Choosing marriage partner based on his/her religion or personality? or both?

[totallylost]

Supposedly you are called for marriage (or you feel the urge for marriage, what is the most important thing you will look in your potential partner? Religion? (As in you seriously will not considered anyone other than a serious practicing Catholic). Personality? (As long as he/she is good/sweet, it doesn’t matter what his/her religion is.)
or both religion and personality?

or u just let your ‘chemistry’ decide?

 

[CatholicCajun]

Having been happily married for 31 years, I say that personality yes, AND religion. Would never have married outside my faith, that is just my choice. God bless.

 

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[rskempf]

I recommend finding a partner that is first, on the same religious track as you are, and preferably, stronger in their faith than you are. They will be a great help to you in the long run.

Personalilty needs to be compatible. However, a range of personality differences can still be adapted to. Afterall, you would be unchallenged, and dare I say bored, if your partner were exactly the same as you. Differences can be invigorating and help both grow as they learn to … give of eachother.

Rick

 

[budgie2]

I would say religion is important but over here in Britain there aren’t many practising Catholics so I chose a practising Protestant who was a minister’s son. It depends on how much choice you’ve got but ideally a Catholic or if not somebody with a religious faith.

When you meet a potential partner, it won’t be a checklist and may depend if you fall in love with them or not and if you feel comfortable with that person. Sharing the same faith can make marriage easier but having a different faith could challenge you and even make you stronger in your own belief. My dad is also a Catholic convert and I am hoping that my husband converts. Conversion of non-Catholic partners can’t always be relied on although conversion of non-Catholic partners is one way that we grow as a Church.

Good luck and hope you find somebody on here as these Catholic chatrooms seem to make life easier.

 

[Tietjen]

Supposedly you are called for marriage (or you feel the urge for marriage, what is the most important thing you will look in your potential partner? Religion? (As in you seriously will not considered anyone other than a serious practicing Catholic). Personality? (As long as he/she is good/sweet, it doesn’t matter what his/her religion is.)
or both religion and personality?

or u just let your ‘chemistry’ decide?

Speaking for myself here, I absolutely do NOT “just let (my) chemistry decide.” I have a set of minimum standards that must be met. Number 1 on the list is that the lady MUST be a practicing Catholic in complete communion with the Church on Traditions and Dogmas. If this issue isn’t met, then nothing further will develop outside of a friendship. There are a couple of other deal breakers as well but being Catholic is the most important issue to me. Without a common understanding of God and Church, I don’t see how a marriage (and child rearing) can be happy and healthy to the persons involved. Unless of course the subject of God and religion isn’t discussed at all… that simply can’t be an option for me as I believe a marriage should include God and embrace Him not avoid Him. Besides, I’m a firm believer in the adage, “The family that prays together stays together.” How popular would it be for say a Baptist (who was married to a Catholic) to say the rosary every evening?

 

[Tietjen]

Speaking for myself here, I absolutely do NOT “just let (my) chemistry decide.” I have a set of minimum standards that must be met. Number 1 on the list is that the lady MUST be a practicing Catholic in complete communion with the Church on Traditions and Dogmas. If this issue isn’t met, then nothing further will develop outside of a friendship. There are a couple of other deal breakers as well but being Catholic is the most important issue to me. Without a common understanding of God and Church, I don’t see how a marriage (and child rearing) can be happy and healthy to the persons involved. Unless of course the subject of God and religion isn’t discussed at all… that simply can’t be an option for me as I believe a marriage should include God and embrace Him not avoid Him. Besides, I’m a firm believer in the adage, “The family that prays together stays together.” How popular would it be for say a Baptist (who was married to a Catholic) to say the rosary every evening?

Almost forget… of course personality then plays a role.

 

[budgie2]

Hi, I appreciate your strong resolution to marry a Catholic. Over here in Britain a lot of younger Catholics do not go to Church and do not necessarily live their lives by better standards people that have not been brought up Catholic. Just because I’ve been born a Catholic doesn’t mean to say that I have a committed faith, whereas somebody outside the Church could show more commitment although they don’t have the same education. I’m not sure if I approve mixed marriages but they are allowed currently and I’m in one. In my personal experience if you marry a Protestant although Protestant belief varies greatly you might come unstuck on issues such as sex outside of marriage and contraception but if you discuss your problems then you might come to a greater understanding of each other. There is freedom of belief in the Protestant community so I think there are protestants that firmly believe in abstinence and there’s a stronger campaign in the US. However, a lot of Protestants are married for life but the teaching on sexual morality is not the same. That’s my experience. Divorce and remarriage is permitted but in my experience isn’t any more common and some divorced Catholics go to a protestant church to get remarried.