Using your formulation, if you do the things you mentioned in your post - baptsim, repentance and the Catholic Church, aren’t you “friends” with Christ? I’m not sure how it’s possible to be someone’s “friend” and not have a personal relationship with them? Protestants and Catholics will argue I’m afraid for quite a while about faith, works, sacraments, Notre Dame football, fish fries (why not more catfish?), etc. etc. I don’t think we need to argue about getting to know Jesus better as a friend, no?
I think (for me, I’m not going to try to speak for others) it’s because this ‘personal relationship’ that I hear about is often used
in place of things like confession, Eucharist, etc. But I fully admit that I might not understand it fully.
When I was in college I was confronted more than once about not having this ‘personal relationship’ and that without it I was damned. I’m not sure what denomination the accuser was, but he was all about the ‘personal relationship’ and me ‘accepting Jesus as my Lord and Savior’ as being the only thing I need do.
All I could think of was the Lord saying ’ if you love me do what I command’. I wasn’t even sure
what he meant by his ‘personal relationship’.
Today I think about someone like Mother Theresa, who (among other saints) admitted to having periods of spiritual dryness. Yet… she was doing what Jesus said.
At the time, I couldn’t relate to Jesus as a ‘buddy’. I still have a hard time with it, though I speak to him more frequently and informally. I still know people who think of Jesus as more of a sovereign King than as a personal friend, with us as servants (not slaves, but willing followers). I know others, both Protestant and Catholic, who go through periods of spiritual dryness and emptiness.
And I think that is okay.
I believe that if you do what Jesus says, follow the Church he founded, make use of the sacraments he gave, and act as part of his mystical body on earth; this is more important than the ‘personal relationship’. You can belt up, do his will, and not worry about being friendly.
However, maybe I misunderstood. Maybe that is exactly what many Protestant denominations mean by having that personal relationship. I fully admit I might have a failure in understanding.
I hope this makes sense?