Constantly moving around? Can't get situated at a parish

[ellam25]

Hi everyone, so my husband and I are trying to get married in the church and have our daughter baptized…however it looks like we may be moving again because of husband’s job, right when I started getting comfortable at our new parish. We had just moved because of husband’s job, now it’s back again. What should we do? If I stay at this parish, I will be driving more than an hour to go back to it, or we can start at a new parish all over again, but the chances of us having to move again are quite high. Not sure what to do and feeling rather ridiculous. I feel like I’m backstabbing the priests and the church as well, don’t ask me why lol.

 

[Xantippe]

Hi everyone, so my husband and I are trying to get married in the church and have our daughter baptized…however it looks like we may be moving again because of husband’s job, right when I started getting comfortable at our new parish. We had just moved because of husband’s job, now it’s back again. What should we do? If I stay at this parish, I will be driving more than an hour to go back to it, or we can start at a new parish all over again, but the chances of us having to move again are quite high. Not sure what to do and feeling rather ridiculous. I feel like I’m backstabbing the priests and the church as well, don’t ask me why lol.

How close are you to being able to get married in the church and do the baptism?

If it’s only a couple of months, it might be worthwhile to keep commuting. If it’s six months, I wouldn’t do it.

But, then it depends how long you’re going to be at the new location…

 

[pianistclare]

Go forward with the Baptism. Any priest will understand that you are moving. Happens all the time.

 

[Usige]

You can always talk to the pastor at both the old and new parish to do a sort of hand off if you would (might be other delegates you’ve been working with). Really the main reason I have seen for parishes wanting to establish some “history” with a parish is to avoid people who only darken the door of a Church to get married or to get their kids baptized. They want people to understand that the sacraments aren’t just social events or traditional family events, but are part of the life in the Church.

 

[PaulfromIowa]

Don’t worry, pastors are used to people moving. Always remember that the Church is One. Wherever you attend Mass and receive the sacraments, you will be part of the same Church that Christ began two thousand years ago.