Cruel treatment of faithful LDS member

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I havent read his entire blog.

Did this start at the bishop’s level or at the stake level coming out of the gate?
It started with the bishop when the blogger asked about doing the baby blessing at home with his wife holding the baby on Skype so grandparents could witness. The bishop initially didn’t have a problem with it but wanted to ask the stake president. It went downhill from there. Unfortunately, sometime late last night or today, the blogger removed the posts that have all the details.
 
It started with the bishop when the blogger asked about doing the baby blessing at home with his wife holding the baby on Skype so grandparents could witness. The bishop initially didn’t have a problem with it but wanted to ask the stake president. It went downhill from there. Unfortunately, sometime late last night or today, the blogger removed the posts that have all the details.
And the stake president had a problem with that? 🤷

Wow.
 
It’s very sad that he’s apparently been made to feel like he can’t talk openly about what’s happening.

So sad.
 
It’s very sad that he’s apparently been made to feel like he can’t talk openly about what’s happening.

So sad.
We really have no way of knowing, one way or the other, what is going on.

Perhaps he and his wife decided it was best not to put it out on the internet.
 
LDS leadership has no formal training in pastoral care, this is true.
Honestly Mormons have an entirely lay leadership. They have no real seminaries just classes for high-schoolers called seminaries.

The bishops are chosen from wealthy business men. To use a Christian scripture it is the “blind leading the blind”.
 
We really have no way of knowing, one way or the other, what is going on.

Perhaps he and his wife decided it was best not to put it out on the internet.
Understandable when your fellow church members facebook friend you and then show your private facebook page to the bishop and stake president.

While he has taken down his blog post you can still read it here, for now anyway I’d guess he’ll be deleting these posts shortly. I was right yesterday about his removing the blog so if you want to read his story you’d probably better do it now. He posts as the narrator and his first post on page four of the thread basically has what was posted on his blog.
 
The bishops are chosen from wealthy business men.
I had to giggle at this. I’ve had a lot of bishops in 6 different areas in 2 different states. Here’s as far back as I can remember:

Current bishop S. = teaches chemistry at the Air Force academy to cadets.
Bishop T. = Software developer (laid off and unemployed for some of his term)
Bishop F. = Manager at Lockheed Martin - retired during his term

Before that, I was in a ward in a very upscale area. Not sure what the bishop did, but my Elders Quorum President was pretty darn rich.

Bishop before that = Showed up at my door in gas company overalls - he stopped by on his way home from work.
Bishop before that = Small business owner. No clue how wealthy he was.
Bishop before that = Old retired guy - not the best neighborhood, I don’t know what he did before retirement.
Bishop before that = Some sort of handyman/tradesman (also out of work for about half the time he was my bishop)

As a child, I had a bishop who was a German immigrant who came to the US after WWII, and worked for the local newspaper as a proofreader.

Yeah, my church hardly demands material wealth from it’s bishops. Where did you hear otherwise, Andrewstx?
 
The original posts seem to have been deleted. Is this fellow one of those “New Order Mormons”?
 
The original posts seem to have been deleted. Is this fellow one of those “New Order Mormons”?
My understanding of NOM’s is that they know the LDS church is fradulent etc etc…

But they stick around for the sake of their families? Dont want to see riffs?

I could be wrong, though. I dont think they existed, or minimally so if they did, when I was LDS.
 
My understanding of NOM’s is that they know the LDS church is fradulent etc etc…

But they stick around for the sake of their families? Dont want to see riffs?

I could be wrong, though. I dont think they existed, or minimally so if they did, when I was LDS.
That’s a fair characterization of one end of the NOM spectrum. There are others that fall somewhere in between “The Church is absolutely true, Thomas S. Monson is a literal prophet of God who actually sees and hears him, the Book of Mormon is 100% historically accurate” and “Joseph Smith was a fraud”. In any case, NOMs are obviously heterodox with respect to the latitude in belief that the LDS Church allows for. If this gentleman is a NOM and doesn’t believe certain central tenets of Mormonism as his Stake President sees necessary, and he has made such beliefs publicly known, then I’m not really surprised that his Temple Recommend was taken away. It’s analogous to a Catholic claiming that Jesus didn’t really rise from the dead, or that the Eucharist is only symbolic and then being refused communion.
 
That’s a fair characterization of one end of the NOM spectrum. There are others that fall somewhere in between “The Church is absolutely true, Thomas S. Monson is a literal prophet of God who actually sees and hears him, the Book of Mormon is 100% historically accurate” and “Joseph Smith was a fraud”. In any case, NOMs are obviously heterodox with respect to the latitude in belief that the LDS Church allows for. If this gentleman is a NOM and doesn’t believe certain central tenets of Mormonism as his Stake President sees necessary, and he has made such beliefs publicly known, then I’m not really surprised that his Temple Recommend was taken away. It’s analogous to a Catholic claiming that Jesus didn’t really rise from the dead, or that the Eucharist is only symbolic and then being refused communion.
He is not a new order Mormon, you can read his posts over on the Mormon Dialogue and Discussion board. Whether he’s a new order Mormon or not doesn’t take away from the cruel (and against the handbook) way he was treated in regards to his recommend. His bishop and stake president didn’t have the guts to tell him to his face, or at the very least over the phone. It is also still not clear why his wife’s recommend was blocked. Very shabby behavior for a religious leader.
 
That’s a fair characterization of one end of the NOM spectrum. There are others that fall somewhere in between “The Church is absolutely true, Thomas S. Monson is a literal prophet of God who actually sees and hears him, the Book of Mormon is 100% historically accurate” and “Joseph Smith was a fraud”. In any case, NOMs are obviously heterodox with respect to the latitude in belief that the LDS Church allows for. If this gentleman is a NOM and doesn’t believe certain central tenets of Mormonism as his Stake President sees necessary, and he has made such beliefs publicly known, then I’m not really surprised that his Temple Recommend was taken away. It’s analogous to a Catholic claiming that Jesus didn’t really rise from the dead, or that the Eucharist is only symbolic and then being refused communion.
As I recall, the main reason he cited that his temple recommend was revoked was because he believed Joseph Smith saw Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ with his spiritual eyes as opposed to his physical eyes. The stake president told him that unless he believed JS saw them with his physical eyes, the man would not get his temple recommend back. Is this distinction enough to revoke a temple recommend? Honestly, I don’t see how it could because he still believes in the first vision.

There may very well have been some doctrinal issues discussed between the two that were not cited in the blog postings that warranted a revocation. We just don’t know. We don’t even know why his wife’s recommend was also revoked even though the bishop and stake president never met or spoke with her.

Needless to say, even if the revocation was appropriate, it was done in a very trashy, uncharitable way. The bishop doesn’t even appear to have followed church policy when doing it. There was no need for the bishop to embarrass this couple in the way.
 
He is not a new order Mormon, you can read his posts over on the Mormon Dialogue and Discussion board. Whether he’s a new order Mormon or not doesn’t take away from the cruel (and against the handbook) way he was treated in regards to his recommend. His bishop and stake president didn’t have the guts to tell him to his face, or at the very least over the phone. It is also still not clear why his wife’s recommend was blocked. Very shabby behavior for a religious leader.
I don’t know anything about the way in which the recommend was revoked (I went to read his posts but he has since deleted them, and I assumed this thread was about his losing the recommend, not how the revocation was handled). I’ve caught up a bit with this thread and I’m inferring that his Bishop (or possibly Stake President) revoked his temple recommend without first telling him, thus leaving him in the embarrassing situation of finding out while he was in the Temple lobby trying to go inside? If so, that’s quite shameful.
 
As I recall, the main reason he cited that his temple recommend was revoked was because he believed Joseph Smith saw Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ with his spiritual eyes as opposed to his physical eyes. The stake president told him that unless he believed JS saw them with his physical eyes, the man would not get his temple recommend back. Is this distinction enough to revoke a temple recommend? Honestly, I don’t see how it could because he still believes in the first vision.
I believe it is. It is “dogma” of the LDS Church that Joseph Smith actually saw Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ. A Mormon who says he believes Joseph Smith saw God with his “spiritual eyes” is keeping a very tenuous view of the “First Vision”. It would be like a Catholic who says the Apostles only beheld the risen Christ “with their spiritual eyes”. They could tap dance around the issue all they like claiming that its a legitimate reinterpretation of the Resurrection, but I highly doubt the Catholic Church would stand for it (nor should She).
There may very well have been some doctrinal issues discussed between the two that were not cited in the blog postings that warranted a revocation. We just don’t know. We don’t even know why his wife’s recommend was also revoked even though the bishop and stake president never met or spoke with her.
I really wish his original post was up as I never had a chance to read it, so I’m a little lost in this discussion. Assuming what you’re saying is true (about his wife having a recommend taken away without the Bishop or SP even talking with her), that’s just plain cowardice.
Needless to say, even if the revocation was appropriate, it was done in a very trashy, uncharitable way. The bishop doesn’t even appear to have followed church policy when doing it. There was no need for the bishop to embarrass this couple in the way.
Absolutely agree.
 
I don’t know anything about the way in which the recommend was revoked (I went to read his posts but he has since deleted them, and I assumed this thread was about his losing the recommend, not how the revocation was handled). I’ve caught up a bit with this thread and I’m inferring that his Bishop (or possibly Stake President) revoked his temple recommend without first telling him, thus leaving him in the embarrassing situation of finding out while he was in the Temple lobby trying to go inside? If so, that’s quite shameful.
That’s what my OP was about, though looking at it I think I worded it poorly. Like I said the LDS church is perfectly within it’s rights to control access to the temple. It’s the manner in which it was done, without informing them and letting them find out on their temple trip, that was so egregious. Not to mention suspending his wife’s since she had said nothing to the bishop through the whole thing.

Just a note, he has made posts on Mormon Discussions (it’s not a board he likes to post on but he was made aware of the discussion there) in one of his later posts he says his bishop suspended it because he didn’t obey the bishops advice against holding a “father’s blessing” at home. The posts on that board are still there and I posted a link in a previous post it you care to read what he wrote.
 
That’s what my OP was about, though looking at it I think I worded it poorly. Like I said the LDS church is perfectly within it’s rights to control access to the temple. It’s the manner in which it was done, without informing them and letting them find out on their temple trip, that was so egregious. Not to mention suspending his wife’s since she had said nothing to the bishop through the whole thing.

Just a note, he has made posts on Mormon Discussions (it’s not a board he likes to post on but he was made aware of the discussion there) in one of his later posts he says his bishop suspended it because he didn’t obey the bishops advice against holding a “father’s blessing” at home. The posts on that board are still there and I posted a link in a previous post it you care to read what he wrote.
Thanks for pointing it out, but Mormon Discussions isn’t really my thing. I just don’t have the cognitive dissonance it takes to be a NOM. I know the LDS Church isn’t true and that Joseph Smith wasn’t a prophet. There really isn’t much left for me to read about it. 😉

I’m a little shocked about the alleged reasoning for having his recommend taken away. LDS priesthood holders are perfectly within their rights to give their children blessings at home (or in the car, at school, in nature, wherever!). There sounds like there’s a little more to this story.
 
Thanks for pointing it out, but Mormon Discussions isn’t really my thing. I just don’t have the cognitive dissonance it takes to be a NOM. I know the LDS Church isn’t true and that Joseph Smith wasn’t a prophet. There really isn’t much left for me to read about it. 😉

I’m a little shocked about the alleged reasoning for having his recommend taken away. LDS priesthood holders are perfectly within their rights to give their children blessings at home (or in the car, at school, in nature, wherever!). There sounds like there’s a little more to this story.
Like I said you can read his side of the story his entire blog post (the one that he removed from my original link) by clicking here
Here is the first follow up post
Here is the second follow up post
Here is the third follow up post
These links will take you directly to his posts, like I said he is not a NOM (and Mormon Discussion is not a NOM board it’s more of an ex-Mormon board) just a mistreated active LDS who by his third follow up post seems quite despondent and defeated.

Hopefully this is resolved quickly as he and his wife both find comfort at the temple and they’ve had a lot of changes going on, I’m sure they could really use the peace they find there.
 
Hopefully this is resolved quickly as he and his wife both find comfort at the temple and they’ve had a lot of changes going on, I’m sure they could really use the peace they find there.
Well, that is the Mormon mindset. This is a sign of apostasy: an apostate will never be at peace. The Mormon church apparently does everything it can to make sure that happens. Once the apostate gets it together, they’ll know peace.

:rolleyes:
 
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