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TeenageConvert
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I’m addictred to masturbating…I can’t go a day without it, I’ve been like this for months, but I always feel horrible afterwards, please pray that I can overcome this lust!!
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EmeraldWings
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well, i will pray for you, and i will also give you some very useful advice,
first of all, there is always something that triggers your temptation, whether it be going online, watching tv, reading a book, letting your imagination go freely, etc.
those, if they cause you temptation, are called the occasions of sin, or in your case, near occasion of sin, which is something that must be avoided if they are things you know will lead you into mortal sin,
so, your first step would be, either remove the source of temptation altogether, or as soon as you recognize a temptation, remove yourself from it, either by just getting up and going into a room where there are people, or by going out for a walk, or whatever it takes to just get away from it, because it is important to flee from temptations of the flesh, and not to simply try and fight them like you do with other temptations.
also, you must pray for help, for example, when you are tempted to impure thoughts(which lead to impure actions) as soon as you realize the temptation, pray - “Precious blood of Jesus Christ, wash over me, protect me from the wickedness and snares of the devil”, then after that “Jesus, Mary, Joseph, Saint Maria Goretti, Guardian Angel, help me.” and after that you must try and think of something else, something you enjoy that is not immoral, doesn’t matter what it is as long as it adverts your attention.
by praying first, you will receive special help from heaven, and by trying to advert your thoughts, you willingly accept Gods grace and resist the temptation, because remember, as long as you are fighting it and not giving in, then you are not sinning,
another helpful prayer is, praying 3 Hail Marys every morning and night for the intentions of purity and holiness, that was a practice of Saint Maria Goretti, and by it i have also overcome many of my own sins, so i highly recommend it for you.
it is important that you always say a prayer at the moment of temptation, never neglect that, and never think that you can do it on your own, even if you think you have overcome this sin, never be off your guard, because as soon as you let your guard down, the devil will move in and attack with more fierceness than he did before,
never toy with this sin, never give it a moment of your attention,
of course that is something you must work on, but believe me, the more you try, the more it will just become automatic,
another helpful tip for nighttime temptations, sleep with a blessed crucifix, a Saint Benedict crucifix would be particularly good, and by that, you may also be protected from impure dreams, which temp you the morning after,
and get some holy oil to bless yourself with, when you cross your forehead with holy oil, and pray “In the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Ghost” with the intention of forgetting impure images, then that will help you to forget them,
you can also add your own little prayer with the holy oil, such as the one i mentioned before “Precious blood of Jesus Christ, wash over me, protect me from the wickedness and snares of the devil.”
and then of course confession is the most helpful means of overcoming this sin,
i know it’s hard going to confession every week and sometimes even more, but believe me, it will help you overcome this sin faster than anything else,
sometimes it’s harder to do when you can’t find a good priest who will be patient with you and actually believe that masturbation is a mortal sin(because there are alot like that right now) so if you have a good confessor or if you find one, stick with him to the best of your ability, because a good confessor really makes all the difference,
by confession you will receive the necessary graces you need to overcome your sins, so don’t disregard it, and even if you go to confession without this mortal sin to confess, still confess your temptation to it, because to confessing the temptations themselves also gives us strength over them,
spiritual reading is another great help, particularly the lives of the saints, or their writings,
or if you can’t buy alot of books, then maybe you will like these instead -
audiosancto.org/
alabamacatholicresources.com/index.html
well, i would recommend listening to those even if you can get books :]
and a few other things that will help, praying the rosary daily, going to Eucharistic adoration, spending meditative alone time with God every day(atleast a half hour), speaking with a good priest or spiritual director regularly, fasting, mortifying your senses(these two in particular will help you very much)…
well, the real key to conquering this and all of your sins is, just try to live in imitation of Jesus, we are all called to live and grow in a life of holiness, and that is all Christians without exception,
but even still, be patient with yourself, this is not something you will obtain overnight, you will learn and grow at a gradual pace, and so just don’t worry yourself to much, do what you can, no more no less, always ask God for help in all things, and don’t let your feelings of fear or shame get in the way,
ok, i think that’s all, so i hope this helps,
i will be praying for you, take care.
first of all, there is always something that triggers your temptation, whether it be going online, watching tv, reading a book, letting your imagination go freely, etc.
those, if they cause you temptation, are called the occasions of sin, or in your case, near occasion of sin, which is something that must be avoided if they are things you know will lead you into mortal sin,
so, your first step would be, either remove the source of temptation altogether, or as soon as you recognize a temptation, remove yourself from it, either by just getting up and going into a room where there are people, or by going out for a walk, or whatever it takes to just get away from it, because it is important to flee from temptations of the flesh, and not to simply try and fight them like you do with other temptations.
also, you must pray for help, for example, when you are tempted to impure thoughts(which lead to impure actions) as soon as you realize the temptation, pray - “Precious blood of Jesus Christ, wash over me, protect me from the wickedness and snares of the devil”, then after that “Jesus, Mary, Joseph, Saint Maria Goretti, Guardian Angel, help me.” and after that you must try and think of something else, something you enjoy that is not immoral, doesn’t matter what it is as long as it adverts your attention.
by praying first, you will receive special help from heaven, and by trying to advert your thoughts, you willingly accept Gods grace and resist the temptation, because remember, as long as you are fighting it and not giving in, then you are not sinning,
another helpful prayer is, praying 3 Hail Marys every morning and night for the intentions of purity and holiness, that was a practice of Saint Maria Goretti, and by it i have also overcome many of my own sins, so i highly recommend it for you.
it is important that you always say a prayer at the moment of temptation, never neglect that, and never think that you can do it on your own, even if you think you have overcome this sin, never be off your guard, because as soon as you let your guard down, the devil will move in and attack with more fierceness than he did before,
never toy with this sin, never give it a moment of your attention,
of course that is something you must work on, but believe me, the more you try, the more it will just become automatic,
another helpful tip for nighttime temptations, sleep with a blessed crucifix, a Saint Benedict crucifix would be particularly good, and by that, you may also be protected from impure dreams, which temp you the morning after,
and get some holy oil to bless yourself with, when you cross your forehead with holy oil, and pray “In the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Ghost” with the intention of forgetting impure images, then that will help you to forget them,
you can also add your own little prayer with the holy oil, such as the one i mentioned before “Precious blood of Jesus Christ, wash over me, protect me from the wickedness and snares of the devil.”
and then of course confession is the most helpful means of overcoming this sin,
i know it’s hard going to confession every week and sometimes even more, but believe me, it will help you overcome this sin faster than anything else,
sometimes it’s harder to do when you can’t find a good priest who will be patient with you and actually believe that masturbation is a mortal sin(because there are alot like that right now) so if you have a good confessor or if you find one, stick with him to the best of your ability, because a good confessor really makes all the difference,
by confession you will receive the necessary graces you need to overcome your sins, so don’t disregard it, and even if you go to confession without this mortal sin to confess, still confess your temptation to it, because to confessing the temptations themselves also gives us strength over them,
spiritual reading is another great help, particularly the lives of the saints, or their writings,
or if you can’t buy alot of books, then maybe you will like these instead -
audiosancto.org/
alabamacatholicresources.com/index.html
well, i would recommend listening to those even if you can get books :]
and a few other things that will help, praying the rosary daily, going to Eucharistic adoration, spending meditative alone time with God every day(atleast a half hour), speaking with a good priest or spiritual director regularly, fasting, mortifying your senses(these two in particular will help you very much)…
well, the real key to conquering this and all of your sins is, just try to live in imitation of Jesus, we are all called to live and grow in a life of holiness, and that is all Christians without exception,
but even still, be patient with yourself, this is not something you will obtain overnight, you will learn and grow at a gradual pace, and so just don’t worry yourself to much, do what you can, no more no less, always ask God for help in all things, and don’t let your feelings of fear or shame get in the way,
ok, i think that’s all, so i hope this helps,
i will be praying for you, take care.
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JackVk
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I used to have the same problem. If you are ever tempted to lust, think of Psalm 84: “How lovely is your dwelling place, Lord Mighty God.”
Also, have you read the Q&A on the Chastity tab here? Jason Evert really helped me kick the habit.
Confession and the Rosary send Satan running. I strongly suggest those as well.
St. Michael the Archangel, Defend us in battle.
Be our defense against the wickedness and snares of the devil.
May God rebuke him, we humbly pray, and do you, O prince of the heavenly host,
By the Power of God, thrust into hell Satan and all the evil spirits
who prowl about the world seeking the ruin of souls. Amen.
Also, have you read the Q&A on the Chastity tab here? Jason Evert really helped me kick the habit.
Confession and the Rosary send Satan running. I strongly suggest those as well.
St. Michael the Archangel, Defend us in battle.
Be our defense against the wickedness and snares of the devil.
May God rebuke him, we humbly pray, and do you, O prince of the heavenly host,
By the Power of God, thrust into hell Satan and all the evil spirits
who prowl about the world seeking the ruin of souls. Amen.
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JaredR
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Do whatever it takes to stop. Every time you masturbate, you reinforce the habit and increase the likelihood that it will happen again. Overcoming masturbation should be your primary goal, because as long as this chain is around your heart, you aren’t free to grow in Christ. I will pray for your efforts. 
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Medic_Mark
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I struggle with it too. Some days are better than others.
My priest pretty much scoffs whenever I bring it up: “I really don’t think you’re going to go to hell for jerkin’ off” he says. It is one of the reasons why I am going to find a new confessor.
My priest pretty much scoffs whenever I bring it up: “I really don’t think you’re going to go to hell for jerkin’ off” he says. It is one of the reasons why I am going to find a new confessor.
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melchesidechpio
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Praying
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blue
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Praying for you, your not alone.
Our Father, who art in heaven, hallowed be thy name, thy kingdom come, thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread, and forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us, and lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil. Amen.
Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee. Blessed art thou among women, and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus. Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now, and at the hour of our death. Amen.
Glory be to the Father, and to the Son, and to the Holy Spirit, as it was in the beginning, is now, and ever shall be, world without end. Amen.
Our Father, who art in heaven, hallowed be thy name, thy kingdom come, thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread, and forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us, and lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil. Amen.
Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee. Blessed art thou among women, and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus. Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now, and at the hour of our death. Amen.
Glory be to the Father, and to the Son, and to the Holy Spirit, as it was in the beginning, is now, and ever shall be, world without end. Amen.
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ESMDHokie77
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Praying for you!
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TeenageConvert
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Thanks, to all of you, bjt especially to EmarldWings(I think that was ur username?) Ur awesome XP
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BendedKnee
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Lust is one of the easiest sins to fall into and one of the hardest to escape.
I have found that meditating on the Passion of Our Lord is a great help. The Chaplet of Divine Mercy esp., and the Rosary are my weapons against this temptation.
I’ll pray for you.
God Bless.
I have found that meditating on the Passion of Our Lord is a great help. The Chaplet of Divine Mercy esp., and the Rosary are my weapons against this temptation.
I’ll pray for you.
God Bless.
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TeenageConvert
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Yeah, I love the rosary and the chaplet of Divine Mercy, I used to pray ther rosary every day, but for some reason I fell out of that habit…don’t know why, but I’m going to start doing it again
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Damase
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Frequent confession is the answer. Hold nothing back. And if you don’t already, try to get a spiritual director (ask your parish priest; if he is unavailable, ask him for a reference). You need someone to hold you accountable.
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TeenageConvert
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I can’t go to confession yet, I’m still in the process of converting and I’m not even been baptized yet.
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asia53
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Dear Teenage Convert,
You’ve already gotten some excellent advice. I’d like to add one more thing. It’s something you can do now, even before you finish the process of conversion.
I’ve listened to a talk on CD given by Father Lance Harlow. He advised a man with your problem to get a Brown Scapular, have it blessed, and wear it. Fr. Harlow said it helped the man.
Give your problem to Our Lady, ask for her help. She’ll help you!
God bless you!
Asia
You’ve already gotten some excellent advice. I’d like to add one more thing. It’s something you can do now, even before you finish the process of conversion.
I’ve listened to a talk on CD given by Father Lance Harlow. He advised a man with your problem to get a Brown Scapular, have it blessed, and wear it. Fr. Harlow said it helped the man.
Give your problem to Our Lady, ask for her help. She’ll help you!
God bless you!
Asia
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TeenageConvert
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Thanks!XD Sounds great, but uhh where could I find a brown scapular?Dear Teenage Convert,
You’ve already gotten some excellent advice. I’d like to add one more thing. It’s something you can do now, even before you finish the process of conversion.
I’ve listened to a talk on CD given by Father Lance Harlow. He advised a man with your problem to get a Brown Scapular, have it blessed, and wear it. Fr. Harlow said it helped the man.
Give your problem to Our Lady, ask for her help. She’ll help you!
God bless you!
Asia
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yosephdaviyd
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Hey, I will pray for you. It’s tough, but you’re not alone - just invite God into your temptations to help you through them.
I wrote this article about masturbation that may help you: davidlgray.info/aevilmasturbation.html
God Bless!
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Damase
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Try this website: freebrownscapular.com/order_page.html. Also, many religious stores carry them; some parishes give them away in their narthexes. I could send you one if you’re comfortable sending me your address (which I personally might be wary to do on the Internet—but if you’re comfortable doing that, PM me the address, don’t include your name).
Also, you will have to have a priest enroll you in the scapular; any priest, religious or secular, can do this.
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