hi thank you for your answer
but i hope that you could give me generally how should i treat others… maybe respect,kindness and etc… just like how catholic teaching should be…
All right, and remember, you ASKED me!
Well, those are all kind of fuzzy. What does ‘kindness’ mean? Does it mean that rather than ‘hurt someone’s feelings’ that you lie? (Some people think that if you tell them something is sinful, you’re being ‘unkind’ or 'disrespectful.)
As Catholics we follow two great commandments.
Love the Lord with all your heart, soul, mind, and strength.
Love your neighbor as yourself.
But you must also know the Lord, not just serve some being or some ideal that you ‘think’ is God. Some people say they love God with all their heart, but they mistreat their family. Like they donate money to “God’s work” and make their family dress not even in ‘simple’ clothing but in actual rags, because, “the money should be only for GOD and my family should sacrifice everything for God.” This person doesn’t know God at all and has made up some ‘being’ in God’s place, and has hurt his own family.
And you must know yourself. If your conscience isn’t properly formed in obedience to the Church, you might THINK that all kinds of things are fine (abortion in case of rape, remarriage after divorce, sex before marriage, lying, cheating to get a good grade and a better job, etc. etc.) but if you know the truth and try to follow it you will know your real self, not the one that ‘blows in the wind’ following whatever society decides is the ‘thing to do’.
So you need to spend a lot of time living the gospel. . .and to do that you need to READ the Bible constantly to know all about why and how God has come to us and what it means. You need to pray constantly, with both ‘rote’ prayers like the Our Father, but said with meaning and understanding. . .as well as spontaneous prayers. You need to build a relationship with God. . . and so you must also LISTEN to Him. And it is hard because when we are ‘waiting in silence’ we often hear our OWN voices telling us what we are willing to do for God, instead of having Him tell us what He wants for us to do. . .so again, we need to turn to the Church for guidance so we know if what we are hearing or feeling in our heart is truly GOD speaking to us or not. . .
And when we listen to Him, he tells us how to act toward our brothers and sisters and gives us guidance, because we don’t treat people ‘exactly the same’. If you had two children, and one was gifted in dance and the other gifted in electronics, would you make the dancer stop dancing because, ‘your brother can’t dance as well as you and I want to treat you both JUST THE SAME and not tell your brother that YOU dance better’. Of course not, you would give both children the opportunity to pursue the talent that each one preferred, not stop them from doing things they liked lest they hurt a siblings’ feelings.
Life is both simple and complicated. It’s complicated because people and situations are all so very different. It’s simple because if we love God and listen to Him, He’ll help us THROUGH all the complicated stuff!!
