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Heartorque
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I thought that dropping pounds and becoming healthier would make me happier. But why do I feel the opposite? What is the matter with me, what should I do?
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BartholomewB
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I think you should ask a doctor. A comments thread, at CAF or anywhere else, isn’t the place to go for medical advice.
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Gertabelle
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I’m in the process of losing weight, started in January.
I’ve lost about 35 pounds, and still have another 55 to go.
Losing weight has been great for my sleep, for my energy levels, for my knees and ankles and hips…
But it hasn’t actually changed my life. As much as I think there’s an improvement in my appearance and my health, my life is still pretty much the same as it was back in January. I’m still single. My finances still confuse and frustrate me. I’m still a mom. I’m still a teacher. I’m still lazy. My home is still cluttered. I still have piles of laundry that need to be sorted and put away.
I think it’s easy to feel a little down during and after weight loss, when one experiences the reality that losing weight will not actually change one’s life.
Losing weight will likely extend my life, and it is definitely making my quality of life better. But in spite of what we see in commercials, we will not live happily ever after because we lose weight.
Anyway, that’s the reality I’m currently living. And it’s also why I’ve allowed myself to seriously slow down the weight loss, so I can let reality sink in and I can choose to lose weight for my health and to serve God. I’m only losing about 1/2 a pound a week, but it’s been good to let go of the fairy tales about weight loss.
@Heartorque God bless you in your efforts to improve your health. This does indeed honor God for the gift of life He has given you!
I’ve lost about 35 pounds, and still have another 55 to go.
Losing weight has been great for my sleep, for my energy levels, for my knees and ankles and hips…
But it hasn’t actually changed my life. As much as I think there’s an improvement in my appearance and my health, my life is still pretty much the same as it was back in January. I’m still single. My finances still confuse and frustrate me. I’m still a mom. I’m still a teacher. I’m still lazy. My home is still cluttered. I still have piles of laundry that need to be sorted and put away.
I think it’s easy to feel a little down during and after weight loss, when one experiences the reality that losing weight will not actually change one’s life.
Losing weight will likely extend my life, and it is definitely making my quality of life better. But in spite of what we see in commercials, we will not live happily ever after because we lose weight.
Anyway, that’s the reality I’m currently living. And it’s also why I’ve allowed myself to seriously slow down the weight loss, so I can let reality sink in and I can choose to lose weight for my health and to serve God. I’m only losing about 1/2 a pound a week, but it’s been good to let go of the fairy tales about weight loss.
@Heartorque God bless you in your efforts to improve your health. This does indeed honor God for the gift of life He has given you!
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Tis_Bearself
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Your metabolism can be affected by the change in eating habits. If this is the case, you will feel better over time when your body gets used to not having the fatty/ sugary/ high calorie etc stuff you cut out.
Also, if you had some expectation that your life would change somehow by losing weight, and that didn’t happen, you may feel disappointed. Losing weight just makes us thinner and sometimes healthier. It does not magically solve our problems or jazz up our lives or get us a relationship partner or a more exciting job, etc.
Finally, it’s possible that you have an underlying clinical depression. If this persists beyond the short term and/or is severe enough to interfere with your daily activities, see a mental health professional.
Also, if you had some expectation that your life would change somehow by losing weight, and that didn’t happen, you may feel disappointed. Losing weight just makes us thinner and sometimes healthier. It does not magically solve our problems or jazz up our lives or get us a relationship partner or a more exciting job, etc.
Finally, it’s possible that you have an underlying clinical depression. If this persists beyond the short term and/or is severe enough to interfere with your daily activities, see a mental health professional.
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Xanthippe_Voorhees
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We’re learning a lot about how gut bacteria affects mood.
If you’ve changed your eating habits the bacteria that make you crave sugar and junk are dying off. They are unhappy and they can make you unhappy.
There are a few cleansing foods, garlic, oatmeal, real fermented pickles, etc that can help get those craving bacteria to stop screaming.
A good nutritionalist who knows about this can help guide you in what to cut out and what to keep. Often times people’s “cheat” food is enough to allow that bacteria to survive and just scream louder and louder.
If not that, then a regular MD who can let you know what kind of doctor you should be seeing.
If you’ve changed your eating habits the bacteria that make you crave sugar and junk are dying off. They are unhappy and they can make you unhappy.
There are a few cleansing foods, garlic, oatmeal, real fermented pickles, etc that can help get those craving bacteria to stop screaming.
A good nutritionalist who knows about this can help guide you in what to cut out and what to keep. Often times people’s “cheat” food is enough to allow that bacteria to survive and just scream louder and louder.
If not that, then a regular MD who can let you know what kind of doctor you should be seeing.
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7_Sorrows
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Congratulations on your weight loss so far!
It is not easy losing weight. It takes hard work and discipline.
About 22 years ago i lost about 80 pounds.
I felt better getting the weight off, but i did it the wrong way - practically starving myself.
The hardest part after you lose the weight
is keeping the weight off.
I need to start again. The older you are, the harder it gets!
Good luck with the rest of your weight loss! Keep up the good work.
It is not easy losing weight. It takes hard work and discipline.
About 22 years ago i lost about 80 pounds.
I felt better getting the weight off, but i did it the wrong way - practically starving myself.
The hardest part after you lose the weight
is keeping the weight off.
I need to start again. The older you are, the harder it gets!
Good luck with the rest of your weight loss! Keep up the good work.
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7_Sorrows
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Well, you still have daily life to deal with.
I am happy for you losing the weight and
becoming healthier. That is something you should be proud of because you were motivated and disciplined and you set a goal of weight loss and accomplished it!
So don’t downplay what you have accomplished. Tackling daily life takes the same motivation and discipline. It sounds like you need to set new goals for yourself. Your focus was on weight loss and you did it! Now you need a new focus.
I am happy for you losing the weight and
becoming healthier. That is something you should be proud of because you were motivated and disciplined and you set a goal of weight loss and accomplished it!
So don’t downplay what you have accomplished. Tackling daily life takes the same motivation and discipline. It sounds like you need to set new goals for yourself. Your focus was on weight loss and you did it! Now you need a new focus.
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Dlee
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Please make sure you talk to your doctor. We cannot give medical advice.
My current situation - I have lost 45 lbs. I pray for God’s help. At times, my anxiety kicks in because I’m thinking about food most of the time. Food gives me pleasure. So it makes sense that if you remove that pleasure, you could be sad. For me, losing weight takes place in my mind - it’s a different thought process. Yes, your health improves, but you still live in the same life and place. Congratulations and keep going!
My current situation - I have lost 45 lbs. I pray for God’s help. At times, my anxiety kicks in because I’m thinking about food most of the time. Food gives me pleasure. So it makes sense that if you remove that pleasure, you could be sad. For me, losing weight takes place in my mind - it’s a different thought process. Yes, your health improves, but you still live in the same life and place. Congratulations and keep going!
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FollowChrist34
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Right. I think losing weight affects hormone levels, brain activity, all sorts of things. I don’t know that it is a higher risk for depression as weight gain is very depressing 24/7 while weight loss can cause depression sometimes, so you are still ahead with weight loss to my mind. It does take time to adjust to changes in diet, whatever they are. I find drinking tea, black, green or white is quite helpful at stabilizing moods. I think there is some truth to that old adage about having a cup of tea when you are unsettled, stressed, etc. as sort of a calming remedy. Best part of it - no calories - unless you toss in a few cookies, so we can’t do that!! 
Or not too often anyway.
Or not too often anyway.
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JoeVaghn
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The only viable reason that I can comprehend is that since you are becoming healthier, you are leaving behind old ways that you use to live be; this is causing a subconscious ‘nostalgia’ for you how you use to live. Even though you do not notice it, your brain is deep down not use to the new changes yet, even though you consciously are excited and want to do it, this is something that is subconscious. Give it time, the same thing happened to me with something else, but not with this specifically. Hope this advice helped in some way.
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IWantGod
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I’m happy.
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F_Marturana
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I’ve lost about 30 in a similar time period.
Weird things are better. My feet, I used to have symptoms of plantar fasciitis, now I feel fine. I’m more energetic so I can walk and not feel tired.
I still have laundry piles. I think they might be multiplying.
Weird things are better. My feet, I used to have symptoms of plantar fasciitis, now I feel fine. I’m more energetic so I can walk and not feel tired.
I still have laundry piles. I think they might be multiplying.
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