Contraceptives choices in the past

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Not sure if this has been beaten into the ground, but. I need a question answered, because it makes me wonder.

Let say a woman has her tubes tied because of medical advice from a doctor that states another child could take her life or cause a child to be deformed because of medication she has to take to live. Let say she does this…not wanting to get into a situation where she might die.

Latter, her and her husband regrets this, but what is done is done, and try to live happily with one child with God. Though both wish they had decided differntly and secretly wish their lovemaking might overcome the contraception (it can happen) and concieve one more.

But this doesn’t happen. Since the chances are that the lovemaking is no longer to create life, the lovemaking is mostly for pleasure and consumating thier love, is there sin in this, as their is a contraceptive technique in play preventing more children, though for them it is a unreversable poor decision made at a vunerable time? (comming off a bad and scary pregnancy)
 
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Timidandunsure:
Not sure if this has been beaten into the ground, but. I need a question answered, because it makes me wonder.

Let say a woman has her tubes tied because of medical advice from a doctor that states another child could take her life or cause a child to be deformed because of medication she has to take to live. Let say she does this…not wanting to get into a situation where she might die.

Latter, her and her husband regrets this, but what is done is done, and try to live happily with one child with God. Though both wish they had decided differntly and secretly wish their lovemaking might overcome the contraception (it can happen) and concieve one more.

But this doesn’t happen. Since the chances are that the lovemaking is no longer to create life, the lovemaking is mostly for pleasure and consumating thier love, is there sin in this, as their is a contraceptive technique in play preventing more children, though for them it is a unreversable poor decision made at a vunerable time? (comming off a bad and scary pregnancy)
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T&U, I personally don’t see anything wrong with this. The decision was made, for better or for worse, when the health and life of the mother were in question. The act of making love is that, as well as for procreation. Now, please keep in mind that there are a lot of people on these forums who disagree with me, so please take what I say w/a grain of salt. I’m a lifetime Catholic, but I’m a bit of a liberal/progressive, whatever you want to call it, and I realize that some of my views don’t jibe w/the Church doctrines. Your best best might be the “apologist” forum on this one (of course, if you do that, you probably won’t get replies from people like me!)

Peace, and best wishes…
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Consult with a good and holy priest, then follow his advice. There are too many variables that it wouldn’t be prudent for this matter to be tackled outsuide of spritual counseling.

Just my $3.27
 
II think the Church teaches that as long as she is truly repentant, and goes to confession, the sin is forgiven. They aren’t sinning because they continue to have sex as long as, like in your example, they no longer want to contracept.
 
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BlindSheep:
II think the Church teaches that as long as she is truly repentant, and goes to confession, they aren’t sinning.
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Although in some instances they may be asked to look into reversing the procedure.
 
I can’t quote the source so you will have to verify my answer for yourself…

From all I remember reading on these forums, all that is required is a sincere confession about the sterilization.

Of course, if you wish, you could have the procedure reversed… but the Church does not require this as the procedure could be risky and is not guaranteed.

God knows your heart. He knows if you sincerely regret the decision and if you would welcome a new life if that was to be.

So don’t worry. Enjoy making love. Enjoy your marriage. Enjoy your child. Rejoice in our forgiving Lord.

Malia
 
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Trelow:
Although in some instances they may be asked to look into reversing the procedure.
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Yes, if it’s possible and they can afford it.
 
This is not sinful. I would think the current lovemaking is merely remote material cooperation with the circumstances of the previous sin of sterilization. However, because part of the temptation of sterilization is that it is a one-sin-fixes-all-inconvenience proposition, I agree that, if it is not a heavy burden, reversing the sterilization might be appropriate and certainly meritworthy. It seems many sterilize while young and then regret it when they are closer to the end of the fertile years anyway, so this is not often possible.
 
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CanonAlberic:
I’m a lifetime Catholic, but I’m a bit of a liberal/progressive, whatever you want to call it, and I realize that some of my views don’t jibe w/the Church doctrines.
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And that doesn’t strike you as cause for concern?
 
The sin was sterilization, which can indeed be forgiven.

Relations with your spouse are not sinful, the same goes for married relations when one or both are no longer fertile.
 
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