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Pixie_Dust
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I hear you, Edwin. But the Bishops you mention aren’t very Episcopalian, either, if you go back to your C of E roots and do some comparing and contrasting.
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pgerpup
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Thank you Orchanian! Thank you for seeing what I’m here for! Does your husband go to Mass with you? I wonder if I could make 7:30 Eucharist at my church and stay for Sunday School then beat it to his church and be with him?
That would take some divine intervention, but if you consider that I’m not going to communion then would it matter if I were late?
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pgerpup
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Yes, Edwin, we do love to drag out our differences and kick them around, don’t we? I’m not totally comfortable with the decisions of General Convention, but that isn’t why I’m here. I’m here to get some advice and some understanding on the new controversy in a very old and happy marriage.
Lovelies, Edwin really has hit the nail on the head with his last sentence. We Episcopalians firmly believe that we all sin and fall short of the glory of God. We can’t help it. We’re human and flawed.
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Orchanian
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My husband does not go to Mass with me. I expect that will not happen until he is ready to convert or at a funeral. I wish it were not that way as I would love to receive the sacraments as a family. But I’ll wait for God’s timing. I know He is working in my life and in my husband’s.Thank you Orchanian! Thank you for seeing what I’m here for! Does your husband go to Mass with you? I wonder if I could make 7:30 Eucharist at my church and stay for Sunday School then beat it to his church and be with him?
As for arriving late, that’s not a perfect solution, but if your husband sits near the back or on a side where you’re arrival isn’t a distraction, it would be okay, I guess. You might want to let the Catholic priest know that’s what you’re doing (out of courtesy).
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emeraldcoast
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Hi Orchanian,
There have been a couple of posts on this forum that apparently state that going up to Communion with your arms crossed to receive a blessing is not proper at a Roman Catholic Church. I could not believe that a blessing would be denied to a fellow Christian after already denying them the body and blood of our Lord Jesus Christ. Let me try and find the post for you…
forums.catholic-questions.org/showthread.php?t=292341
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emeraldcoast
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Pgerpup,
Looks like you have been introduced to this forum’s anti-Episcopal Church member…lol
God Bless!
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Orchanian
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That surprises me because children and those not able to receive in our parish often receive a blessing. And our parish is VERY orthodox in its practices. On the other hand, when in Alabama at the Shrine of the Blessed Sacrament (Mother Angelica’s) I noticed that the priest did not give the young children a blessing when they went up to the rail for communion. I wonder if it is a diocesan decision. Clearly some parishes have this practice. I like it because it allows my son to go up with the community even though he is not yet old enough for communion. But, if it’s against canon law, then it is settled. May be a good question for Ask and Apologist.
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emeraldcoast
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I totally agree with you, Orchanian. My experience has been with our non-Catholic children attending a Catholic school and receiving the blessing at Communion. I was very surprised when I came across the blessing not really being “kosher”.
God Bless!
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Justy90
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Your priest in my opinion is propagating hatred and intolerance by telling you not to attend your husband’s church. How would he rightfully expect your husband to attend the Catholic church with you in having those kinds of opinions? When my wife and I met some 10 years ago, I was Catholic and she didn’t have a regular church that she attended. We were married in the Catholic church while she was starting RCIA classes. During the next several weeks, I made the decision to leave Catholicism for many reasons. My wife discontinued RCIA and within the next 3 or so months were received into the Episcopal church. In the fall of 2007, about 3/4 of the Episcopal church that we attended (including our priest) split away from the Episcopal church and joined the mainstream of Anglicanism much in line with many of the African and South American Diocese of the Anglican Communion. For several months to follow, it was an absolute mess. Bottom line is that here today, we are both very happy along with our 6 year old son in the newly formed ACNA (Anglican Church in North America) and we are together as Anglicans worshipping every Sunday!Hello Lovelies,
I’m not sure I am posting this question in the right place so if it is in the wrong place please feel free to move it.
Here is my question. I am a cradle Episcopalian. My husband grew up Catholic. Hubby went to Catholic school in our home town. Something went wrong and he was asked by the school to go to public school. That’s where we met. 40 years ago. We got married right out of high school and he never voiced to me that he was interested in going to the Catholic Church. He was in the military for many years and during that time I would occasionally attend the “non-denominational” service at the base chapel.Let’s face it we were unchurched during his military career. When we settled here for good, I decided it was time to find an Episcopal church and get back to my roots. I never pushed him to come with me. He volunteered. So for 16 years he has been attending the Episcopal church with me.
Well, as we all know, the Episcopal church is going through some very serious struggles. He decided to leave the Episcopal church to go back to the Catholic church. Ok. I struggled at first, but I’m getting better about it. So what could be the problem? He hates going to church by himself. He wants me to come with him, but well, golly, I’m an Episcopalian. Your Mass is very familiar to me. He goes to communion and I’m sitting in the pew. We’ve been attending Saturday vigil and then I get up Sunday morning and go to church. Alone.
How do other couples who are two different religions handle going to two different churches? I spoke to my priest and he said I shouldn’t go to church with my husband, but that didn’t work. I folded the very next weekend.
Does anyone have any advice? Anyone out there have a similar situation? BTW please be kind. I’m very sad about this whole situation. Thanks.
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Roman_Catholic_1
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pgerpup is Episcopalian. Her priest is Episcopalian. Not going to a Catholic Church was his advice in the first place. I think you have mixed up who was, “propagating hatred and intolerance”. It wasn’t a Catholic priest.
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Adonia
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When we first married, my wife was Lutheren. Sometimes we went to church there, other times we went to the Catholic church. But we always went together. That’s how we did it. We don’t have that problem anymore though, she converted to Catholicism a few years ago. But I still would have been glad to go to the Lutheren church with her if she hadn’t converted.
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Ernest1
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Prayer helps me quite abit and so I attend the Catholic Mass by myself regularly and when I’m feeling lonely without my wife. I try to remember that I’m not really alone. All the other Catholics throughout the world are with me too. All the Saints in Heaven, our Blessed Virgin Mary and most importantly Jesus is there body, blood, soul and divinity. There are times where it’s important to be submissive to one another so, I’ll attend a service with my wife now and then and she’ll attend the mass with me. I’m certainly ok with not participating fully within the protestant church. When I’m there, I’ll take in the good and filter out the bad. I’ve got no problem really just sitting there either as I’ll pray for my wife. God Bless you both
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Cathhsmom
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I know that you talked to your priest, Episcopal, but have you tried talking to his priest, Catholic? Maybe, your husband needs to hear from his priest that it is ok to go to both Catholic mass and the Episcopal services. (Sorry, but I don’t know the official term for you church service.) It also would not hurt to talk to him, the Catholic priest, about how you feel at Mass. I know that in our missals they have a short couple of paragraphs addressed to those fellow Christians visiting our church about not recieving communion and a prayer for a spiritual communion.
BTW, here where I live, we actually have an Episcopal and Catholic church. It is a joint church with, from what others have told me, has 2 altars, one for the Catholic priest and 1 for the Episcopal priest. Too bad that you don’t have this closer to you. Then you could go to church together!
Also, I am a convert who was married in the Catholic church. I became Catholic 2 years after we were married. So, I spent many Masses in the pews. Don’t feel lonely. Even today, there are times where I don’t go up for communion. There are many of us who know that there is an unconfessed sin that needs to be absolved before we present ourselves for communion. So, it isn’t just the non-Catholics who should not recieve but also, those of us, Catholics, who are not in a state of grace.
I will add you and your husband to my prayers.
BTW, here where I live, we actually have an Episcopal and Catholic church. It is a joint church with, from what others have told me, has 2 altars, one for the Catholic priest and 1 for the Episcopal priest. Too bad that you don’t have this closer to you. Then you could go to church together!
Also, I am a convert who was married in the Catholic church. I became Catholic 2 years after we were married. So, I spent many Masses in the pews. Don’t feel lonely. Even today, there are times where I don’t go up for communion. There are many of us who know that there is an unconfessed sin that needs to be absolved before we present ourselves for communion. So, it isn’t just the non-Catholics who should not recieve but also, those of us, Catholics, who are not in a state of grace.
I will add you and your husband to my prayers.
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pgerpup
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Thank you all for being sweet and trying to help. I’m stepping away and pray all of you will have many blessings. While this continues to be a sore spot, I’m dwelling on it way too much and I need to let it go.
Much happiness and God’s peace to all.
Much happiness and God’s peace to all.
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