Confirmation Saint help

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I’m at the point where I am starting to pick a patron saint for my confirmation. I’ve narrowed it down to about 3 or 4 saints but I have a problem. My priest told me that I am not allowed to pick a male saint because I am a female. This saddened me, two of the saints I was seriously considering were St. Francis of Assisi and St. Peregrine Lazoisi. My priest said that it would be weird for me to be called up during confirmation and be called by a male name. I know that this isn’t something that every church does, because there are many many females that have picked a male saint. My priest blames it on the LGBT community. I feel that just because my priest has something against the LGBT community (and I completely disagree with him on that matter) it doesn’t mean that I shouldn’t be able to pick a male saint. It’s his own opinion. My mom told me to just pick a female saint even if I don’t personally pick her, but I feel like I should pick whoever I feel connected to the most. This has also upset some of my friends who are also going to get confirmed. I know it might seem really stupid or silly, but it’s just the way I feel
 
You can chose a male Saint if you are a female. I am sorry your priest has said no. Have you talked with him about why you want this particular saint?
 
You can choose a male saint it has nothing to do with lgbt look at st Frances xavier cabrini Francis is a male name.
 
A Confirmation Saint and taking their name, while pious tradition, is not actually a part of the Confirmation rite.

I don’t agree with your priests reasoning, but ultimately it is his call.
 
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For many years, religious sisters in some orders were required to take on a male saint’s name and a female saint’s name. There’s many a “Sister Vincent” still around.
 
That’s odd your priest said no, I have heard females taking on a male confirmation name. I would try talking to him. I can suggest to you some good female ones that you can look into. I personally like St. Clare, St. Teresa of Calcutta, St. Rose of Lima, St Thérèse of Lisieux and of course, the Blessed Mother. I don’t blame you for feeling this way.
 
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Would he be okay if you took the “female version” of the male saint name? Francesca for St. Francis, for example? (I have no idea what the female version of Peregrine would be, but perhaps you could research the name a bit and figure something out??)
 
There are many feminine versions to masculine names. Joan for John, Michelle for Michael, Frances for Francis, Adrianne for Adrian, Also many male saints inserted the name of Mary into their own names.
 
There are also brothers/priests in religious life called fr Marie-Augustin for example.
 
I have been to many confirmations within the last three years where females took male confirmation names, and vice-versa. There are no rules on this.
 
CilladeRoma said:
I don’t agree with your priests reasoning, but ultimately it is his call.
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Right. I would just look at this as an opportunity to learn more about some of the female saints and acquiesce to your pastor’s direction on the matter.

While I do like the tradition of choosing a Confirmation saint name, it is possible to assign too much significance to it. My Confirmation saint was St. Joseph. I love St. Joseph. I also love St. Therese of Lisieux and have a special devotion to her. Do I feel like my relationship with St. Therese is somehow deficient because she wasn’t my Confirmation saint? Not at all. It isn’t as though there are limits placed on the number of saints we can be friends with.
 
When I went through RCIA i was in the same place where you are now i tried to pick a saint but was having the same problem as you the first one I picked was the patron saint of disappointing children i asked my mother about this (she didn’t agree with me on following His call to become catholic) I finally got to the point where I just gave up and let my saint pick me. Mine is st. Christina of Tyre she felt in the same situation i was in except that she was killed by her father for her belief in Christ . Mine was because I felt my family was turning away from me and I felt like I was being abandoned by them. You could do what I did and just wait for your saint to pick you. But ultimately it’s your choice, just trying to be a guide for you.
 
Why don’t you do this: To appease your priest, openly select the name of your preferred female saint, while also keeping your preferred male saint in your heart. You don’t have to reject a male saint you particularly admire simply because you can’t openly name him during a specific rite (although you should be able to!). Keep that saint within your heart, and you can pray to him privately. Likewise, the female saint you choose, and any other saint you wish – or need – to pray to.
 
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JanR said:
openly select the name of your preferred female saint, while also keeping your preferred male saint in your heart
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I came here to say this. It’s not like your saint name goes on your driver’s licence or tombstone.
 
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