Catholic married in Anglican church

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I’m a Catholic who married in an Anglican Church - please help/advise!

I got married in an Anglican service as my partner comes from that tradition and at the time I was a lapsed/ cradle catholic and had fallen astray.

At the time I didn’t really consider myself a practicing Catholic and as my husband wasn’t felt it wasn’t fair for him to have to marry in a Catholic Church - I was also unaware of the necessity for a dispensation as sinful as that is 😦

I have since come back to the church and received the sacrament of reconciliation and communion, confessing among many things my non catholic marriage and how much I regret this.

My priest absolved me and said he can easily organise our marriage to be recognised with some paperwork but this has had to be delayed due to covid and probably now due to Christmas ( I have asked if we can get the ball rolling) and am awaiting his response.

He said A few weeks back the fact that I am trying to get it sorted but am temporarily prevented means I don’t have to worry.

I am confused as to what this means about my marriage and whether or not it is a mortal sin to engage in sex and affection with my partner until this has been sorted out?

And if so how to explain this to him without seeming unloving. I am also going through a health trial ( ironically this brought me back to my faith and it is stronger than ever)

I am also concerned about whether I can receive communion - even though I have done since confessing this with my priests permission.

Very anxious and would appreciate some insight/ advice
Thank you in advance xxx
 
I’m not trying to be snarky but this is something to be dealt with at your parish priest level. Not strangers on the internet on forums that won’t exist in three weeks. All these questions should and can be addressed by your priest. Call, schedule a time, and speak with him.

I understand your concerns and. All I’ll say is that I think you will be pleased and comforted once you speak to your priest. I sympathize with you and pray your health and spiritual journeys have incredibly positive outcomes!
 
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Hi David
Thanks for your message. Don’t find it snarky at all - haven’t been able to speak to priest yet but have emailed. Will try and call tomorrow I think. Was just seeing if anyone else had gone through something similar In the meantime I guess as causing me a lot of anxiety. Appreciate you taking the time to reply and your kind words. :pray:t2:
 
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I am confused as to what this means about my marriage and whether or not it is a mortal sin to engage in sex and affection with my partner until this has been sorted out?
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The answer is actually yes you should refrain from sex until your marriage is regularised.
If you confessed and were absolved you may receive Communion but not if you have had sex since confessing.
Surely waiting for a few weeks or whatever out of a whole lifetime can’t be too much of a sacrifice.
 
Thank you for response. I am going to try and call priest later today and also talk to my husband. Yes we have refrained since my confession -also in part due to my illness.

Really hoping we can get the ball rolling soon with the validation. I feel real sorrow about not marrying in the Church to start with and would definitely urge anyone baptised Catholic reading this who is considering an Anglican or other service to strongly reconsider or ensure they get dispensation as so many of us are called back to the faith even after going astray, which if course great grace even if it means some sacrifices, but it is always best to honour this special sacrament . My husband isn’t Catholic but I also pray he will come to the faith too.
 
Just to say thanks again for people’s responses - I just had a talk with my priest.

He said I didn’t need to worry as God knows what’s in my heart and that I’m trying to get it sorted but unfortunately it is impossible to do it logistically until the new year. He mentioned offices not being open Etc. I didn’t ask him directly about lovemaking but he said I can still receive communion. Trying not to be too anxious about the whole thing - I just want to do what’s right by God and the Church but also honour my husband if that makes sense.
 
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