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Hi all,

I and my fiancee will be getting married in December '08. She is not Catholic so we will probably not be having a Mass. I have one question. We were told by the priest that the wedding party (those “standing up” in support of us) will be sitting to the sides of us during the wedding. Is this a required Catholic practice, or am I in a unique parish? I was particularly struck by the beautiful pictures of the Tridentine wedding that were put up here, in which the wedding party was actually standing up! Thanks for your help.

God Bless

Jon
 
my advice to you is this. I am not a Priest of Catholic Church.

Think about the Future you have after the Wedding day…

having a Children, where do you want to baptize?
one of you will suffer a Problem, and many married couples was separated because of Religion and Belief.

And According to the Bible

2 Corinthians 6:14-15

14Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? 15What harmony is there between Christ and Belial[a]? What does a believer have in common with an unbeliever?

DEUTERONOMY 7:3-4

Do not intermarry with them. Do not give your daughters to their sons or take their daughters for your sons, 4 for they will turn your sons away from following me to serve other gods, and the LORD’s anger will burn against you and will quickly destroy you.

NEHEMIAH 13:26-27
26 Was it not because of marriages like these that Solomon king of Israel sinned? Among the many nations there was no king like him. He was loved by his God, and God made him king over all Israel, but even he was led into sin by foreign women. 27 Must we hear now that you too are doing all this terrible wickedness and are being unfaithful to our God by marrying foreign women?"

God bless… and take care…

Think about it.
 
Sparcz said:
my advice to you is this. I am not a Priest of Catholic Church.

Think about the Future you have after the Wedding day…

having a Children, where do you want to baptize?
one of you will suffer a Problem, and many married couples was separated because of Religion and Belief.

And According to the Bible

2 Corinthians 6:14-15

14Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? 15What harmony is there between Christ and Belial[a]? What does a believer have in common with an unbeliever?

DEUTERONOMY 7:3-4

Do not intermarry with them. Do not give your daughters to their sons or take their daughters for your sons, 4 for they will turn your sons away from following me to serve other gods, and the LORD’s anger will burn against you and will quickly destroy you.

NEHEMIAH 13:26-27
26 Was it not because of marriages like these that Solomon king of Israel sinned? Among the many nations there was no king like him. He was loved by his God, and God made him king over all Israel, but even he was led into sin by foreign women. 27 Must we hear now that you too are doing all this terrible wickedness and are being unfaithful to our God by marrying foreign women?"

God bless… and take care…

Think about it.
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In all fairness, intermarriage is permitted by the Church with a dispensation, and there are many interfaith couples who go on to have wonderful lives together. I myself am married to a Jewish woman, and we have found our backgrounds surprisingly compatible. She even comments from time to time that she views Catholics as the only real Christians, and she is well aware of the existence of the Orthodox.

But aside from that, you are right that these marriages should only be entered into after prayer and careful consideration.

JonW,

I’m sorry that I do not know the answer to your question. All I can tell you is that a Tridentine wedding is absolutely beautiful whether the wedding party is standing or not. The same goes for a reverent NO wedding when it’s done right.
 
JonW said:
Hi all,

I and my fiancee will be getting married in December '08. She is not Catholic so we will probably not be having a Mass. I have one question. We were told by the priest that the wedding party (those “standing up” in support of us) will be sitting to the sides of us during the wedding. Is this a required Catholic practice, or am I in a unique parish? I was particularly struck by the beautiful pictures of the Tridentine wedding that were put up here, in which the wedding party was actually standing up! Thanks for your help.

God Bless

Jon
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I got married 32 years ago. We were called to stand in the sanctuary to give our consent and exchange rings, our witnesses remained outside the sanctuary.
 
Fuerza said:
In all fairness, intermarriage is permitted by the Church with a dispensation, and there are many interfaith couples who go on to have wonderful lives together. I myself am married to a Jewish woman, and we have found our backgrounds surprisingly compatible. She even comments from time to time that she views Catholics as the only real Christians, and she is well aware of the existence of the Orthodox.

But aside from that, you are right that these marriages should only be entered into after prayer and careful consideration.

JonW,

I’m sorry that I do not know the answer to your question. All I can tell you is that a Tridentine wedding is absolutely beautiful whether the wedding party is standing or not. The same goes for a reverent NO wedding when it’s done right.
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Hi Fuerza, all you give is your own Idea or man Made teaching, Catholic Church did not Read any kind Text in any Scriptures about the Wedding, who make the First Couple, and also the Duty of Being Husband and Wife. all they have to do is to Say something that is not related and make a Story about the fairytales, more Un-biblical process. That is why the couple did not know their Responsibilities being Husband and Wife. Enjoy the wedding for that day and after that day, they Argue and Separate. I am Just posted what the Bible teaching about the wedding. Wedding is not like a Game. It is Life time Commitment until the one will die. Divorce is also not Acceptable to God.

God tell everything what is Good for Us. You must obey Him and He Direct your path.
 
Sparcz said:
Hi Fuerza, all you give is your own Idea or man Made teaching, Catholic Church did not Read any kind Text in any Scriptures about the Wedding, who make the First Couple, and also the Duty of Being Husband and Wife. all they have to do is to Say something that is not related and make a Story about the fairytales, more Un-biblical process. That is why the couple did not know their Responsibilities being Husband and Wife. Enjoy the wedding for that day and after that day, they Argue and Separate. I am Just posted what the Bible teaching about the wedding. Wedding is not like a Game. It is Life time Commitment until the one will die. Divorce is also not Acceptable to God.

God tell everything what is Good for Us. You must obey Him and He Direct your path.
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Why do you capitalize random words? Most of those cannot conceivably be turned into proper nouns… are you referring to Platonic Forms?
 
My husband and I had a Tridentine Mass for our wedding this past June. The priest originally said that all but the maid of honor and best man would be sitting during our vows. I asked him if it would be okay if the whole wedding party stood during our vows and he said that it was fine.

I bet that sometimes the priest says one thing in order to make the decision easier on the couple (since they already have so many decisions to make). There is a little bit of leniency during the nuptial ceremony that wouldn’t normally take place in the Mass. We thought the tradition of presenting roses and praying at the feet of Mary was beautiful. The priest didn’t originally have that in our ceremony, but we asked if it was allowed and he said it was, he just didn’t mention it.

Try asking your priest. If the wedding party standing during your vows (or any other idea that you have) isn’t allowed, the worst thing that can happen is that the priest says that it isn’t allowed.

Congratulations on your wedding! The sacrament of marriage, aside from our baby girl, is truly the greatest blessing that my husband and I have ever received! I can’t wait for you to have such a blessing, too!
 
I’ve been married to a non Catholic woman for 20 years. I remember, before we got married, the Priest that performed the ceremony asked us both if we thought that there was there was anyone else on Earth that we could marry. Well, of course, we answered no. He reminded us that there were so many people on this earth that surely there had to be someone else that would marry either one of us.
I think about what he said often, and I have to say, I really don’t think there was anyone else on this Earth that would have married me, and stayed married to me.
Trust me when I say this, My Wife is a Saint, and I wouldn’t have anyone else.🙂
 
Sparcz said:
Hi Fuerza, all you give is your own Idea or man Made teaching, Catholic Church did not Read any kind Text in any Scriptures about the Wedding, who make the First Couple, and also the Duty of Being Husband and Wife. all they have to do is to Say something that is not related and make a Story about the fairytales, more Un-biblical process. That is why the couple did not know their Responsibilities being Husband and Wife. Enjoy the wedding for that day and after that day, they Argue and Separate. I am Just posted what the Bible teaching about the wedding. Wedding is not like a Game. It is Life time Commitment until the one will die. Divorce is also not Acceptable to God.

God tell everything what is Good for Us. You must obey Him and He Direct your path.
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I don’t understand what you’re trying to say, except that you’re negative about Catholic weddings.

Are you referring to a specific wedding you attended? Nothing Fuerza said suggested a wedding is a game. All he said was that he’s married to a nice woman who is Jewish and it’s working out fine.

You should know that Catholics do not divorce lightly, and when we do it’s strictly a civil divorce. I’m divorced because my husband walked out the door and I needed to protect my children and our financial future. That’s not a game either. It’s been 16 years, and I will never marry again, or even date. The Church and I both consider me still married.

You say “I am Just posted what the Bible teaching about the wedding.” If you look into what happens at a Catholic wedding, you’ll find it to be very Biblical. Scripture was read at my wedding, and at every Catholic wedding I’ve ever attended.

Maybe you could clarify what you mean a bit.
 
In the church where we married, there was no room for our 8 bridesmaids and 8 groomsmen. They sat in the first pews. Also, the altar had no kneelers, chairs or other spots for standing. There were simply 4 “mobile” kneelers for the groom, bride, best man and maid of honor.
 
daeve said:
I don’t understand what you’re trying to say, except that you’re negative about Catholic weddings.

Are you referring to a specific wedding you attended? Nothing Fuerza said suggested a wedding is a game. All he said was that he’s married to a nice woman who is Jewish and it’s working out fine.

You should know that Catholics do not divorce lightly, and when we do it’s strictly a civil divorce. I’m divorced because my husband walked out the door and I needed to protect my children and our financial future. That’s not a game either. It’s been 16 years, and I will never marry again, or even date. The Church and I both consider me still married.

You say “I am Just posted what the Bible teaching about the wedding.” If you look into what happens at a Catholic wedding, you’ll find it to be very Biblical. Scripture was read at my wedding, and at every Catholic wedding I’ve ever attended.

Maybe you could clarify what you mean a bit.
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Lol thanks. I thought it was just me…
 
dave, I am a former Catholic for 23 years, all my married friends and cousins are also Catholic and Born Again Christian, I am always Invited to their wedding,

My point is, I someone who want to marry a man or woman who are not the same religion, the Bible have an advice about it. If they want to marry, better to convert the religion, before they perform the wedding.
 
Its not so hard to follow. anyway Good luck to the one who ask about the wedding.

God Bless…Best Wishes!!!
 
Scroll back 14 years…

My husband was not a Catholic when we married. We did have a nupial Mass as I insisted that there was no other way I would be married. We did have to have a dispensation but it was all worth it. He did swim the Tiber last Easter and is a KofC and one of the most devout men I know. God is good all of the time.

I pray that you enter your marriage with God first in your life.

Crystal
 
Sparcz said:
dave, I am a former Catholic for 23 years, all my married friends and cousins are also Catholic and Born Again Christian, I am always Invited to their wedding,

My point is, I someone who want to marry a man or woman who are not the same religion, the Bible have an advice about it. If they want to marry, better to convert the religion, before they perform the wedding.
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By dave, I assume you mean me, daeve
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I agree that marrying within your religion is the best idea. I know this from experience. My ex-husband promised not to interfere with my religion, but he didn’t mean it. However, my father converted to Catholic to marry my mother, and they remained married for 58 years until her death. Theirs was the best example of marriage and partnership I’ve ever seen.

But that isn’t what you said in your first post. That’s what I was responding to.
 
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