Hi,
This is very sketchy. I assume that the lover is a man and that the priest is leaving the priesthood without the Church’s permission. I hope this is a hypothetical question.
The principle of double effect is a set of ethical criteria for evaluating the permissibility of acting when one’s otherwise legitimate act (for example, relieving a terminally ill patient’s pain) will also cause an effect one would normally be obliged to avoid (for example, the patient’s death.)
This set of criteria states that an action having foreseen harmful effects practically inseparable from the good effect is justifiable if upon satisfaction of the following:
the nature of the act is itself good, or at least morally neutral;
the agent intends the good effect and not the bad either as a means to the good or as an end itself;
the good effect outweighs the bad effect in circumstances sufficiently grave to justify causing the bad effect and the agent exercises due diligence to minimize the harm.
Even leaving the priesthood WITH permission–to live a life style that the Church considers mortally sinful, is not a neutral act. It is a moral evil. The principal of double effect cannot apply.
Fr. Vincent Serpa, O.P.