Consecration On Hold

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What, if anything, could a divorced man look into in regards to living a consecrated life?

I am under the impression that one must first successfully complete the annulment process, correct?

Assuming that’s successful, I’d like to seek a religious vocation.

However, the wait would be long (and the outcome would be uncertain, of course) and I am seeking to dedicate my life in consecration in the mean time, while the annulment process is under way. But I’m guessing the church could not accommodate that.

So, as it stands, I’m simply a “divorced catholic” seeking an annulment. This catholic has been experiencing a very emotional discernment, though is fully aware of the impediments ahead.

Obviously, in compliance with the church’s teachings on divorce, I am living a chaste life (whether or not consecration can take place).

What can be recommended by any of you in regards to possible orders or groups that someone such as myself can affiliate with while waiting for the annulment process to complete (and hopefully be granted)?

Blessings,

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First of all, get a spiritual director. They could advise you better on what’s available.

Frequent the sacraments along with eucharistic adoration.

Never forget Mary and the angels–esp. your Guardian Angel. There are saints in Heaven with your personality. Ask Jesus and Mary to lead you to them.

While praying over this, “Ite ad Joseph” came to me. Go to St. Joseph. Commend these entire discernment and annulment processes to him.

HTH.

Blessings,
Cloisters
 
First, know that our prayers are with you. I also want to encourage you to take time. You do not mention how long you have been separated/divorced. Any order will likely want some assurance that you can live a celibate life and that this is not simply a function of your current emotional situation. I do not say this to demean you in any way. Most divorcing people I ever talked to said they would never-never remarry. Guess what, they did.

The advice to get a Spiritual Director is good. Next I would also suggest finding an order whose charism you feel called to. Many of these will have 3rd Orders attached to them (e.g. Carmelite & Dominicans). Third orders have married and single therefore you can be a Third Order Carmelite and decide to marry again. You could become acquainted with the order and possibly even join the Third order as you personally discern. In any case, most situations are relational. That is to say that the more contact they have with you, the more a relationship develops, trust and so on.

Good luck. In the meantime, as Cloisters said, do not forget Mary. In fact, you may want to even consecrate yourself to her as you discern. I would recommend you look at the Militia of the Immaculata site and consider the consecration. For many people it can be powerful. consecration.com/

For, links to religious orders see the sticky above on this forum (there are bunches). One order I thought looked interesting was the Alexian Brothers youtube.com/watch?v=YTPIiFI23wo
 
I’ve got a friend that is in the same case. He got married, a long time ago. He wanted to be a priest. Of course, he cannot. So, he decided to become a deacon. He’s very glad, now. He found his way. He can’t become a priest unless his wife dies. It won’t happen until a very long time… so, he thanks God for having given him this way.

Hope you’ll find yours too!
Keep on praying! 👍
 

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Bebekoualy said:
I’ve got a friend that is in the same case. He got married, a long time ago. He wanted to be a priest. Of course, he cannot. So, he decided to become a deacon. He’s very glad, now. He found his way. He can’t become a priest unless his wife dies. It won’t happen until a very long time… so, he thanks God for having given him this way.

Hope you’ll find yours too!
Keep on praying! 👍
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Very promising and kind support from all of you.

The spiritual director is “on duty”…and doing a fine job (considering the mess he must deal with).

When things seem impossible, I turn to prayer, faith, and absolute trust in God (there has to be a reason for this powerful desire, even if it’s within such an unfit vessel as myself).

I also believe in accessing knowledge and options from available resources and considering the possibilities.

I am experiencing quite a powerful, yet fully rational state and am also quite happy, content, and extremely positive. It’s the uncertainty of my status and the waiting that are difficult.

Why me, when there are so many others more desirable?

Thanks so much for the positive (name removed by moderator)ut and encouragement.

Blessings,
 
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