Cuddles please - need some Catholic family hugs

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So it was my dads funeral today. Most people were lovely but two things really bothered me. One person said, ‘aw you’re an orphan now, like us .’ Another said ‘how’s the house clearing going ? And then asked if her daughter could have our family piano.’ I actually don’t mind her having it but time and place you know ? Also the celebrant was a lady Methodist lay preacher . Basically just another Christian on the same level as you or I. Now I have no issue with that really as my Dad wasn’t Catholic and you get what you get (it’s the UK they just asked for a Methodist minister ) but when she met with us she said out of nowhere ‘I’m not a minister, I don’t have to grovel before a bishop and all that snobbery, we believe in the priesthood of all believers’. She has no way of knowing I’m catholic but I just felt it was rude. Need some hugs from you all please. Had them from people today but you know what I mean.
 
I’m sorry for your loss :cry:
Sometimes death (and weddings) bring out truly bizarre behavior in people.
I’ll remember your family in my prayers.
 
:hugs: So sorry to hear about your dad’s passing ,OP, and for any upset from others .God bless :pray:t2:
 
Thank you everyone :)I love it that this was a nominally Christian funeral but I realise how at home I now feel in RCC. I put a brown scapular in with him in his casket even tho I know he wasn’t a Catholic. I hope my own faith helped him
 
Eternal rest grant unto him, O Lord, and let perpetual light shine upon him. May his soul and the souls of all the faithful departed, through the Mercy of God, rest in peace. Amen.

So sorry about your dad. Since you are Catholic, you can still have a mass said for him. I think the scapular was a very nice touch.

People always say dumb things at funerals. Just ignore them. Don’t even rush to clear away anything including the piano. All things in time. No need to feel pressured to decide everything this minute.
 
Just what @Irishmom2 said. I will pray for his soul and for you at our upcoming Eucharistic Adoration.
 
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Another said ‘how’s the house clearing going ? And then asked if her daughter could have our family piano.
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Ugh. I actually had one of the neighbors last year - the one who hasn’t been able to stay married or keep a girlfriend in the 20+ years my husband and I lived in our neighboring house - make some remark about how I should just “back up a dumpster” to empty out the house. I have been avoiding him ever since. People are just so tone deaf sometimes. I’m sorry.
 
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Great advice…wise! Irishmom
To halogirl - Having as many masses as you want for your beloved father and being at one of the masses is very special. If you actually have time and don’t have to rush to pass items on, then slow down ; but if you have to do things quickly…God will give you the grace and strength needed. Prayers for you and your father.
 
We all need hugs sometimes. Here are some for you:
:hugs::hugs::hugs::hugs:
 
halogirl said:
(it’s the UK they just asked for a Methodist minister ) but when she met with us she said out of nowhere ‘I’m not a minister, I don’t have to grovel before a bishop and all that snobbery, we believe in the priesthood of all believers’.
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HUGS.

And perhaps when you are a bit more settled, it would be a good thing to write a note to her bishop (the United Methodist Church does have bishops!). What she said was cruel and out of line, perhaps she can be coached by her mentors.
 
Oh my, what a day!

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Prayers for you @halogirl. Often in times such as these, people fail miserably with their efforts to offer comfort. A hug speaks volumes - so here is your hug.
 
Prayers and hugs for you @halogirl. @Irishmom2 said it so well.
People really don’t know what to say at funerals. I suggest you just let it all go.
 
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