Can I get an advice? Please?

[Arnold1N2D]

Hello everyone. Since I have no one to talk to about my problems because the problems are, in fact, are those my family members. I don’t know what to do really.

I am 21, currently teaching in elementary grade.

I live with my mother (my father is in Dubai, working) and two younger sisters.

I am grateful to God that I am here in this world. I am also aware of the fact that my mother toiled for us all especially when she gave birth to us. I know her pain.

My mother favors my youngest sister (why? because whenever I correct my younger sister the way she does, she’s defending her) for my second younger sister (just okay), but when it comes to me it seems as if she has some anger in her heart that pertains to me. I don’t know really, but I can feel it. I really don’t know if this is the way I should feel the love that comes from a family. My relationship with her is like the light bulb, sometimes it’s open, sometime’s it’s not. I don’t know!

And always, whenever she washes the dishes, she drops the plates and utensils hard, I could hear the thumping of the objects and it go straightly into my heart… I feel she was doing it on purpose and it affects my mental state. Maybe because it was of the trauma on how she treated me years ago… like a simple human weakness like forgetting to bring what she wanted be to bring, she said to me harsh words. You know my brothers and sisters, I am sad to say to my cross in life is my own family.

I have no one to talk to… I have no one to share this with… I need help… I don’t want to die in vain.

Help me…

Please?

 

[Arnold1N2D]

As for my younger sister. She’s someone who acts the second mother and whenever I do something she likes to suggest what best way to do that something, while I know what is the best way to do it…

Tell me everything brothers and sisters… I’m gonna listen…

And what is the best response to them? I wanna love like Christ… really…

 

[Lou2U]

I think the relationship between you and your sister sounds pretty typical for siblings, to be honest. Stop correcting her though, it’s not your job to correct your sister. Just don’t engage with her if she suggests something.

Perhaps your mother comes down harder on you because you’re the eldest, particularly if you’re squabbling with your sisters.

I think when your relationship with your mother is open, you could try and talk to her about the way she makes you feel, and you feel maybe she is angry with you. Have you tried speaking openly to her before?

 

[Arnold1N2D]

I think the relationship between you and your sister sounds pretty typical for siblings, to be honest. Stop correcting her though, it’s not your job to correct your sister. Just don’t engage with her if she suggests something.

Perhaps your mother comes down harder on you because you’re the eldest, particularly if you’re squabbling with your sisters.

I think when your relationship with your mother is open, you could try and talk to her about the way she makes you feel, and you feel maybe she is angry with you. Have you tried speaking openly to her before?

I speak to her when all things seem normal, but if I talked to her about my feelings to her… no

 

[Retsel]

Until you get your own place you’ll never fully understand!

The Birth Order Book, Kevin Leman may help.

 

[Lou2U]

I speak to her when all things seem normal, but if I talked to her about my feelings to her… no

I think you should try. She won’t know that you perceive her to be angry with you, and there will be no resolution until she does.

 

[Tecnologgamer]

I speak to her when all things seem normal, but if I talked to her about my feelings to her… no

Have you try talk about her feelings? Maybe if you try to open to her that you want to know what bother her to help her and have a healthy relationship. I guess you mother thinks that you are trying to be the leader when you correct you young sister, so you could warn your mother about your sisters flaws instead correct yourself.

 

[Norseman82]

What are you correcting your sister on? Is it something major, or are you nagging about unimportant matters?