Cross of Christ Custom for Marriage

[Tedster]

How cool is this tradition? I wonder if we did this in America, what would happen? I think I know!!!

Cross of Christ Custom for Marriage

Something to consider.

 

[Kristina_P]

Tedster:

How cool is this tradition? I wonder if we did this in America, what would happen? I think I know!!!

Cross of Christ Custom for Marriage

Something to consider.

What a lovely tradition!

 

[Karin]

Tedster:

How cool is this tradition? I wonder if we did this in America, what would happen? I think I know!!!

So what your saying is that people married here in the States in the Church do not realize that there are 3 people (God, husband & wife) in their marriage?
Perhaps then the Church here in the USA needs to revamp their Wedding Mass/ Pre-Cana (sp?) teaching as I thought it was pretty evident in all Catholic weddings that I have gone too.
Let me also mention that it is a nice tradition…but then I thought the Wedding Mass that was celebrated here in the States was also a nice tradition

 

[Tedster]

Karin:

So what your saying is that people married here in the States in the Church do not realize that there are 3 people (God, husband & wife) in their marriage?
If you read my post, no where did I say that. I said that if we did this (incorporated this tradition) or at least some form of it, I wonder what that would do to our divorce rates… that’s ALL.

 

[Karin]

Tedster:

If you read my post, no where did I say that. I said that if we did this (incorporated this tradition) or at least some form of it, I wonder what that would do to our divorce rates… that’s ALL.

**That is what I thought you meant…but I have learned that sometimes asking for clarification on comments/posts people make is needed. **

 

[Lexee15]

Karin:

So what your saying is that people married here in the States in the Church do not realize that there are 3 people (God, husband & wife) in their marriage?

I’m sure that’s not what he’s saying…but many, many people don’t know this and not only in the States.

Perhaps then the Church here in the USA needs to revamp their Wedding Mass/ Pre-Cana (sp?) teaching

YESSSSSS!!! I have been saying that for awhile…maybe not here but to family and friends…I have girlfriends who are considering marriage with their boyfriends, I beg them to talk to a priest about what marriage is long before pre-cana…pre-cana is not enough…especially for people who have no idea what their faith teaches…people need to be told that thier marriage is a Cross especially in this instant gratification, selfish, divorce-happy society we live in!!!

Let me also mention that it is a nice tradition…but then I thought the Wedding Mass that was celebrated here in the States was also a nice tradition

Yes, it is nice, but the emphasis is put on the wedding, wedding party, reception, etc., and not on the significance of the marriage, just watch Bridezilla .

 

[Karin]

Lexee15:

YESSSSSS!!! I have been saying that for awhile…maybe not here but to family and friends…I have girlfriends who are considering marriage with their boyfriends, I beg them to talk to a priest about what marriage is long before pre-cana…pre-cana is not enough…especially for people who have no idea what their faith teaches…people need to be told that thier marriage is a Cross especially in this instant gratification, selfish, divorce-happy society we live in!!!
But is it not supposed to be taught or reinforced in Pre-cana?

Yes, it is nice, but the emphasis is put on the wedding, wedding party, reception, etc., and not on the significance of the marriage, just watch Bridezilla .
really sounds like the Church needs to re-think how the marry people and prepare them for this sacrament and they perhaps need to rethink the idea that perhaps not everyone that comes to them to get married is READY to get married! I think that Priests need to use their discretion (in preforming marriage ceremonies) as they are allowed to do A BIT MORE OFTEN!

 

[Agricola]

That is one of the most beautiful traditions that I have ever heard of. It encourages exactly the kind of relationship that my girlfriend and I hope to have when we marry. It reminds me a great deal of Fulton Sheen’s book Three to Get Married.

God bless,

Agricola

 

[stbruno]

I read this story years and years ago in a book. I have to tell you, as a deacon, I have shared this custom in my wedding homilies. In fact, as part of the marriage prep I do with the couples, we incorporate this notion to the engaged couple. For some couples, it sinks in but for many I wonder if it even is literally heard. All I can do as a minister is plant seeds and hope some will land on fertile soil.

If you notice, we call our prep “marriage” prep not "wedding day"prep. And yes, I agree many couples think that the church only requires you to be prepared for the wedding liturgy. Sad but true.

 

[rayne89]

My church happens to be a Slovak Catholic church and we did this at our convalidation ceremony. A couple differences, the priest provided the cross so we didn’t have to bring one. We both kissed the cross but at the end of the convalidation ceremony we kissed each other too. So it wasn’t kissing the cross instead of each other at our ceremony, we kissed the cross and each other (at seperate parts of the ceremony.)

I loved it, I thought it was beautiful.