Can I be baptised?

[Densie]

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Also, I didn’t like sounding so pedantic and dry when I explained the facts in that last post. I am overjoyed that you and your husband are doing the right thing and coming to Christ in this way. I hope you will be very happy as a member of Holy Church. Welcome home!

I did not take offense. Your explaination really did help me understand. It really does make sense to me now.
Thanks Again.

 

[Densie]

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Also, I didn’t like sounding so pedantic and dry when I explained the facts in that last post. I am overjoyed that you and your husband are doing the right thing and coming to Christ in this way. I hope you will be very happy as a member of Holy Church. Welcome home!

I did not take offense. Your explaination really did help me understand. It really does make sense to me now.
Thanks Again.

 

[pablope]

So, probably, we will have to be married in the Church before Easter is what I am understanding.
Our original plan was to do that this summer (on our current wedding anniversary) but it seems as though that might need to be moved up.

Definately will need to be ironed out with my group at our next meeting…

Thank you for your insight!!

Just a thought…a convalidation need not be a big celebration. You can have your convalidation the soonest…and have another with the celebration you desire on your anniversary.

I think the more celebrations…the merrier…and you get multiple gifts…

 

[achmafooma]

Just a thought…a convalidation need not be a big celebration. You can have your convalidation the soonest…and have another with the celebration you desire on your anniversary.

I think the more celebrations…the merrier…and you get multiple gifts…

I was going to say the same thing. Since the convalidation is technically the ‘wedding’ it has to have a couple of witnesses (I think), but it can be the bride, groom, Priest, and witness(es) and that’s it.

And then you can have a full-on ceremony with lots of guests in the summer, or whenever.

I would mention this to your Priest and/or RCIA team if you think that’s what you might want to do. God bless!

 

[Densie]

I was going to say the same thing. Since the convalidation is technically the ‘wedding’ it has to have a couple of witnesses (I think), but it can be the bride, groom, Priest, and witness(es) and that’s it.

And then you can have a full-on ceremony with lots of guests in the summer, or whenever.

I would mention this to your Priest and/or RCIA team if you think that’s what you might want to do. God bless!

I’m almost too excited for Sunday! Can’t wait to figure it all out & have a plan in place.

Thank you all!!

 

[aro05]

Hi, I just wanted to ask what ended up happening? I am in a very similar situation, if not the same one!

I am unbaptised and in RCIA classes, and I was hoping to be baptised at Easter this year. And I am married (civil ceremony) to a baptised Catholic. It is the first and only marriage for both of us.

I understand and appreciate that our marriage is not recognised by the Church, and we are both happy to have it convalidated as soon as possible. However, as of now, we do live together as husband and wife. I met with my priest yesterday and we discussed what has been mentioned here- that if I were to be baptised, I would immediately be committing a sin by going back to live with my husband; it’s a bit of a conflict to say the least!

The priest is double checking and getting back to me soon, but as far as he knew, I could still be baptised and then just try my best to live chastely until my husband and I could get a convalidation in the Church. He also though that it would be at least 6 months (the usual minimum period for this parish), during which we would have to complete marriage prep. I feel very conflicted about this because I do want to be baptised and live a Catholic life from the start, but I know I could not go and live with my husband chastely- we’ve been married, albeit civilly, for a few years.

Anyway, I just wanted to know (keeping in mind that some dioceses may come to different conclusions) what you, the OP, were told? Also, my best wishes to you on your journey, I hope everything works out!

 

[poche]

Maybe you could be baptized at or immediatly before your wedding. Or maybe you could get married at the Easter Vigil? Talk to the priest about it.

 

[Densie]

The conclusion that we came to is that I can have my marriage convalidated as soon as I talk to the priest to set up a date (which I have yet to do…busy week) and I will be all set for baptisim at the Easter Vigil. It is a fairly small parish and I was told that the priest is very willing to help make it happen.

My friend (Jodi, above) however, has to wait until next year for baptism. Her situation has to be reviewed in a tribunal hearing (?, sorry if my terms are a little off) before her marriage can be convalidated and that won’t happen before Easter.

 

[aro05]

Thanks very much for your reply, it’s helpful to hear not only that other people are in my situation, but also what kinds of solutions there are.

Good luck to you, and thanks again for replying!

 

[achmafooma]

The conclusion that we came to is that I can have my marriage convalidated as soon as I talk to the priest to set up a date (which I have yet to do…busy week) and I will be all set for baptisim at the Easter Vigil. It is a fairly small parish and I was told that the priest is very willing to help make it happen.

My friend (Jodi, above) however, has to wait until next year for baptism. Her situation has to be reviewed in a tribunal hearing (?, sorry if my terms are a little off) before her marriage can be convalidated and that won’t happen before Easter.

Glad to hear that you’ll have this resolved for the Vigil!

With your friend, most likely either she or her husband had a previous marriage that will need to be reviewed by a tribunal. Any previous marriages would need to be annulled before a convalidation could occur.

God bless! And best wishes as you continue in your faith journey!