Current and ex-college students

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In college, how often did you contact your parents just to touch base?

I raised 3 sons alone and worked from home, so we saw a lot of each other through the years. Now they are away at college. The oldest one stays in touch fairly regular, but not the two younger ones. Is college that much fun??

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In college, how often did you contact your parents just to touch base?

I raised 3 sons alone and worked from home, so we saw a lot of each other through the years. Now they are away at college. The oldest one stays in touch fairly regular, but not the two younger ones. Is college that much fun??

call me empty-nester…
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Hi Sue,

I’m probably an exception to the rule but I called my mother every day when I was in college. My mother was an extreme worry wort and would absolutely have a fit if I didn’t touch base with her at the same time every day. The conversation was usually no more than 5 minutes so I didn’t mind it toooooo much, but it would annoy me sometimes to always have to call her. :o
 
Im in college now, and I probably talk to my parents once a day, if that. Sometimes it varies…I like to call my dad sometimes just to let him know Im thinkin about him. Honestly though I love just having my freedom…I try to call though every night, they like it and it makes them feel better when I do.
 
I am in college now and I talk to my parents a couple times a week. I am not much of a phone person. I can’t stand talking on the phone, I don’t have much to say. I would much rather talk to someone face to face. I should call them more.
 
i talk to my dad on the phone about once every week or 2 weeks…depending on the assignment loads…
 
I usually call my mom everynight for 5-10 min, I’m still a first semester freshman, though, so what do I know!
 
When I was a freshman, my mom called just about every day. After my freshman year, I’d talk to her a few times a week. I’d talk to my dad less frequently.
 
When I was in college, I talked to my mom 2-3 times a week- no big deal as we have always been very close. I talked to my dad less often, as he is not a phone person. I think if he’d had email access when I was away at school I would have heard from him more often. I know that’s how he keeps in touch with his brothers and friends. He did occasionally send me letters and cards, and made sure I had a little extra spending money every time I came home. 🙂

Sue- maybe you could try emailing your younger kids? That way they can mail back when they have the time, even if it’s 3 am (since email doesn’t disrupt sleep like a phone ringer).
 
When I started Freshmen year I called my parents every Sunday afternoon. Then I went to study abroad my Sophomore Year and wrote them every week, but only called them at Christmas (Christmas Eve) and then again around Easter. After that, I don’t really recall calling them at all Junior and Senior years, but I must have.
 
When I was in college my parents called each week. It was cheaper to initiate calls on their end. Given that most of the conversations were just chit-chatty, email would work nowadays, with probably a monthly phonecall to hear each other’s voices.
 
When I was in college I talked with my parents at least once a week.
 
I think once a week is a good standard, although every relationship is, of course, different.
 
I have 2 in college and living at school. I talk to my oldest about once a week, and he has only been home once so far this semester, but he is really loaded down.

The youngest is a sophomore who lives in a single room dorm. There is one bath for every two rooms. It’s like a nursing home. No one comes out of their little holes. He’s home every weekend.
 
I’m in college right now. I call my mom when I feel like it. Some weeks, that is just about every day; others, it is maybe once or twice a week. I don’t really have a set routine. I call her when I feel like I need to talk to her or when I feel like she probably would want to talk to me. I can say, though, that I am very busy in college, so I don’t keep in touch with a lot of people as much as I should.
 
I have a son in college he is 19. He calls once a week usually on Sunday after Mass. Sometimes he will miss a week. We also chat often on instant messenger. I will leave him a not on his away message. Or he logs on and says hi.

Dianne
 
When I was in college I called my parents once a week at best. For a while I only had nights free on my cell, and by the time I got out of the library, or work, or a party or the bar it was way too late to call. When I did have free nights and weekends I would call a little more often, but see above things that kept me busy. More often than not I would call and leave a message on the machine saying, Hi I’m not dead or in jail, I’m eating cheerios and grilled cheese at every meal, so if you could send money for groceries that would be fantabulous. I usually got a voicemail back saying Hi we’re not dead or in jail, Eat normal food and the check will be deposited this weekend
 
As an undergrad and even now as a grad student, I call my parents at least once a week on the weekends. Sometimes I only get to talk to one of them depending on what time I call though.

Peace
 
I went to Cleveland State for grad and undergrad while juggling hubby, home, kids, jobs etc. and in general talked to my mom about once a month, my dad less often. Got up to Detroit to see them 3-4 times a year.
 
Wow, don’t I feel odd…I talk to my parents once a month…maybe once every 2 months. My parents never call me…ever. I’ll call them, they’ll tell me they will call in a week, never happens.

When I first moved away, my parents and I didn’t talk for at least 6 months.

I talk to my little sister eveyr day though.
 
There were times in college where I was not living according to the values my parents raised me to appreciate. When I recognized these sins, my shame caused me to disassociated from them to an extent. I rarely spoke with them.

When I started to take my faith more seriously mid-way through college, talking to my parents became that much more important. I spoke with my mom regularly. I would strongly reccomend calling your kids just to talk. Ask them about their social lives, what they do for fun, who they hang out with, and why. They might think its nagging and they might become angry, but be gentle and let them know you ask because you love them and are interested in their lives. In other words, don’t phrase the questions as if you are interrogating them. Express genuine interest in their lives. Showing this type of care and concern can only lead them down the right path.
 
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