Clothing, shopping, and degrading women

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I have a query. I am, like many women, somewhat fond of fashion. We ladies like to look nice. 😛 At the same time, I try to avoid supporting places that degrade women by treating them as sex objects in their marketing. Most of you should appreciate how hard this is, given the state of modern advertising! I am not well off, so new clothing is a bit of a treat, especially stuff that doesn’t come from the leftovers racks.

An example issue:

I was out shopping yesterday. I have a beautiful strapless top that I thought would look lovely overtop of a lace shirt. Lo and behold, I finally found a lace roseprint top. But when I looked at the tags, the picture was of a woman wearing only the (very sheer) top in an extremely provoctive pose. I ended up not getting it, but I feel so disappointed - it seems like everything pretty and affordable is being marketed in this way.

Any other women out there who worry about this?
 
Not a woman, just a greying old grandfather, but if I may:
A woman’s modesty greatly enhances her beauty.
 
I guess I worry more about whether or not the particular article of clothing is modest/can be worn modestly.
 
As a guy in his 20s, I will also say that women who show too much with their clothing is a large distraction. I do find modesty very attractive. My fiance dresses modestly and I highly admire it and find it very attractive. Even with her dressing modestly, she will still get asked out by random guys who don’t know her, which makes me feel nice because she chose me to marry.

Again, I’m just a guy, but I hope my perspective interesting.
 
I guess the issue wasn’t really clear.

I’m looking at a lot of clothing items that I intend to wear in a modest fashion, but are clearly being marketed or intended to be worn in an immodest manner. In the example - I intended to wear the lace shirt as decoration under another top. However it was being sold as a “sexy” item advertised with a half-naked woman. I’m not being immodest in wearing it, but I don’t want to support this kind of advertising. However, I’m beginning to feel that I can’t even find clothing that fits, let alone looks nice, otherwise.

As an aside, does anyone have any idea why this is in the evangelization forum, instead of moral theology where I put it? I don’t understand what it has to do with evangelization.
 
DarkLight said:
I guess the issue wasn’t really clear.

I’m looking at a lot of clothing items that I intend to wear in a modest fashion, but are clearly being marketed or intended to be worn in an immodest manner. In the example - I intended to wear the lace shirt as decoration under another top. However it was being sold as a “sexy” item advertised with a half-naked woman. I’m not being immodest in wearing it, but I don’t want to support this kind of advertising. However, I’m beginning to feel that I can’t even find clothing that fits, let alone looks nice, otherwise.

As an aside, does anyone have any idea why this is in the evangelization forum, instead of moral theology where I put it? I don’t understand what it has to do with evangelization.
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That’s what I thought you meant 😉 I don’t worry about the marketing too much. If I can wear the article in a modest manner, I’ll buy it (unless the marketing surrounding the store is horrendous).

No idea why they moved the thread to evangelization 🤷
 
WingsOfEagles said:
That’s what I thought you meant 😉 I don’t worry about the marketing too much. If I can wear the article in a modest manner, I’ll buy it (unless the marketing surrounding the store is horrendous).

No idea why they moved the thread to evangelization 🤷
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If I can wear it in a modest way, then yes. I can also modify (either with a sewing machine or with some layering) and not wear in the inteded way 😃

And, just as a quick thought, modesty really is a form of evangelization and witnessing 🙂 Just sayin’
 
It begins early. Taking my granddaughters (11 and 8) shopping I find I have to wade through a sea of trash to find clothing that is both stylish and appropriate. Sleazy seems to know no age limits. :mad:
 
For obvious reasons, this has become a bit of an issue for me. It’s certainly difficult to find anything which isn’t over-sexed and sleazy.
 
DarkLight said:
Any other women out there who worry about this?
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Hi there,

I do worry about it in a certain sense, a very obvious example being Victoria’s Secret. I will not buy stuff there because the whole business is quasi-pornographic and degrading to women. There are plenty of other places I can shop that are more appropriate regarding their advertisment (and of course “more appropriate” is all relative, no?). But I have never thought of it like you have, when finding a specific article of clothing you like. Personally I wouldn’t be deterred by that but I can see why you would feel that way though. Since I am learning to sew and how to do garmet construction/repurposing I’m not nearly as depressed as I used to be regarding finding clothes that are attractive, modest, and actually fit. Just a thought – maybe we’re supposed to wear these items in a modest fashion to encourage other women and girls that there is a nice alternative to the sleazy?
 
WingsOfEagles said:
That’s what I thought you meant 😉 I don’t worry about the marketing too much. If I can wear the article in a modest manner, I’ll buy it (unless the marketing surrounding the store is horrendous).

No idea why they moved the thread to evangelization 🤷
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I wouldn’t worry about marketing so much. The people in charge of marketing is doing this with everything. My goodness! Even Ikea is using sex to sell kitchen counters! KITCHEN COUNTERS! :eek:
 
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