Coming to terms with dh's choice in voting

[ekblad7]

I’m embaressed to say that dh is voting for Kerry. He is a convert to the faith and when we met and married 10 years ago he was an athiest. At least he’s come a little ways, right? Anyway, I wasn’t all that deep into my faith then but am very deep into it now. Especially Pro Life movements. I am very involved (as are my children) in that cause. Well, dh claims to be pro choice which drives me insane! He comes from a very liberal family and I guess I haven’t gotten that part out of him yet, LOL. So I know he’s voting for Kerry. It makes me ill. I’ve tried explaining to him that it’s a mortal sin, he shouldn’t take communion, etc. I’ve sent him email after email of articles written by bishops, the pope, etc. With the election only a few weeks away I find myself feeling almost angry with him for putting his soul on the line for something like this. My kids are very pro Bush and put a sign in our yard the other day. They know he is pro Kerry and are very worried about his soul. How can I get through this?

 

[John_Higgins]

ekblad7:

I’ve tried explaining to him that it’s a mortal sin

Then reread the Catechism on what consitutes a mortal sin. Your telling him it is is quite likely not sufficient for him to “know” it is a mortal sin (of which I and many doubt, BTW) and then to do it anyway, knowing it is a mortal sin.

ekblad7:

he shouldn’t take communion, etc.

9% of American bishops can’t be wrong.

Very seriously, pray for him. I believe you’ve given him all the information he will handle. Love him, in spite of what you think is a serious sin (You’re supposed to anyway.)

Further, you’ll never really know how he votes anyway.

John

 

[Annunciata]

ekblad7:

I’m embaressed to say that dh is voting for Kerry.

I feel your pain…so is mine … though he is personally opposed to abortion… well you know the speel.

How can I get through this?

I wish I had an answer…I’m so sad about it…he just hates Bush!
I pray constantly for him to change his heart. I guess that’s all we can do… Annunciata

 

[JMJ_Pinoy]

ekblad7:

I’m embaressed to say that dh is voting for Kerry. He is a convert to the faith and when we met and married 10 years ago he was an athiest. At least he’s come a little ways, right? Anyway, I wasn’t all that deep into my faith then but am very deep into it now. Especially Pro Life movements. I am very involved (as are my children) in that cause. Well, dh claims to be pro choice which drives me insane! He comes from a very liberal family and I guess I haven’t gotten that part out of him yet, LOL. So I know he’s voting for Kerry. It makes me ill. I’ve tried explaining to him that it’s a mortal sin, he shouldn’t take communion, etc. I’ve sent him email after email of articles written by bishops, the pope, etc. With the election only a few weeks away I find myself feeling almost angry with him for putting his soul on the line for something like this. My kids are very pro Bush and put a sign in our yard the other day. They know he is pro Kerry and are very worried about his soul. How can I get through this?

I have the same problem with my parents. Unfortunately, some people are just too stubborn to listen. You’ve tried to help him, like I’ve tried to help my parents. But if they refuse to listen, all we can do is pray for them.

 

[ridesawhitehors]

Nothing you can do except be truthful to your heart and to the Church, ekblad… sounds like you have tried. Hopefully your dh will realize that the Church really should play a role in his decision. Be of good heart!

My nephew is a big University of Oregon liberal - he says if Bush wins he is moving to Canada. I really hope he does. I can’t wait for this election to be over.

Peace,
Ridesawhitehorse

 

[ekblad7]

John Higgins:

Further, you’ll never really know how he votes anyway.

John

I have thought alot about that. He’s a very stubborn person and refuses to ever admit to be wrong or me being right or going along with me on anything, ever. So I often wonder if he will vote for Bush anyway.

I hope I didn’t come across like I was personally condemning him to hell or anything. I’m not. Obviously it’s not my place. I just don’t understand how he can profess to be a Catholic and be pro choice. He’s voting for Kerry b/c of environmental issues. Yes, save the trees, kill the babies.

 

[rayne89]

My problem was with my husband not voting at all. I think he’s finally come far enough where its important to him and he’s finally registered (he’s 33). Pray and let God work it out. You’ve given him all the information, beating him over the head with it may will probably make him turn a deaf ear. Trust me in time don’t be surprised if things change. Be gentle, live by example, don’t berate him. My husband was an “agnostic” when we married, and he’s come a very long way - it’s been 13 years. But not as quickly as I would have liked. I’ve finally realized God works on peoples hearts when they’re ready. I will keep this in my prayers. God Bless!

 

[KCT]

Annunciata:

I wish I had an answer…I’m so sad about it…he just hates Bush! /QUOTE]

My mom, who was raised Catholic and almost always votes Rebublican, also can’t stand Bush. She makes no bones about telling people she doesn’t think Bush is conservative and she plans to vote for Kerry. —KCT

 

[Annunciata]

Annunciata:

I wish I had an answer…I’m so sad about it…he just hates Bush!

KCT:

My mom, who was raised Catholic and almost always votes Rebublican, also can’t stand Bush. She makes no bones about telling people she doesn’t think Bush is conservative and she plans to vote for Kerry. —KCT

It’s really very hard “living with the enemy”, as it were…
I love Bush and I despise John Kerry I feel he is an embarrassment to MA my home state!!! Even our pastor hates Bush and makes no bones about it…though he doesn’t mention his names you know what he is talking about…in fact most of my parish is pro Kerry!:banghead: Annunciata

 

[ekblad7]

I’m so afraid of the pro Kerry Catholics. I just don’t get it. Life is the ONLY issue. It’s not like Bush is my favorite person in the world but he stands for what Catholics are supposed to mostly believe in. I guess I’m just very passionate about outlawing abortion. I probably can’t see beyond that. I’m against capital punishment as well as war and such but 4400 babies are killed EVERYDAY through abortion. Not to mention what it does to the women that go through it. I have two very close friends who had abortions underage and without parental consent. Both are very regretful and have had big problems due to the abortion. Argh! Sorry to rant.

 

[JimG]

ekblad7:

I’m embaressed to say that dh is voting for Kerry.

Don’t let it tear you apart or cause a rift between you. At least you know that your vote will offset his!

 

[ekblad7]

JimG:

Don’t let it tear you apart or cause a rift between you. At least you know that your vote will offset his!

LOL, that’s true!

 

[katybird]

Voting for Kerry may be stupid, but it is NOT a mortal sin… unless, maybe, the reason one voted for him is that they’re pro-choice. Then, they’d intend to aid and abet abortion.

 

[carol_marie]

Ekblad,
Here’s something to try with your DH… tonight, while you’re lying in bed, smile at him sweetly and say, “I am soooooo in the mood for you!!!” And then when he tries to get close to you say, “Back off, I’m NOT in the mood!” Wait a few minutes and then say, “Come here big guy! I want your love!” And then when he tries to get close to you say, “Not tonight, I have a headace!” He’ll probably say, “What the heck is YOUR problem!!!” And then you can say, “Oh, I am soooo sorry… I thought you liked it when people flip flopped back and forth all the time!”

Maybe he’ll get your point but then please make up with him, I can’t be responsible for an angry husband!

 

[kage_ar]

You could go togehter to vote - stop by morning Mass somewhere on the way, pray together, then go vote. Then after you vote, go to confession!

 

[Stylteralmaldo]

katybird:

Voting for Kerry may be stupid, but it is NOT a mortal sin… unless, maybe, the reason one voted for him is that they’re pro-choice. Then, they’d intend to aid and abet abortion.

It could be a mortal sin if you vote for a cause such as the environment without regard for the abortion issue.

 

[ridesawhitehors]

carol marie:

Ekblad,
Here’s something to try with your DH… tonight, while you’re lying in bed, smile at him sweetly and say, “I am soooooo in the mood for you!!!” And then when he tries to get close to you say, “Back off, I’m NOT in the mood!” Wait a few minutes and then say, “Come here big guy! I want your love!” And then when he tries to get close to you say, “Not tonight, I have a headace!” He’ll probably say, “What the heck is YOUR problem!!!” And then you can say, “Oh, I am soooo sorry… I thought you liked it when people flip flopped back and forth all the time!”

Maybe he’ll get your point but then please make up with him, I can’t be responsible for an angry husband!

GOOD ONE!, Carol Marie! ROFL!!!