I can’t tell you whether or not you are “always making problems” or if “it’s [your] fault.” What I can say is that it’s normal for young adults to forge a life for themselves where they make their own decisions and are responsible for whatever results from those decisions.
In my case, I had overprotective parents who were, at the time, physically, psychologically and emotionally healthy. I also had a full-time job and a full-time course load in college. I was not running with a bad crowd nor in trouble with the law. I thought my parents should allow me to make some decisions for myself and told them so. We did not argue about it. If I knew I couldn’t come home when I said that I would, I called and let them know so they wouldn’t worry. In this way, they eventually realized that they needed to let me be an adult. I moved out when I was 21. Though I visit as often as I am able (we live on different continents), I have never returned to live with them.
@Tis_Bearself’s circumstances were different. She chose to go along with her mother’s wishes until she could move out, which, from the sound of things, was the wisest and kindest option available to her.
Each of us chooses how to proceed in this situation based upon what specific details we must consider. The right thing for you and your parents might be what I did, what Bear did, or something else entirely. The bottom line, however, is that going skating is not unreasonable for someone of your age. Your mother and father must know that, since it appears that they didn’t forbid you from doing it. If you decided not to go anyway in order to avoid upsetting them, then that was your choice…but you could have gone. It’s not a matter of “I can’t.”
