Confession connundrums

[kage_ar]

Oh, I think you misunderstand me. I did not say that I was PUTTING my life in danger, just that my sins were bad enough that I deserved to die, both physically and spirtually.

Speaking as a mom, if my child had phrased it that way I’d still not have had a wink of sleep.

Maybe you could apologize to your mom for making her worry.

 

[mm3861]

Hi.

Today I got back from confession and helped my mother make the beds. It came out in conversation that I had gone to cofession because I was in mortal sin, and I told her that my sins were sufficiently bad to warrant both spiritual and physical death. She then demanded I tell her which sins I had committed, but I viewed this as private information between me and God and did not do so. I did convey their severity, though. Should I have told her what she wanted to know?

I would have said:
“With all due respect mother, after you get finished sharing all of your past private sins with me, I’ll be happy to consider telling you mine!”

 

[joandarc2008]

My hubby and I discuss our confessions as they relate to each other because sometimes it puts our relationship back on the level. However, we also do not take those discussions anywhere. ever. period. end of story. Now, when you open the door that is like saying “I know something you don’t know,” and taunting your mother without intentionally meaning to do it. Don’t do that. It’s not nice. I would go back and tell your mother b/c you opened the door not because you don’t have the privacy of confession. It is not right to make your mother worry. That is a violation of the “Honor thy mother” commandmant. Just my opinion.

 

[MercyMia]

That is a really dramatic way of putting it. Chances are you have blown it out of proportion. After going to confession, you need to put whatever you did behind you. God has forgiven you. Going around telling people that you deserved to die is an indication that you have not forgiven yourself. One thing my priest has told me at confession is to say a prayer telling God that you accept his mercy. I think that is pretty important. Please take a minute to have a conversation with God and acknowledge that you accept his mercy, and then stop beating yourself up and condemning yourself.

No, I do not think OP is being dramatic. The wage of sin is death. I agree once the sin is confessed, it is washed clean and while you must remember the severity it is best to put it out of your mind so the devil does not try and use it against you or try and continue to make you feel guilty even after God has forgiven you. I agree with you about the part on mercy.

To the OP - Now, as far as telling your mother your sin…I do not think telling her details will add any value to your relationship. I think you need to just keep in very general. If she still insists, refer her to a priest who can inform her of the importance of the confession seal. It was probably very hard for your mother to think of her child in a state of mortal sin…you can reassure her of God’s mercy as well. Let her know that some sins are crosses you have to bear on your own. Also, in the future, invite her to confession in the same car trip. Maybe when she is feeling the wonderful mercy of God, she will understand how you are able to correct yourself with God’s help and that God picks up the burden of the parent so often.

 

[jmcrae]

The best way to keep a secret is to keep your conversation focused on other subjects.

When you start giving out hints that you have a secret, people (especially mothers) start getting curious about them.