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I came back to the church about a year ago. My first time back to confession I was extremely vague, for example; I confessed that I took part in extremely childish pranks rather than saying I drove around with friends throwing eggs at ppl thinking it was a funny prank some of those people were most likely homeless people. Since that confession I have gone back and confessed everything in more detail that I was so vague about. In my most recent confession I had asked the priest if I should do a “general” confession and he said I did not need to and that all my sins have been forgiven. My question is, because I was so vague in my first confession and then I went back and started having normal confessions before finally going back and confessing in detail my sins from the first confession, would the normal confessions be invalid because I was so vague in my first confession even though I have finally confessed everything in complete detail?
I know this is very confusing and im sorry.
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I came back to the church about a year ago. My first time back to confession I was extremely vague, for example; I confessed that I took part in extremely childish pranks rather than saying I drove around with friends throwing eggs at ppl thinking it was a funny prank some of those people were most likely homeless people. Since that confession I have gone back and confessed everything in more detail that I was so vague about. In my most recent confession I had asked the priest if I should do a “general” confession and he said I did not need to and that all my sins have been forgiven. My question is, because I was so vague in my first confession and then I went back and started having normal confessions before finally going back and confessing in detail my sins from the first confession, would the normal confessions be invalid because I was so vague in my first confession even though I have finally confessed everything in complete detail?
I know this is very confusing and im sorry.
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I see that you have already discussed this with your Confessor - please do not worry, and simply follow his advice.

He knows you; we do not. 🙂
 
To make this a little more clear, after having gave the vague confession, I was going back to confession every two weeks confessing sins that I had been committing along with some of the things i was so vague about. I did end up confessing everything I was so vague about but it was over the course of say 5 confessions rather than just 1.
 
Well I have seen more than one confessor, I go to confession at 2 diff churches because one has weekly confessions while the other has daily. What I had asked my confessor was, “I keep coming back to confess sins related to sins already confessed and I dont know if im going about this the right way should I do a general confession?” He said no all your sins are all forgiven.
 
Like your priest says all your sins have been forgiven in that very first confession. Don’t keep going back and confessing the same sins in more detail they have been forgiven.
 
To make this a little more clear, after having gave the vague confession, I was going back to confession every two weeks confessing sins that I had been committing along with some of the things i was so vague about. I did end up confessing everything I was so vague about but it was over the course of say 5 confessions rather than just 1.
Please understand that the Sacrament of Reconciliation is not a quiz where God is hoping to trip you up and catch you “doing it wrong.” Indeed, the Sacrament of Reconciliation is almost impossible to mess up, other than quite deliberately (and if you did so deliberately, you wouldn’t be here worrying about it; let’s face it).

I can only assume that you were doing your best at the time - and if your Confessor is assuming the same, then no doubt, you were doing the best that you reasonably could, at the time. One does not overcome a lifetime of sin in just one conversation - I think everyone understands that. So it took you five conversations to finally get everything out - and it seems as if your Confessor is okay with that - so, don’t worry about it. 🙂

You have been honest with the priest, and he has given you the Absolution, so, consider yourself absolved of your sins, and carry on from here. 👍
 
You have an obligation to confess all mortal sins in kind and number. The confessor has an obligation to question you about anything that is not clear. That being said, if you simply say that you played childish pranks, he may not see any reason to question you, when, in fact, you must reveal the entire circumstances and number of times. There is never any harm in making a general confession if you are not scrupulous. In fact, this is highly recommended by spiritual writers, most importantly because many penitents make bad confessions out of lack of knowledge of their obligations. This is true with regard to making a bad examination of conscience especially but also about how to confess properly after making an examination (this is more of a problem from the past 50 years or so; the vast majority of people don’t even know you have to confess the kind of sin with all aggrevating circumstances and the number of times as much as is possible, though this should be taught to children before their first confession). Sorry to digress. Basically, you are in a situation that spiritual authors generally would tell you to make a general confession just to be safe. The reason for this is that as a Catholic you have an obligation to know how to confess your sins properly, and you didn’t do that the first time. This should also be confessed as a sin of neglect, even though it is impossible to know your precise culpability (even for yourself). While it’s possible that you may have no need to make a general confession, there is a lot of reason that you ought to do so, and I think most spiritual authors and moral theologians I have read (and what my own spiritual directors would say) about this case would recommend the same to you. Of course, the general principle is to listen to your spiritual director or confessor, but the problem is that over the past 50 years (and more) many confessors have not received the proper theological training, especially regarding the confessional. We all have heard the terrible things certain members of the hierarchy have said–things that a child could tell you are heretical, such as denying the Resurrection, the necessity of faith to be saved, etc., etc. What most people don’t know is that the proper confessional praxis has suffered at least as much if not more than the dogmatic theology. If you can find a good priest of the Fraternity of St. Peter, for example, I would say that you can trust his judgment, but even they did not all receive sound or sufficient education before the past 5 or 10 years, either. Sorry for the short book as a response, but the short of it is that it simply is the safest thing to do to make a general confession. You will set yourself at ease, and you will not have to worry continually about your state of soul.
 
Don’t fret. Go back to confession soon…Tell the priest - tell God in your confession…confession is a prayer with God - that you’ve sinned, that you may have been vague for whatever reason in previous confessions…maybe scared, maybe embarrassed, maybe prideful, maybe fortgetful, that you want to be forgiven, here are my sins (“worst first in plain language”), their number, their occasion. Here are some more. Tell him that you can’t even remember all of your sins because you’re such a sinner - like all of us are. Ask God to deepen your contrition. Prepare well, but don’t fret it.

Don’t mumble. Plain language, Short sentences. Don’t equivocate, don’t circle around the topic. Name them. Make clear accusations. Man or woman up. It may not work this way for you…but it’s worked well for me.

Keeps me from playing lawyer with God or my conscience. I don’t think God wants us wasting time Monday morning quarterbacking our confession from Saturday (or whenever)…He has lots of work for us to do on Monday!
 
I talked to another priest today and told him that I was to vague and embarrassed to say some sins on my first confession back after being away from confession for 9+ years and that since that confession I have in detail confessed those sins in detail. He talked a little about scrupulosity and worrying to much and that since I have been going to confession every two weeks sometimes every week and confessed those sins in detail that I am forgiven. Basically what the first priest I talked to said.
 
I was in a vary similar situation, I had been away from confession for about 10 years and then decided to go back to confession again. During that confession I was vague in detail because I was embarrassed about confessing particular sins in detail and omitted some because of embarrassment. Though like you I went back to confession multiple times and confessed in detail and confessed the sins I did not say the first time. The only reason It took multiple confessions was because I would forget to confess some of them when I went back to confess them. At one point I forgot about some but three or four confessions later I would remember and go to confession the following day to confess that particular sin. I have talked to a priest about this and he said I was fine because I came back and confessed in detail and confessed the sins I omitted the first time. Just as long as you confess the sins in detail and if you did omit any the first time confess those as well you should be good. Trust your confessor.
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Don’t fret. Go back to confession soon…Tell the priest - tell God in your confession…confession is a prayer with God - that you’ve sinned, that you may have been vague for whatever reason in previous confessions…maybe scared, maybe embarrassed, maybe prideful, maybe fortgetful, that you want to be forgiven, here are my sins (“worst first in plain language”), their number, their occasion. Here are some more. Tell him that you can’t even remember all of your sins because you’re such a sinner - like all of us are. Ask God to deepen your contrition. Prepare well, but don’t fret it.

Don’t mumble. Plain language, Short sentences. Don’t equivocate, don’t circle around the topic. Name them. Make clear accusations. Man or woman up. It may not work this way for you…but it’s worked well for me.

Keeps me from playing lawyer with God or my conscience. I don’t think God wants us wasting time Monday morning quarterbacking our confession from Saturday (or whenever)…He has lots of work for us to do on Monday!
Hey Ed,
This is exactly what I did. After I realized I made a pretty vague confession and might have been to embarrassed to admit to a couple things a couple months later I went back to confession and was completely honest about all the sins. I did forget to mention one or two but during the next few confessions when I did remember them I confessed them in full detail with the sins I had been comittng as well. In my first post I was just asking if this was okay.
 
catholiccj1086.

Excellent.

Until I took a more brutally sincere, plain, and “manly” approach to confession, my progress was slow and disconnected.

But by doing so…and by forming a clear purpose of amendment (around my fundamental weaknesses over that period), by returning to the next confession to “report out” progress/failures on that specific purpose of amendment - and thus linking one confession to the next - coupled with short evening exams focused on the same points of improvement - all this has it seems to me really helped me progress.

But so much more good work to do with God!
 
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