Cancer support?

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My mom is dying a wretched painful death from cancer. It’s filling her body with hideously painful tumors and she’s wasting away like a freaking sekelton!! My family all acts like everything is ok and nothing is happening. Mom wont talk about anything and every time I try to talk with my sisters it turns into, “I feel bad too so shut up.” My family is not allowing me to have any feelings or express any of these feelings and I feel like I’m being kept on the outside while they all band together and support one another. I had to come east to Massachusetts from Alaska leaving behind my friends, my job, my university and my Catholic community. I’m totally alone and totally isolated. I don’t even know which way to drive to the dang store!!! I’m getting married this summer but my fiance lives in Scotland and he has to be there to run his farm so I’m thousands of miles away from him and my Scottish friends as well. I called the local Hospice but they told me they can’t help me until my mom enrolls in hospice care. Mom totally refuses. There’s a “group therapy” type thing that meets twice a month but they only discuss pre-arranged topics and none of those topics are what I’m trying to deal with. I find free help on-line but it’s only for patients and their primary care givers. I’m not a care giver. I just sit on the sofa and mom ignores me while I’m there 99% of the time so I don’t know what I am. Useless mass?
I don’t know what to do. I don’t know where to turn. (even if I did I wouldn’t even know how to drive there!!!) I feel totally and utterly alone in this. I want to find a way to get help dealing with mom dying so that I’m not going mad and in therapy two years down the road and ruining my marriage!!
Why is it so hard for a woman to get help when her mother is dying of cancer??? This just doesn’t make any sense.
The good news is, I’m a member of a good parish. But like, I can’t just walk around whining about “My mom is dying and I’m so sad” to anyone that will hear me. They don’t need to carry this burden.
Can the Catholic church help me? Is it ok to contact a Priest and ask to meet and talk and get his help dealing with this as a Catholic?
Arrrrg I’m so lost!
 
By all means visit a priest. He can counsel you and hook you up with a Catholic Cancer Support Group.
 
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You have a lot to deal with and this has to be a very trying time for you. Please pray and God will help you through this.
Yes, go ahead and talk to a priest at a Catholic church, you may have to make an appointment, but they are always willing to help.
Another thought would be the Cancer Society, I know in Canada there is a helpline for this, the States probably has something similar. You will be in my prayers. PM me if you need to talk. God Bless you.
 
I know the feeling. When my mom was dying and she was in all that pain I would just want to die myself. I did have the support of many brothers and sisters, but that didn’t stop the sympathy pains and lonliness that I felt for her. If you don’t have siblings than get into a support group it really helps. The worst thing that you can do is keep it to yourself. We are made for each other so find the help and lay it out. With time things will get better. God Bless you and your mom one other thing is to keep praying that also helps.

My prayers are with you and your family
Kathleen
 
cancercare.org/ They helped my family when I was sick. Web forums about her particular cancer have alot of info as well. But most of all The Lord will be most comforting. I like the book of Job and Pauline writings. Your mom may like you to read to her. Give it all you have , without fear, You both are in my prayers, Tim
 
First of all you are in my prayers! Second of all you can order Sacramentals that can help you and your mom! They are powerful. Read about them at: cukierski.net There lots of good help there!

I am praying for you and your mother!

Blessings,
Joanie
 
You and your mom are in my prayers, Michelle. It feels awful not to be able to take away a loved one’s pain. I watched two aunts die of lung cancer… But to not have anyone around to even talk to about it! I can’t imagine. If you have anything you really want to discuss, you can always vent on here. I wish I had better suggestions for you, but know you will definetly be in my prayers. God Bless…
 
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