of nowhere thing but also it would be fun after to propose to each other by doing something special. Would this be bad form for a Catholic?
 
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The way you envision it (decide together, not out of nowhere, …) sounds reasonable and, in my opinion, is not bad form for Catholics or anyone.
 
But would giving each other a proposal afterwards, like a special night where ask to marry them a bad thing? Like I never liked the idea of a proposal being spontaneous and I think it needs to be a mutual decision, but I also am a bit submissive and romantic and would love to propose and be proposed to in a special way once we had to decided to get married. Would that be bad to do?
 
Like I never liked the idea of a proposal being spontaneous and I think it needs to be a mutual decision
I’m not married, but I’m pretty sure that by the time the guy is popping the question, marriage has already been discussed. She knows he’s intending to marry her, he knows she is receptive to marrying him. She may not know the exact day, time, or place he’ll propose, but it’s not a complete surprise. She shouldn’t be making that decision on the spot.
 
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Personally speaking, as a dude I see nothing wrong with a gal doing the proposing. Far as I know there’s nothing against it in the Church either.
 
My wife proposes to me all the time. She proposed that I fold our linens a certain way, she proposed that I brush my teeth more often, and she proposed that I not wear the same pair of socks two days in a row. The last one was really romantic.
 
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We just recently had something very similar posted here…

Oh, here it is:
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That I find a wife Prayer Intentions
Please pray that God sends me a devout, smart, beautiful wife that will come and ask me to be her husband.
 
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I mean, there’s no rule against it but many women do expect to be proposed to.
I have very severe anxiety and popping the question seems scary and daunting plus why should women be the only ones getting proposals?
Well, traditionally that was the point. The guy is the provider and protector so he takes the anxiety and chance of rejection upon himself to show what the woman means to him. By the time you do propose the hope is that neither of you feel anxious or afraid because you’re reasonably sure of the answer.
 
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