Chastity problems

[Clees31]

Some of my friends that are Catholic are in relationships with other strong followers of the faith. They say that they have a very strong relationship and that its all based around Christ, but they are always cuddly, very very close to eachother, and kissy. The way they act together doesn’t seem chaste because they are always attached to eachother. They are forcing out their other friends. Is that wrong? Our prayer group is very concerned for their personal relationships with God but when we bring it up they get angry and say that we have no reason not to trust them because they both go to church and are firm believers. Should we back off? How can we help them without getting them upset?

 

[Rand_Al_Thor]

they sit close and kiss? i dont see any problem at all.

 

[jman507]

Sounds like there could be problems. If one uses the “I know what I’m doing, I go to Church & am a firm believer” excuse then I think one is on the verge of doing something one shouldn’t. It starts showing one’s pride. One should know all the better one is able to be up for a fall.

Now remember, that if you approach them directly you probably only going to make them angry. You’ve warned them, and if you can ask another person who may have more influnce then do so. Otherwise, pray for them and if anything should happen be there for them. Don’t forget you may have no problem in this area, but they might be helping you out in another area where your more prone to fall. We all need to help and eachother and pray for eachother to cover our weakness.

 

[new_man]

Generally the mutual obsession and the frankly exclusionary and rude behaviour if fosters wanes with time. Just give them time. Thankfully we grow out of behaving like that before our friends.

 

[m134e5]

Clees31:

Some of my friends that are Catholic are in relationships with other strong followers of the faith. They say that they have a very strong relationship and that its all based around Christ, but they are always cuddly, very very close to eachother, and kissy. The way they act together doesn’t seem chaste because they are always attached to eachother. They are forcing out their other friends. Is that wrong? Our prayer group is very concerned for their personal relationships with God but when we bring it up they get angry and say that we have no reason not to trust them because they both go to church and are firm believers. Should we back off? How can we help them without getting them upset?

I know the type all too well. That attitude is disgusting to me- where’s the individuality? These same people try to use the verse that says “they are no longer two but one”, to justify what they’re doing. They push away all their friends, they say “that’s just how I am in a relationship” when you tell them what they’re doing wrong. They can’t go ANYWHERE without the other person- if their cell phone rings and it’s their significant other, they have to answer it- regardless of what else is going on in their life. They may not be having sex, but that doesn’t mean they are acting appropriately in their relationship. Just leave them alone, don’t rely on them for anything (but avoid conflicts as best you can)- a relationship like that will kill itself in time, and they might come back to you.