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I’m confused here. I don’t know if this question is going to make me look crazy or what but it’s been bothering me for awhile and I want to ask it. I have been reading alot on this forum and it has made me examine my life but their is one question I still need answered but it’s a strange one. My question is is it ok to think of things that aren’t happening? I’m not talking about sexual things at all because I know those are bad. What I’m talking about is just general things. I’m a big fan of figure skating. Is it wrong of me to think of figure skating even though I can’t step on the ice because I would fall? I don’t even think of it that much. Maybe 10 minutes a day. Is this bad? I’m 18 and am almost done with high school and I wonder if this has to do with anxiety or something. Every night when I examine my conscience this never pops in my head unlike the yelling at my mom and friends stuff. I’m just confused and feel like I may be overanylzing things? Am I being scrupulous?

Thanks for your help,
Jenny
 
Sounds like you answered your question scrupulosity. Go does not want us to hate life. Everyone should have a dream or a get away for moments of peace in their lives. Yes of course the ultimate peace is God but iceskating by no means is a bad thing and dreams can be good.
 
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midnightstar17:
I’m confused here. I don’t know if this question is going to make me look crazy or what but it’s been bothering me for awhile and I want to ask it. I have been reading alot on this forum and it has made me examine my life but their is one question I still need answered but it’s a strange one. My question is is it ok to think of things that aren’t happening? I’m not talking about sexual things at all because I know those are bad. What I’m talking about is just general things. I’m a big fan of figure skating. Is it wrong of me to think of figure skating even though I can’t step on the ice because I would fall? I don’t even think of it that much. Maybe 10 minutes a day. Is this bad? I’m 18 and am almost done with high school and I wonder if this has to do with anxiety or something. Every night when I examine my conscience this never pops in my head unlike the yelling at my mom and friends stuff. I’m just confused and feel like I may be overanylzing things? Am I being scrupulous?

Thanks for your help,
Jenny
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Could you talk a little more about what it is that’s bothering you?
 
Thinking about the future, or dreams for things you would like to do or what ever isn’t wrong as long as it doesn’t go on to something sinful. I don’t see why thinking obout something that you enjoy, that is harmless spiritually, would be wrong.
 
Like I said I thought the post was going to be seen as a little stupid. When I first came to these forums I thought I was strong in my faith. Since I’ve been on them I feel so disconcerted. I keep finding faults in myself and feel terrible. This is probably an extreme. Specifically I guess I could use the example of me thinking of myself winning a competition instead of someone else. I don’t know, maybe it’s time I left the forums for awhile.

Jenny
 
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Like I said I thought the post was going to be seen as a little stupid. When I first came to these forums I thought I was strong in my faith. Since I’ve been on them I feel so disconcerted. I keep finding faults in myself and feel terrible. This is probably an extreme. Specifically I guess I could use the example of me thinking of myself winning a competition instead of someone else. I don’t know, maybe it’s time I left the forums for awhile.

Jenny
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A lot of what you read here is people’s opinion. Even if they sound like they know what they’re talkiing about they may not. Take it all with a grain of salt and don’t take it too seriously.

You’re young and going through a normal developmental process of finding yourself- or figuring out “who you are” and so forth. This is natural and a healthy part of human development.

Don’t let anything make you feel bad about yourself. Nothing is worth that, and nothing is gained from it. We all have shortcomings, we all make mistakes, and nobody’s perfect. Life is a learning process. Learn from your mistakes and then they’re not mistakes- they become learning experiences.

Focus on your positives- your good qualities, the good you have done and continue to do. Remember you’re inherently a wonderful person and don’t be afraid to let yourself shine. Follow your heart, and your dreams, and love God and others to the best of your ability.

God Bless.
 
Thank you for your kind words ReformedCatholic. It’s nice to have a kind, reassuring voice out there. I still don’t have all the answers but I’m trying to figure it out.

Thanks
Jenny
 
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midnightstar17:
Thank you for your kind words ReformedCatholic. It’s nice to have a kind, reassuring voice out there. I still don’t have all the answers but I’m trying to figure it out.

Thanks
Jenny
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You’re welcome. If I can be of service to you, please feel free to email me privately.

God Bless.
 
It would be hard to come up with a situation where thinking about figure skating would be sinful. Even if you are thinking that all of your competition falls and leaves you with the perfect opportunity to win, that is not sinful.

The only possibility for sin may be IF you were hoping that they may fall and hurt themselves, or if you were to wish for something bad to happen to them.

I bowl and every week, I hope and pray that the competition bowls horribly so we can win. I do NOT wish for anyone to get hurt but I hope and pray that they can’t hit the broad side of a barn on this particular evening.
 
Dreaming is great, it helps you with stress reduction, and God wants you to enjoy the good things of life.

God loves you child and your heart for Him, and I thank God we have teenagers that actually are concerned about such things.
 
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