Combining Two Children Philosophy Books

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Anyone read the children’s book called "Growing Up with a Bucket Full of Happiness: Three Rules for a Happier Life. by Carol McCloud? ( It is the preteen version of the adult book “How Full Is Your Bucket” by Tom Rath.)
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How about the children’s book “You Are Special” by Max Lucado? If you have read both books, then lets chat!!! I am trying to combine the two somehow in how I can teach children to love one another (filling buckets book) but at the same time not allowing ANY stickers to stick, because God’s feelings towards us is the only thing that matters (You Are Special book). I am stumped. I don’t even know if it’s even possible! Any ideas? Looking forward to chatting with someone way smarter then I am!!!
((( If you want to participate and haven't read any of them, it will take you 30ish minutes, depending on how fast you read the mini preteen chapter book one. The hard part is going to the library or book store and reading it there~~~ or buying it~~~~. Once you read it, I WOULD LOVE your (name removed by moderator)ut!))))

 

[MyVavies]

Basically book “Growing Up with a Bucket Full of Happiness:…” teaches children that everyone has an invisible bucket that their feelings are kept in and invisible dippers that they CAN use to dip into others to fill their own. Throughout the day, people CAN go around either dipping from others buckets by doing mean things, and they CAN do nice things towards others and fill not just others buckets , but their own at the same time. There are things like accidental dipping , where people say hurtful comments and don’t realize what they did was dip,and there are things like using your lid to keep others from dipping into your bucket or even cover someone else bucket from being dipped if they can’t do it themselves.

And the book “You Are Special” is basically about how these wooden people go around and either give each other star stickers (complements) or gray dots stickers ( hurtful comments). Then you meet a wooden girl who doesn’t have any stickers on her. That reason is people would try to give her these stickers and they wouldn’t stick. She wouldn’t allow them! She explains to the main wooden character, that she only cares what the wooden people maker “aka God” cares about her ,so no matter what others say ,GOOD OR BAD, she doesn’t even take it under consideration. Which the moral of the story is how we should all live our lives.

So here is my problem… is giving complements (Star stickers) such a bad thing? As long as it sincere and it is filling others buckets? How can one fill a bucket without giving out Star Stickers since the ultimate goal is to only care what God thinks? How can you do nice caring loving things without giving stickers?
Hope you can follow and can help me come to an understanding on how to put both books together! THANKS

 

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Well pooh, is everyone stumped as much as me, or did I make the mistake of not posting what each book was in the main thread to begin with? I have a feeling since I asked people to read the books first, they got discouraged and didn’t read on.

I hope someone can help me. I just don’t know how someone can be truly happy if they don’t care about anything. If nothing bothers then? If nothing excites them? Are they going to go walk around like this one lady who works at our local library who looks like she had some kind of lobotomy ? Emotionless with a scary smile on their faces?

Something tells me I do want my children to be stickerless. Well I definitely know I don’t want my children care about the gray dots. But the Golden stars? I can’t see people living without others putting them on each-other. Filling each-others buckets. Can’t they feel good about an accomplishment? I just can’t wrap my head around it.