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cheese_sdc
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This. Good answer.missing info: what does your pastor say?
tell the youth leader you thank him for his comment, and that this is such an importan issue you feel Father should resolve it, so go to the pastor together and get his ruling. Then abide by it. Humility and obedience to the direction given by a pastor (not a lay leader unless the pastor has directly delegated him to instruct on this topic) trump personal preference in this case unless the instruction is against canon law or rubrics.