Convincing a friend to not choose abortion: Help!

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I met a friend of my roommate for the first time tonight before they were going to the bars. The friend casually mentions she might be pregnant (she’s getting tested tomorrow), but if she is, says she’ll get an abortion. What can I do to convince her otherwise? I am only a junior in college but I would offer to foster or adopt the child if someone can convince her not to have an abortion. What is the best way I can approach her about it without sending her in the wrong direction?

Please if you can include her in your prayers I would be very grateful as well. Thank you.
 
Just tell her what you said here - that you’re distressed to hear this & you yourself would adopt the baby or help her find someone who will (a married couple or family for example) if she’ll consider carrying the baby for nine months. Maybe offer to help her get support DURING the pregnancy, too. First trimester of pregnancy can be a doozy, with nausea and vomiting for three long months. Women really need support during that time! With no husband and possibly not much help from family or friends, I’m sure it’s very overwhelming for a single student with a full calendar!! Can you get some students together (maybe from a pro life group?) to really “adopt” this girl in practical ways like cooking for her (which can be so nauseating when the smell of food just makes you sick to your stomach), etc? When a friend of mine was pregnant in college (although not considering an abortion) one thing she told me was also hard was that she lost all her friends who just liked to drink on the weekends. I didnt drink so I made sure we went shopping together, saw some movies, etc sans alcohol. She appreciated the support. Even her boyfriend was out at bars & leaving her alone to socialize now that she was pregnant.

Hope some of those ideas help!
 
Thank you, those ideas helped a lot! I am a part of my campus pro-life group and was going to reach out to them today to talk as well.
 
It sounds like you dont know her enough to really have an impact on this difficult situation. You can pray for her. But I’d stay out of what could be a very personal situation for her. She needs support and to feel safe.
 
Exactly what I said. The poster does not have a strong relationship with the girl so she should support her and pray for her.
 
Support what? If she is pregnant and chooses to kill her baby, should the OP support that?
 
Then the woman should be supported. I believe Rachel’s vineyard is a Catholic support group.
 
The OP is looking for advice here on how to support the young woman–that is, support her in choosing life, which is admirable. I do not think she should bluntly point out that abortion is butchering a human being, but I disliked the suggestion that the OP shouldn’t even try to persuade her friend not to choose abortion.
 
Ah, that’s an organization for women who have repented of their abortion, isn’t it? If you therefore mean supporting the young woman by encouraging her to choose life, or afterward supporting her repentance of her abortion, then I apologize for the misunderstanding and heartily agree.
 
Hugs. I wish you the best. That’s very good of you to reach out to her and try and make a difference. 💙
 
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Please if you can include her in your prayers I would be very grateful as well. Thank you.
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What? I said “I disliked the suggestion that the OP shouldn’t even try to persuade her friend not to choose abortion.” Never did I state that anyone was saying “Yes, go have an abortion.” Please do not misquote me.
 
I’ve been doing sidewalk counseling since 1990 with 38 babies saved. The mother you describe sounds like someone who is totally ignorant about the reality of abortion and devoid of any maternal feeling. Therefore I would emphasize the harm that abortion can do to her. You must know about this harm in order to convey the information to her, so find out what it is. There are many sources on the Web which explain the damage that abortion does to the mother.

Do not be shy about your approach or hesitant in your manner; it is literally a matter of life and death. God has put this obligation on you and you can’t get out of it. Whatever you do or say to her is good, the only mistake you can make is not to try to change her mind. Have courage.

When I retired from this work I wrote up something I thought would be useful to others, called “Sidewalk Counseling.” Look for it at jeromelackner dot com.
 
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I just heard back from roommate last night that her friend finally took a test and is not pregnant. Thank you everyone for your help, suggestions and prayers though, I’m afraid I will probably need them at some point in the future for other students or friends. God bless!
 
I looked on Rachel’s vinyard website. There is no mention that one has to repent to be helped by them.
 
I was suggesting that since the poster has no real relationship with the woman she probably wont be successful in finding magic words to stop her. So prayer, and a willingness to offer support when and if the woman would ever need it in the future. I mean that’s probably more Christian than screaming murderer at her.
 
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