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Titus
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Scary. But the reporting in the linkeda rticle is also worrying. No mention of the moral propriety of being happy about divorce, and certainly none about divorce itself.
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Titus
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Scary. But the reporting in the linked article is also worrying. No mention of the moral propriety of being happy about divorce, and certainly none about divorce itself.
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a_cermak
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Some marriages are so bad that divorce IS a good thing. Remember, the Church doesn’t consider the divorce a sin, it’s the remarriage that’s the no no.
The lady in the article is right. At all other changing times of our lives, there is some ritual that goes on. Birth has the Christening or Briss, entry to limited adulthood has confirmation or Bar Mitzvah, entry to full adulthood has high school graduation, marriage has engagement and wedding… But there is no anything for divorce. Some Protestant Churches are starting to offer special counseling. My Church offers Anointing of the Sick to those going through a divorce–recognizing the tremendous mental anguish that the person is typically going through. Friends, uncertain which member of the couple to support, frequently fade away at the start of the proceedings, so maybe having a party can bring them back and give the person going through divorce a social network they can heal with.
The lady in the article is right. At all other changing times of our lives, there is some ritual that goes on. Birth has the Christening or Briss, entry to limited adulthood has confirmation or Bar Mitzvah, entry to full adulthood has high school graduation, marriage has engagement and wedding… But there is no anything for divorce. Some Protestant Churches are starting to offer special counseling. My Church offers Anointing of the Sick to those going through a divorce–recognizing the tremendous mental anguish that the person is typically going through. Friends, uncertain which member of the couple to support, frequently fade away at the start of the proceedings, so maybe having a party can bring them back and give the person going through divorce a social network they can heal with.
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Titus
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You’re right. But I don’t think this woman is likely to follow the Church’s teaching and lead a life of sexual abstinence following her marriage, do you? If she is that is laudable, but , many people in the media and in the public eye treat marriage (and the break-up of marriages) very lightly, which is the part of this story that is the problem.
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wcknight
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I think Hollywood has always had a high divorce rate but so has the rest of this country (over 50% is just scandalous).
I think it is somewhat related to money and power, the more you have, the more likely you will treat marriage lightly.
I think it is somewhat related to money and power, the more you have, the more likely you will treat marriage lightly.
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Katie1723
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I celebrated my divorce. Not with a party, mind you. But I was ecstatic that my ex was out of my life. And yes, I agree with you. Divorce can indeed be a GOOD thing. It was the best thing I did for myself.
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cheeto1
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And I was ecstatic when I no longer had to live with divorced,
dating and remarried parents. My long miserable childhood is over and I am still alive. I am free. Someday children find out the truth, and they don’t have to live with your sins anymore.
Some people escape dangerous or unfaithful situations when
they divorce, but it is wrong for them to become unfaithful
themselves, and it will never be right, no matter how much
you celebrate it.
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CathCentrist
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Semi demonic? You’re kidding right? Nothing evil at all on her face. In fact I see a woman happily celebrating the end of a very bad marriage. Good for her. Sometimes, its best for people to end living together. I see nothing wrong with celebrating the end of a bad marriage and looking forward to a new beginning.
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lotusblossom
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I think divorce is sometimes necessary and a good thing, but in most cases today, my guess would be that majority of divorces do not fall into this category. To glorify divorce, when marriage is so belittled and taken lightly in today’s society, is incredibly sad to me. When it’s seen as something so “happy” and compared to a birthday or a wedding (the cake is very similiar to a wedding cake and very morbid), young minds are influenced by this. Divorce is never taken lightly and it is not all happiness and butterflies (even when it’s a relief to no longer be in a horrible marriage). Also, like a previous poster said, when children are involved, it’s one of the most painful experiences (I’ve heard from friends who have parents who are divorced). This isn’t some private gathering one hear’s through the grapevine of a small town - this is a very public article about a famous couple and I’m sure every teen knows about this and it only feeds into all the other lies that they get from the tabloids and Hollywood.
Just my :twocents:
Just my :twocents:
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Franciscan
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Umm. Ok, a cake with a bloody corpse representing the groom spewing his guts out should get a reaction like hers. Given the status of Catholic Marriage (better known as Holy Matrimony) as a sacrament of the Church, an image of Jesus’ love for his spouse- the Church, I am shocked to see such an evil response (Joy) at the image of a dead groom. Yes semi-, no wait a minute, Im changing it to pure Demonic!
BTW does the word Covenant mean anything to you?
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Gertabelle
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Scandalous? Demonic? I suppose if that’s what you’re looking for. I’d call it sad, horrible, disgusting.
The truth is, I would never even have seen this if the OP hadn’t posted the link. I believe it was St. Paul who said there are some things done by non-believers about which it is better not to speak. If I disapprove of something, or if I think something on the web (tv, books, etc.) is sinful and abhorrant to God, I don’t post links to it on public forums, or even to my friends and acquaintances, so that it can be brought into their thoughts and imaginations as well.
Look, I’m in the middle of a divorce. My soon-to-be-ex and I discussed having a divorce ritual, shared with our friends and family, in which we would acknowledge the blessings of our time in marriage, ask and give forgiveness for the hurts we caused each other and our family, and release each other. Yes, covenant means everything to me. And this one is being broken.
But this article wasn’t about having a divorce ritual. It was about blame and accusation, about publicly making someone else look as bad and foolish as possible. I don’t think the picture says anything new about the state of marriage in this country. I wonder if all the political fighting over “gay marriage” and “defining marriage” may, perhaps, have a backlash effect of pushing an image of marriage as nothing more than a set of legal and financial agreements between a man and a woman. There are so many factors feeding into our culture of “throw-away spouses.”
Please keep my family, and all others suffering from divorce, in your prayers.
Gertie
The truth is, I would never even have seen this if the OP hadn’t posted the link. I believe it was St. Paul who said there are some things done by non-believers about which it is better not to speak. If I disapprove of something, or if I think something on the web (tv, books, etc.) is sinful and abhorrant to God, I don’t post links to it on public forums, or even to my friends and acquaintances, so that it can be brought into their thoughts and imaginations as well.
Look, I’m in the middle of a divorce. My soon-to-be-ex and I discussed having a divorce ritual, shared with our friends and family, in which we would acknowledge the blessings of our time in marriage, ask and give forgiveness for the hurts we caused each other and our family, and release each other. Yes, covenant means everything to me. And this one is being broken.
But this article wasn’t about having a divorce ritual. It was about blame and accusation, about publicly making someone else look as bad and foolish as possible. I don’t think the picture says anything new about the state of marriage in this country. I wonder if all the political fighting over “gay marriage” and “defining marriage” may, perhaps, have a backlash effect of pushing an image of marriage as nothing more than a set of legal and financial agreements between a man and a woman. There are so many factors feeding into our culture of “throw-away spouses.”
Please keep my family, and all others suffering from divorce, in your prayers.
Gertie
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StratusRose
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Do you even know the circumstances of Katie1723’s divorce? I don’t, but I am not going to assume that she or her husband sinned and that’s why she is no longer married. The last part of your post berely makes sense.
My parents split up when I was 10. It was the happiest I had been in a long time. Holidays were hard and at times they couldn’t even be in the same room with each other. But at least I wasn’t awoken in the middle of the night anymore with my parents screaming at each other.
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dawgfan
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Gertabelle:
That sounds very interesting. I’d like to know if you go through with it and how it goes. There’s so much hurt and anger during a divorce that sounds like a very honorable and respectful parting of ways.
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