Confused: "Chemical Pregnancy"

[cecilia_therese]

The doctor’s aren’t even sure, since I had my appointment a few days after it happened, but they say it sounds like I had an early miscarriage, or a chemical pregnancy, around the fourth week. Should I be grieving, since they aren’t even sure? I’m so confused and have no idea what to think.

So many other women give advice as best they can, but none of it is from a Catholic perspective, and in turn, a lot of it doesn’t seem to apply, much less help.

Thank you so much for any thoughts you have concerning this matter.

God Bless,

CT

 

[Truly_Beloved]

If you had a “chemical pregnancy” (I hate that term, it sounds like the pregnancy wasn’t real ), then you suffered a very early miscarriage. Your baby was definitely with you, it’s just that s/he was only alive for a very short period of time. :console:

 

[cecilia_therese]

If you had a “chemical pregnancy” (I hate that term, it sounds like the pregnancy wasn’t real ), then you suffered a very early miscarriage. Your baby was definitely with you, it’s just that s/he was only alive for a very short period of time. :console:

That’s just it though, the doctor’s aren’t even sure, and I never got a positive pregnancy test beforehand. We’ve tried for six (well, this was our seventh) months to conceive, and nothing, so I didn’t want to get my hopes up and take a test until after my period was late for at least a week. By the time I went to the DR, they said my HCG levels were pretty much normal, but that from everything I was telling them, and from the way my cervix and everything looked, they said they couldn’t be 100% sure, but it probably was a CP.

What if it wasn’t though, the chances of us getting pregnant were so low to begin with, and for it to happen only for us to lose the baby so early?? I don’t know what to think.

BTW, I hate the term too.

 

[uxordepp]

I’ve never heard that term.

If you think you were pregnant (and sometimes moms know these things) and miscarried, then you have a little saint in heaven.

It’s too bad you don’t have a bit more certainty, though.

Anyway, if you weren’t pg and don’t have a little saint in heaven, I’m sure God will assign the prayers appropriately.

 

[cecilia_therese]

Thank you for responding. I hate not knowing, but I’m pretty sure I was. I didn’t expect this level of hurt and confusion. If for some reason I was not, I hope any of my prayers can go toward my cousin’s child. Her baby recently died the day they were going to induce labor.

Thank you both for your replies.

 

[kristie_m]

This happened to me, also. I charted, and as soon as I was a day late I tested positive, then started bleeding four days later. The doctor said she wasn’t sure if I had an early miscarriage or if I just had a late ovulation, as that can also affect the hcg levels. Anyway, since we really don’t know for sure, when we say bedtime prayers with the kids now, we always pray for “the babies up in heaven” (I also lost one at 16 weeks). Although they don’t need our prayers at this point, it just reinforces to our kids that they have at least one sibling, born in Heaven.

God knows whether that test indicated life or just hormones, and He will treat your prayers accordingly.

 

[Truly_Beloved]

I hate not knowing, but I’m pretty sure I was. I didn’t expect this level of hurt and confusion. If for some reason I was not, I hope any of my prayers can go toward my cousin’s child. Her baby recently died the day they were going to induce labor.

:hug1:

I would be inclined to think that you did lose a baby, based on the feelings of sorrow you’re having, in addition to the doctors thinking you probably suffered an early miscarriage. Prayers for you, Hon.

 

[former_Catholic]

Thank you for responding. I hate not knowing, but I’m pretty sure I was. I didn’t expect this level of hurt and confusion. If for some reason I was not, I hope any of my prayers can go toward my cousin’s child. Her baby recently died the day they were going to induce labor.

Contrary to popular belief, giving birth to a child does not make one a mother.
Be a mother and look around you and you will see that your world is absolutely full of children… and that they are all *your *children, every last one of them.
What is there to grieve?
Be a mother and pray for them, every last one of them, every one you pass by on the street… every single one as though they were your own child…
because when you are a mother they ARE your own. They are God’s children, and they are all your own children too when you are a mother, every single last one of them. They are all our children. They are the future.
Be a mother.
Be a mother and build a sandcastle for them, a playground for them, a school for them, a community for them, a church for them, a responsible business for them, a nation for them, a world for them…
a world that is a fit and safe place for children!

I was a mother long before I ever had children of my own. Long before I ever married they called me “Mom.” I took my shovel and bucket and an armload of plastic dustpans (they make the best sand shovels) and built sandcastles the size of volkswagons for them and every child on the beach came to help… and learn how to cut stairs and walls and battlements with plastic dustpans… and join in the joy of life…
as their parents stood and watched and said 'my God, she’s the Pied Piper."
No Pied Piper. I was a mother. Long before I ever had children I was a mother.
Giving birth to a child does not make one a mother.
Be a mother.
Be a mother and know that no child is ever truly your “own” …but all God’s birds born to fly…
that none may you “own” but all are your own… and God’s…
and your heart will be forever full… of endless prayer and work and joy and lmusic and laughter and hope for the future…
for the children.