Completing RCIA as a single parent

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I am wondering if anyone could advise me. I attended my first RCIA class last night. Following the class I mentioned to one of the teachers that I was not married. She knew I had 3 children as I had mentioned them previously.
My situation is very complicated. My first 2 children were from a previous relationship (this broke down two years ago when my ex partner had a breakdown and it wasn’t safe for me or my children to remain with him) fast forward a few months and I met my current partner and accidentally got pregnant. I obviously continued with the pregnancy as I do not agree with abortion. However my partner and I do not live together.
The teacher presumed him & I lived together & I was embarrassed to correct her and suggested us getting married before being recieved into the church.
I am wondering as we are not living together (and have never lived together) I would like us to be married before we live together would this make any difference. I don’t want to rush to get married as it is still a new relationship.

Thank you for your advice
 
No - this doesn’t make any difference provided you don’t intend to carry on a physical relationship until after marriage.
 
Thank you for your response. I would be happy to abstain until that point.
 
As a convert to Catholicism who has fallen in love with the Catholic Church and all that she has to offer, I can only encourage you to continue on the RCIA. I am no expert, and am not able to comment on your circumstances and so I will refrain from doing so. It may be helpful that you set up some time to speak to your Priest in this regard.
 
I’m also a convert to the Catholic faith and entered RCIA two years ago. I came with a lot of baggage having been previously married to a Catholic, divorced, and remarried to another Catholic who was a widow. My wife and I had a long talk with our priest on what we needed to do to get our marriage in good standing with the church, and his guidance was caring and thoughtful. I started the annulment process for my first marriage and joined RCIA to learn more about the Catholic faith. After my annulment was granted, we had our marriage convalidated, and my wife went to confession. She was again in good standing. As I learned more in RCIA, I made the decision to enter the church. You’ll find in your first confession that so much weight will be lifted off your shoulders! It was nerve wracking before, but I was so happy after!
So I strongly encourage you to continue in RCIA, to attend mass regularly, and to participate in other church activities as time allows. I’m sure it’s difficult with three children, but one day you’ll find some time.
Peace and God Bless!
 
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